That's OK. I agreed with your 'rebuke' in the post that you mentioned, in that I should have used the word 'influenced' instead of 'guided'. I didn't say anything at that time out of respect for the account holder's concern that she had wished to move on past the disagreement.
As for the rest of my intent about challenging her, and the approach I took in the wording I used and that I approached her privately so I wouldn't embarrass her in public, that was fine. However, Instead of her being concerned about the problem I raised, she became indignant, and went public with her indignation. As soon as she did that, she opened herself to public scrutiny and broader challenge. She could have left her complaint in private or reported the discussion to Admins.
In my opinion, she had anger in her heart and the evil one was using that to rile her up. You can see that happening in some other discussions.
I did try to smooth out the contention between us by saying how lovely her new profile photo was, and that I hoped she would stay on Christian Chat. She accepted that praise and wish for her, and I noticed she had commented on other unrelated forums after that incident, so it seemed she was ok and had moved on.
I'm not saying that my communication with her hadn't influenced her decision to leave, but there may well have been other reasons she has left, and her account removed. Maybe Admin can chip in with a reason for her leaving CC.
I'm always open to criticism, and don't believe I am right in all of my assessments and judgements. I do take stock of what I am about to say in any discussion before I post it, usually editing it many times to make sure I'm on topic and careful not to cause unnecessary hurt or conflict. But I realise that's still a WIP for me.
Shalom 🙂
