What my family and marriage course professor told us at Bible college is that couples that pray together stay together. Also, find a time every night to discuss problems in a civil, respectful way at a table. Do three things every night in this order. Have a time to value each other through compliments/ sincere flirting, perhaps by playing a game, or what's much more intimate, by worshiping God by expressing deep adoration to God with much praise and being thankful for each other and other blessings. By praising God and adoring Him together you will grow a deep bond with God and with each other. This doesn't have to happen all at once, but remember that awkwardness leaves when people realize how precious God sees us and the bond of holy marriage. Dancing or singing in front of each other or with each other would be a wonderful option to consider.
That was the first thing; the second thing is to practice communicating to each other in a truthful, trustworthy, safe, yet gentle, loving way the problems in the marriage. Don't worry about this step because if you do this every night then you can face the problems, head forward, in a loving manor so to prevent small problems from escalating into less manageable problems.
The third thing to do every night is to pray to work them out together and pray in an manipulative way. For an example if the problem you see in your husband is that he is lazy, then the key is to keep yourself from praying something like this: "Dear Lord, we thank you for giving us your word that says we are to work hard as unto You." Or "Dear Lord, I pray for my husband to be a hard worker." (Not saying you would do that, but after addressing a problem in the marriage and praying right afterward it may be easy for the mind to go there.) This is breathing room for each other, to grow closer and change for God on your own path with God. One thing a married couple cannot share is the judgement that God places for the thoughts and deeds of each individual. So let his life be up to him. And be careful not to harbor bitterness against your husband if he is slow to learn goodness. You are held to the same standard for your frailties before God and problems to contribute to the marriage.
God Bless You two. I wish the best.
