I am struggling a lot with sin and temptation

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I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior and I confess my sins to him and ask for forgiveness but sometimes I can go a week with following God and then I end up sinning or my sinful desires take over. I constantly am thinking in my mind and some of the things I think or picture in my head are very disturbing and wrong. Yet, you probably say well don't think about it... I understand that but I can't because sometimes It just comes in my head and It's so hard to not think about it. My worst sin I struggle with the most would be lust and wanting to have sex. I am addicted to masturbation and sometimes If I try to not get into it, I feel like my body is about to shut down. It's as if I need to because I am addicted. Sort of how people are addicted to smoking or drinking... I am this way to watching porn and masturbation and what not. Every time I fall into it, I feel like a monster and that I am not good enough for God. I feel as if I am a very pathetic person. I keep failing. I keep asking Jesus for forgiveness and yet I am not trusting him hard enough in my life. This shows that I am a hypocrite. Seriously, I can be so joyfully happy and in peace with the Lord, and the next week or two once I sin I become addicted to sinning more and more and more. I get depressed, lose my self-control, self-esteem, I thinking evil thoughts, I start hating, I start thinking I am doomed because I used to dwell in a lot of things in the past. I don't know if its my past or my emotions that are driving me to be this way. I used to be apart of occult things, witchcraft, satanism, and other things the bible says not to dwell in. I even tried gambling my soul to the devil and telling him that I hate God and so on. I just wanted power and I wanted earthly pleasures. Now that I am out of that I still think its hard for me to get back to God. I feel as If I committed a horrible act and according to Satanism..... Once you begin, there's no turning back. I am confused and I am scared. I still fear what goes around in my head, this world, and so much more. Perhaps Its the fear also that's taking me back. I just don't understand why I pray to Jesus to help me and I say I am going to repent yet I still have the desires to want to do the sin. I must not be that faithful huh? I must have to much on my mind and I try to be perfect but yet I don't know what to expect. I just want my sex desires and lust to go away. It bothers me so much and I have suffered from this since I was a young kid. I had sex at a very young age with a young girl and yet I am still haunted from my past. I used to be bi and homo but I'll admit God has freed me from that. However, I just need help with my addiction to porn and masturbation and so on. It's as if I want to have sex again and I am not going to stop until I do. This is what my mind tells me. I am so lost and so ashamed of myself. I hear the spirit telling me to stop getting into it but yet I don't obey the spirit and I end up sinning. I am a very sad person.
 
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You are a child of the most high God, nothing can separate you from him. you are free from your past. Some sins are harder to overcome
and take time. Its not how many times we fall, but how many we get up. and keep fighting the good fight of faith. Is seems you are
going through a trial, and thats what purges us and helps us grow stronger and how we learn. Stand on the word of God and keep pushing forward no matter what, it will pass. Forget the past, the lord uses our past to minister to others who may be going through the same thing
or for his glory, he turns it all around. Father thank you for giving him peace and restoration and joy unspeakable, renew him daily
In Jesus name amen
 
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Tanner, what you are feeling is shame... A feeling that you are wrong. Some of this is Godly conviction, some of it is the devil, some of this is your flesh, and some
of this is the result of the world we live in. You must begin to trust the truth of God. It is just a choice. Dig into the word and talk to Godly people around you to help you sort out who you are in Christ.
These sins are not irredeemable and they are not so ghastly that they should ruin everyday for you. We all sin. Addictions are a cycle. To get out of addiction you HAVE to have gracious and truthful accountability. There is a point at the very beginning of the addictive cycle at which you need to reach out. If you do not the farther you progress in that cycle the harder it will be to get out.
 
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Tanner, you've already received sound advice here in the previous two threads from damombomb and Jordache. I would just suggest you see a caring pastor or find a solid Christian to talk with. Accountability will really help you and finding the right person to be accountable to will change your life and give you more stability. God always wants you to recognize when you're sinning and come to Him in humble repentence. I know others are praying and I will commit to pray for your life and ask God to set you free and bring you to the point where you find total satisfaction and joy in Him!
 
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You have urges.
Does this make you a reprobate?
Who made you? Who gave you those urges?
The flesh and the spirit constantly war against each other.
Don't sweat it young man. God knows your desires.
He made you. (The truth is we were made to get married at a young age)
And when you don't have an outlet the urges grow even stronger and morph into perverted dreams.
I know, we know....we've been through it.
Do you realize part of your growing experience is to learn to control those urges? - But you say "Oh, what if I fall?"
If you do, God's grace is sufficient.
He will give you a fare maiden. Until then, spend this time to learn to keep your body under subjection.
If you fall, you fall. But God knows how hard it is, and He will not leave you hanging.
Do you know.....that the hardest thing about falling is getting back up?
You might say - "Why does God allow this?" So you will learn to trust in His grace and not in your own righteousness.
(We've all been there bud, it's part of growing up)
Don't hate yourself because of the racing hormones you have, learn to trust God in spite of them.
He told us to forgive 7 x 70 = 490 times in a day. His Forgiveness and Grace are much more incalculable.
Say,........ infinity.
It's not about your sin, it's about your reliance on Him.
 
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Dear Tanner,

I know that your problem is very troubling but I would like to assure you of one thing. When you accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior, every sin you have committed, or will commit, was forgiven. As long as you keep trying to overcome your addiction, Jesus will walk with you every step of the way. In the gospel of Matthew, He told us, "Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:29-30)

Just keep fighting and God be with you.
 
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Tanner said:
I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior and I confess my sins to him and ask for forgiveness but sometimes I can go a week with following God and then I end up sinning or my sinful desires take over. I constantly am thinking in my mind and some of the things I think or picture in my head are very disturbing and wrong. Yet, you probably say well don't think about it... I understand that but I can't because sometimes It just comes in my head and It's so hard to not think about it. My worst sin I struggle with the most would be lust and wanting to have sex. I am addicted to masturbation and sometimes If I try to not get into it, I feel like my body is about to shut down. It's as if I need to because I am addicted. Sort of how people are addicted to smoking or drinking... I am this way to watching porn and masturbation and what not. Every time I fall into it, I feel like a monster and that I am not good enough for God. I feel as if I am a very pathetic person. I keep failing. I keep asking Jesus for forgiveness and yet I am not trusting him hard enough in my life. This shows that I am a hypocrite. Seriously, I can be so joyfully happy and in peace with the Lord, and the next week or two once I sin I become addicted to sinning more and more and more. I get depressed, lose my self-control, self-esteem, I thinking evil thoughts, I start hating, I start thinking I am doomed because I used to dwell in a lot of things in the past. I don't know if its my past or my emotions that are driving me to be this way. I used to be apart of occult things, witchcraft, satanism, and other things the bible says not to dwell in. I even tried gambling my soul to the devil and telling him that I hate God and so on. I just wanted power and I wanted earthly pleasures. Now that I am out of that I still think its hard for me to get back to God. I feel as If I committed a horrible act and according to Satanism..... Once you begin, there's no turning back. I am confused and I am scared. I still fear what goes around in my head, this world, and so much more. Perhaps Its the fear also that's taking me back. I just don't understand why I pray to Jesus to help me and I say I am going to repent yet I still have the desires to want to do the sin. I must not be that faithful huh? I must have to much on my mind and I try to be perfect but yet I don't know what to expect. I just want my sex desires and lust to go away. It bothers me so much and I have suffered from this since I was a young kid. I had sex at a very young age with a young girl and yet I am still haunted from my past. I used to be bi and homo but I'll admit God has freed me from that. However, I just need help with my addiction to porn and masturbation and so on. It's as if I want to have sex again and I am not going to stop until I do. This is what my mind tells me. I am so lost and so ashamed of myself. I hear the spirit telling me to stop getting into it but yet I don't obey the spirit and I end up sinning. I am a very sad person.
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Dear Brother, the devil works hardest on those who could cause him a great deal of damage if they were to become totally an instrument of God. God must have a pretty important job and life waiting for you as soon as you allow Him to lead you instead of giving in to Satan temtations.

I would suugest that you put a content rating program on your computer that will not allow you to view pornographic sites. It is right there in exployer (make up a long password and burn it. Yes, pornography is a terrible addiction. Neuroligists have even determined that it sets up its own pleasure pathway in your brain. However, keep coming back to Jesus, He will defeat the devil if you let Him. Pray for faith Brother.

I pray that our Lord Jesus will cast out all evil, negative, doubhting spirits with-in you, grant you overwhelming faith in Him, keep you from temptation, and fill you with peace, tranquality and joy.In Jesus name, Amen.

Keep coming back to Jesus !!!
Love in our Lord and Savior
bro gary
 
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I will be praying you will repent of your disobedience, and seek the mercy of God, He is patiently waiting for you to repent, stop sinning and seek His mercy, repentance isn't confessing your willful acts of disobedience to God, its coming broken before the mercy seat, stoping th sin, hoping God will relent and forgive you. Read Jonah CH 3, in context.

You cannot continue in unrepentant sin and enter the kingdom, and salvation isn't a covering for your continued disobedience toward God, its freedom from the bondages of sin, but you must do your part, and God will do His, otherwise you will be struggling IN your flesh forever!

Repent, crucify your flesh with Christ, and seek His mercy while it may be found!


The kingdom of Heaven is taken by violence!​



Mat 11:12 And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of Heaven is taken by violence, and the violent take it by force.​

Jesus boldly proclaimed who the greatest preacher of all times was, and it was John the Baptist! He preached repentance, and prove your repentance by your deeds, another words, the sin stops in repentance,(cutting it off at the root) you die with Christ, and crucify your flesh as commanded to enter the kingdom with great diligence, passion, and violent force, which is a far cry from the Billy Graham just confess, then receive Jesus into your heart!
Jesus made it clear, as well as John the Baptist, and many other followers of Christ, to take the kingdom of God by force, and the violence that comes from striving to enter, breaking through all the false teachings, that say you can get saved IN your vile sins, Jesus will clean you up, just believe, and you are in!
Does this sound like what Jesus and John the Baptist preached throughout their ministry? Does this sound close to taking the kingdom by violence and force!
I compare this to an army, coming against insurmountable odds, facing the giant so to speak, where the army is far outnumbered, but not defeated less they give up, look for the easy way out, as most professing Christians do today.
When you want something bad enough you will usually do whatever it takes to achieve it, as we see all the great sacrifices athletes make to be the best, as they put all their time and energy in becoming an elite in their chosen sport, but this is short lives, the great force and violence these athletes put fourth are going for nothing but short lived worldly gain and fortune.
Just think what would happen if everyone who professes Christ, put this kind of force, violence, and diligence into rightly dividing the word of God, standing fast against the false sin gospel, instead of defending it, and striving to enter the narrow gate by great force, and violently putting to death their old man, which can only come from real brokenness, clearing away all wrong doing, that only a truly repentant heart can accomplish!
So get ready to fight and strive by force to enter the narrow gate, repent of all vile sins, putting the old man to death once and for all, then stand fast against the forces of evil, the false teachers, and the apostate ministries that proclaim the easy done deal gospel, promising you the easy formula to success, which is a lie.
People spend their whole life perusing their own interests and achievements, usually putting all they have into reaching these goals, but neglected the weightier matters of eternal life. They fail to put their time and energy into the truth that transforms a poor helpless sinner, into a valiant warrior for Christ, where their efforts are not in physical prowess, but in spiritual power and violent force, where the power comes from the mighty word of God, not man, not man’s opinions, and especially not from the great reformation that has left the true gospel according to godliness in shambles, leaving many in bondage to an easy salvation void of any real works of repentance, devotion, commitment and force to enter the narrow gate.
Jesus made the way, He stated that the only way is through Him and many will reject this, and His free gift, but it can only come to the one who forsakes their sins in repentance first, as they seek Him with great force and violence against the wiles of the devil, living a life in obedient faith, not perfection, but open and dedicated to growing more and more in wisdom, love, peace and godliness as the spirit reveals their faults and imperfections, but the big sins of the flesh must be put to death, and kept dead by violence if need be.
This is the way to the kingdom, it’s not an easy path, but like the athlete mentioned above, It’s well worth the final prize which is far better than a mere trophy, endorsements, a huge pay check, that will soon fade away and, add up to nothing but vanity and eternal ruin!
What will a man give in exchange for their soul?
Luke 13:24 Strive to enter in at the narrow gate. For I say to you, many will seek to enter in and shall not be able.
Tommy
 
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You can go to all the counseling, self help groups, accountability groups,put a filter on your computer,etc,, but alls your doing is putting a small bandage on a huge cancer, which is self willed, selfish rebellion toward God and His commands.

You have free will and ability to stop your adultery against God, don't let people tell you He feels sorry for you while you continue to watch porn, and worship at the alter of Satan, I know this is harsh I was an addict for over 30 years, was told I was saved even though I continued in this vile chosen behavior, by well intentioned but greatly deceived professing Christians, who didn't have the guts or know how to tell me to repent or perish!

Who do you love more your flesh of Jesus Christ?

You can repent and stop, your eternal destiny depends on it, as long as you have breath God is very patient, and long suffering not wanting you to perish IN you sins, but is calling all men everywhere to repent, seek His mercy, and go and sin no more!
 
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Tanner said:
I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior and I confess my sins to him and ask for forgiveness but sometimes I can go a week with following God and then I end up sinning or my sinful desires take over. I constantly am thinking in my mind and some of the things I think or picture in my head are very disturbing and wrong. Yet, you probably say well don't think about it... I understand that but I can't because sometimes It just comes in my head and It's so hard to not think about it. My worst sin I struggle with the most would be lust and wanting to have sex. I am addicted to masturbation and sometimes If I try to not get into it, I feel like my body is about to shut down. It's as if I need to because I am addicted. Sort of how people are addicted to smoking or drinking... I am this way to watching porn and masturbation and what not. Every time I fall into it, I feel like a monster and that I am not good enough for God. I feel as if I am a very pathetic person. I keep failing. I keep asking Jesus for forgiveness and yet I am not trusting him hard enough in my life. This shows that I am a hypocrite. Seriously, I can be so joyfully happy and in peace with the Lord, and the next week or two once I sin I become addicted to sinning more and more and more. I get depressed, lose my self-control, self-esteem, I thinking evil thoughts, I start hating, I start thinking I am doomed because I used to dwell in a lot of things in the past. I don't know if its my past or my emotions that are driving me to be this way. I used to be apart of occult things, witchcraft, satanism, and other things the bible says not to dwell in. I even tried gambling my soul to the devil and telling him that I hate God and so on. I just wanted power and I wanted earthly pleasures. Now that I am out of that I still think its hard for me to get back to God. I feel as If I committed a horrible act and according to Satanism..... Once you begin, there's no turning back. I am confused and I am scared. I still fear what goes around in my head, this world, and so much more. Perhaps Its the fear also that's taking me back. I just don't understand why I pray to Jesus to help me and I say I am going to repent yet I still have the desires to want to do the sin. I must not be that faithful huh? I must have to much on my mind and I try to be perfect but yet I don't know what to expect. I just want my sex desires and lust to go away. It bothers me so much and I have suffered from this since I was a young kid. I had sex at a very young age with a young girl and yet I am still haunted from my past. I used to be bi and homo but I'll admit God has freed me from that. However, I just need help with my addiction to porn and masturbation and so on. It's as if I want to have sex again and I am not going to stop until I do. This is what my mind tells me. I am so lost and so ashamed of myself. I hear the spirit telling me to stop getting into it but yet I don't obey the spirit and I end up sinning. I am a very sad person.
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Now don't you worry. There's no need to be ashamed of yourself, just believe that you can do it, and that God is there with you! If you believe that, you can overcome anything, no matter how many times you've tried before.

Now...



How about a hug?
 
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Tanner said:
I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior and I confess my sins to him and ask for forgiveness but sometimes I can go a week with following God and then I end up sinning or my sinful desires take over. I constantly am thinking in my mind and some of the things I think or picture in my head are very disturbing and wrong. Yet, you probably say well don't think about it... I understand that but I can't because sometimes It just comes in my head and It's so hard to not think about it. My worst sin I struggle with the most would be lust and wanting to have sex. I am addicted to masturbation and sometimes If I try to not get into it, I feel like my body is about to shut down. It's as if I need to because I am addicted. Sort of how people are addicted to smoking or drinking... I am this way to watching porn and masturbation and what not. Every time I fall into it, I feel like a monster and that I am not good enough for God. I feel as if I am a very pathetic person. I keep failing. I keep asking Jesus for forgiveness and yet I am not trusting him hard enough in my life. This shows that I am a hypocrite. Seriously, I can be so joyfully happy and in peace with the Lord, and the next week or two once I sin I become addicted to sinning more and more and more. I get depressed, lose my self-control, self-esteem, I thinking evil thoughts, I start hating, I start thinking I am doomed because I used to dwell in a lot of things in the past. I don't know if its my past or my emotions that are driving me to be this way. I used to be apart of occult things, witchcraft, satanism, and other things the bible says not to dwell in. I even tried gambling my soul to the devil and telling him that I hate God and so on. I just wanted power and I wanted earthly pleasures. Now that I am out of that I still think its hard for me to get back to God. I feel as If I committed a horrible act and according to Satanism..... Once you begin, there's no turning back. I am confused and I am scared. I still fear what goes around in my head, this world, and so much more. Perhaps Its the fear also that's taking me back. I just don't understand why I pray to Jesus to help me and I say I am going to repent yet I still have the desires to want to do the sin. I must not be that faithful huh? I must have to much on my mind and I try to be perfect but yet I don't know what to expect. I just want my sex desires and lust to go away. It bothers me so much and I have suffered from this since I was a young kid. I had sex at a very young age with a young girl and yet I am still haunted from my past. I used to be bi and homo but I'll admit God has freed me from that. However, I just need help with my addiction to porn and masturbation and so on. It's as if I want to have sex again and I am not going to stop until I do. This is what my mind tells me. I am so lost and so ashamed of myself. I hear the spirit telling me to stop getting into it but yet I don't obey the spirit and I end up sinning. I am a very sad person.
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hello there friend I just wanted to tell you that everything you are going through will change as long as you do have the self control...you have asked GOD for your forgiveness and he hears you loudly and clearly and is also not ignoring you at all, but now it's time for you to behave like you are sincere about asking for your forgiveness by not acting out in those ways, I know it's difficult when you have those terrible feelings of lust within yourself but that is just satan trying his hardest to keep you away from GOD'S light and you CANNOT allow satan's evil force to win you over, just think about it man, you managed to dispose of your previous satanic personality and your previous feelings of alternative life styles you got over those issues with the LORD'S provided assistance and now it's time for you to use the same holy tactics to find the light of GOD at the end of this tunnel of lust-- you can do it! just imagine how much better you feel after overpowering those lustful feelings when the temtpation comes along because the more you give in means the more you empower those despicable nasty thoughts. Also remember everything that you have in your life that's motivating you to not perform those vile acts whether your motivation might be your friends or family, or even things like childhood memories and how you recall that you were not raised to behave like that, however, there are also MANY teenage guys that go through the disgusting stage of self pleasuring and as we all know...it is natural to have the desire for sex but at the same time remember how GOD wishes for us to conserve our virginities until holy matrimony takes place. But again though just remember all of the trails that you have already been through in your life and think of how GOD has helped you conquer those aspects of your life. If you feel any time that you may want to talk to me personally about your issues that you don't mind posting up here then feel free to message me or post a reply------- All things possible through CHRIST who strengthens me. May GOD be with you.
 
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Tanner, you've already received sound advice here in the previous two threads from damombomb and Jordache. I would just suggest you see a caring pastor or find a solid Christian to talk with. Accountability will really help you and finding the right person to be accountable to will change your life and give you more stability. God always wants you to recognize when you're sinning and come to Him in humble repentence. I know others are praying and I will commit to pray for your life and ask God to set you free and bring you to the point where you find total satisfaction and joy in Him!
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i agree with this..albeit it must be noted..accountability with men only..no females..i have been called legalistic for saying this..i do not care, it may take sometime as many christian men do not want accountability..keep asking..keep seeking..do not give up..find some bros and be deliberate to share with them and they you..that you can ask them to keep a tab on you, that may even mean you nudge them again once in a while and say, hey remember we both agreed to keep a tab on each other bro..nothing like a guy looking at you in the face and in love, not in judgement keeping you accountable..its hard to find, and use wisdom..as i have tried this before with guys who used what i said to them in confidence against me..one to badmouth me and discourage others to fellowship with me..and another to judge me, either way..i learned from those times to be more cautious..id study guys in your church, if you can find a mens group thats ideal too..thats what i am currently seeking for..may God keep you sustain you..strengthen you and help you be holy..
1 thessalonians 4,read it..i struggle too as man...and as a bro who has reaped what he has sowed.you do not want to sow to the flesh..actively seek out a man..do not let the devil discourage you, you keep on..do not give up..somebody out there will answer it just takes time unfortunately..but you keep on seeking and knocking until you find a man who is mature and christian and willing to keeping you accountable.
 
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Hi Dear

I am suggesting a way to you to counterattack the devil.Just read Romans Chapter 6 when tempted, when you get these thoughts and tel me the results.Suddenly those thought s vanish.
Just try and tel me.Also keep the bible near the computer so that u can read wen tempted

Tc
 
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Tanner

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Flutteraritypiejackspark said:
Now don't you worry. There's no need to be ashamed of yourself, just believe that you can do it, and that God is there with you! If you believe that, you can overcome anything, no matter how many times you've tried before.

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How about a hug?
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Lol, you just made me laugh.
 
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Tanner said:
I feel as If I committed a horrible act and according to Satanism..... Once you begin, there's no turning back.
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That's just a lie from the enemy. There have been many former satanists who believed in that same lie, but they're now set free and walking with the Lord. Almighty God has set you free, and you belong to Him. I am glad you are seeking help. I recommend that you find a mentor at your church, someone who can help you. Spend some time listening to worship music at home.

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1 thessalonians 4 and Romans 6..... I will keep to those two chapters and I will read them.
 
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god will love you more and more and grow in you more and more..... the more you turn your back on sinful desires the more you will grow bro be strong bro and bless your heart for finding the courage to talk about it for everything you say is helping people to find strength to gods will to protect the weak minded.

do not give up bro stay and forget about those who want to rebuke you that is not gods will you are only young bro and your on the right path
 
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