I Just Scolded Two Teenagers

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gb9

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a while back, I was walking into my local Walmart, and these 2 young guys came out the door down the way from the one I was going into, cussing, taking God's name in vain loudly. I thought about saying something to them, but did not. I regret NOT saying anything.

way to go Utah, dude you did a good thing!!
 
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gb9 said:
a while back, I was walking into my local Walmart, and these 2 young guys came out the door down the way from the one I was going into, cussing, taking God's name in vain loudly. I thought about saying something to them, but did not. I regret NOT saying anything.

way to go Utah, dude you did a good thing!!
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We have to pick and choose our battles, my brother, and when we choose to take a stand, obviously how we conduct ourselves makes a difference as to whether or not we will be heard. No matter how long ago that was, keep those guys lifted in prayer and be confident God will touch their hearts in a wonderful, redeeming way. Its all good!
 
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Utah said:
Two high school students were walking down the sidewalk and they walked passed a blind man and didn't move aside for him. The blind man literally moved out of their way. Then 30 seconds later they walked passed an elderly couple and the woman had to move out of their way.

I walked up to them and asked them if they were crazy and informed them of what they just did. They apologized and said they were looking down at the ground and didn't realize what they did. I saw what happened and they were not looking down at the ground. I told them they were better than that then walked away. I never raised my voice but I put a little fear in them and now I feel bad.
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Don't feel too bad. It often amazes me how rare manners are in public these days. Half the time people don't even say thank you when you hold the door open for them anymore.
 
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Utah said:
Two high school students were walking down the sidewalk and they walked passed a blind man and didn't move aside for him. The blind man literally moved out of their way. Then 30 seconds later they walked passed an elderly couple and the woman had to move out of their way.

I walked up to them and asked them if they were crazy and informed them of what they just did. They apologized and said they were looking down at the ground and didn't realize what they did. I saw what happened and they were not looking down at the ground. I told them they were better than that then walked away. I never raised my voice but I put a little fear in them and now I feel bad.
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Why would you feel bad? Obviously they are not being properly taught manners. Without people teaching them they will never know. And you stepped up to teach in a respectful manner! I'm proud of you! Great job!
 
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Well, as a teenager, I'd say if I were one of those teens, (please God, I would never do such a thing!) I'd be very surprised, horribly embarrassed and most dreadfully grateful! There's nothing wrong with what you told these kids and if they're not grateful they have an empty space in their heads where respect should be.
 
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Just ask any teacher here in California, and you will hear the kids are 100% different than they were even 20 years ago. Some teachers will not teach middle school anymore. The 6th to 9th graders are the worst they say.

And most of them spend more of their time trying to discipline the kids instead of teaching.

Visit enough homes and you will also see a lack of discipline. Are parents afraid of their children? Afraid of not being their "friend" anymore if they come down hard? Or feeling guilty because of divorce, etc. and not wanting to rock the boat in any way? Or going through so much themselves they have no energy left?

It is sad to see the breakdown in the homes where discipline should begin.
 
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Utah said:
Two high school students were walking down the sidewalk and they walked passed a blind man and didn't move aside for him. The blind man literally moved out of their way. Then 30 seconds later they walked passed an elderly couple and the woman had to move out of their way.

I walked up to them and asked them if they were crazy and informed them of what they just did. They apologized and said they were looking down at the ground and didn't realize what they did. I saw what happened and they were not looking down at the ground. I told them they were better than that then walked away. I never raised my voice but I put a little fear in them and now I feel bad.
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It's sad, that the youth of today don't have any more respect than they do. I think what you did was just fine, in my day adults had no qualms about physically grabbing someone elses kid by the arm and giving them a good talking to, but then too everybody knew everybody in the neighborhood.
 
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It's sad, that the youth of today don't have any more respect than they do. I think what you did was just fine, in my day adults had no qualms about physically grabbing someone elses kid by the arm and giving them a good talking to, but then too everybody knew everybody in the neighborhood.
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Yeah, maybe don't try that today lol. Of course, you don't have to grab a kid or be reprimanding them to get in trouble, I knew a guy who was sitting, peacefully reading his Bible in the mall, and a kid came up and started asking him about it, so this guy was sharing the gospel. The kid's dad came up and started chewing this guy out...and went so far as to try and punch him, at which point the guy who had been reading his bible (who happens to have a black-belt) neatly immobilize his attacker. I think he threw him...but I don't remember!
 
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You can fix dumb, and you can fix scared, but you can not fix stupid, which is what all this is. My generation is stupid.
 
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Utah said:
Two high school students were walking down the sidewalk and they walked passed a blind man and didn't move aside for him. The blind man literally moved out of their way. Then 30 seconds later they walked passed an elderly couple and the woman had to move out of their way.

I walked up to them and asked them if they were crazy and informed them of what they just did. They apologized and said they were looking down at the ground and didn't realize what they did. I saw what happened and they were not looking down at the ground. I told them they were better than that then walked away. I never raised my voice but I put a little fear in them and now I feel bad.
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A story you'll appreciate. Hubby has balancing issues. He can lose his balance easily, and if I'm not there to grab his hand so he gets a quick reset on what's up and what's down, he does fall. Because of this, he has come close to falling because other people jam their shopping carts right in front of him as he's walking, or rush in front of him, just to stop and gab, or try to squeeze between him and another person as they try to rush through a moving crowd. But, hubby is also a big guy! (6' 1" and in the mid 200's range for weight.)

So, one weekend we were taking in the sights on South St. ("Where do all the hippies meet? South Street, South Street" fame.) On weekends, it's always crowded on the sidewalks. We were going east, and a group of seven young folks were going west. (South Street was named that when it was the southernmost street in Philly. Philly has grown much since, so it's in Center City now.) The sidewalk was wide enough that 3-4 people could walk side-by-side, so I was already walking behind hubby. Next to us was the front of a store. The seven kids walked four together and then behind them was three together. They were coming at us (and everyone else walking our way) in a strut so everyone was rushing to get out of their way.

We had no place to go except maybe walk through that wall to our right. So, hubby knew what would happen if he did what he did. He would stumble. Either I'd catch him or not.

He shoulder slammed the one closest to us pushing by. Much like a lineman would shoulder slam and opponent on the field. There was no doubt she would hit him as she passed unless he smashed himself against the front of that store, so he evened it up. And sure enough, he stumbled and I had to rush and catch him, just as she yelled in false-surprise to get the guys with her to address her "injustice." They all turned around to glare at us, but when hubby is stumbling he is also entirely disoriented, so he looked it. What they saw was a 60 year old man and his wife trying to keep him from falling. So did everyone else.

Suddenly they couldn't play the victims, so she just rubbed her shoulder and moped when the male friends wouldn't fight for her indignity. Many have caused hubby to fall out of their self-absorbed carelessness. That was the only time he got the upper hand. lol

Moral of the story: Watch out for those who look helpless. Sometimes we ain't. :)
 
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On the other hand, one of the people helping hubby in the VA hospital seemed mighty young to be working in a hospital. He brings in hubby's feeding bag, restocks the disposable gloves, and washes hubby's arm when a needle made him bleed.

Last weekend was Valentine's Day, so there are many people dropping by different patients' rooms to give T-shirts and blankets. (Hubby met the mascots for our Phillies and Eagles on Tuesday. He's quite excited to meet the Phanatic. lol) Today this young man had the pleasure of introducing his whole high school class (the ones who gave hubby the long sleeve T-shirt) to people he helps almost every day. A salute to the vets for Valentine's Day. Nice kids. They exist. They're just not annoying to notice.
 
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Colt45Bullet said:
You can fix dumb, and you can fix scared, but you can not fix stupid, which is what all this is. My generation is stupid.
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Except for the few who can still see... like you!
 
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Colt45Bullet said:
You can fix dumb, and you can fix scared, but you can not fix stupid, which is what all this is. My generation is stupid.
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Your generation is just like every other generation. 10% really nice people, 10% full-on creeps, and the other 80% are between the two groups. Everyone wants us to believe only the loud are worth noticing. Usually the quiet ones are worth noticing. The loud ones are repetitive.
 
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Maybe they should be charged with disorderly conduct and let them sit in jail for a few days
 
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Your generation is just like every other generation. 10% really nice people, 10% full-on creeps, and the other 80% are between the two groups. Everyone wants us to believe only the loud are worth noticing. Usually the quiet ones are worth noticing. The loud ones are repetitive.
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This has proven to be true, generation after generation.
 
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Utah said:
Two high school students were walking down the sidewalk and they walked passed a blind man and didn't move aside for him. The blind man literally moved out of their way. Then 30 seconds later they walked passed an elderly couple and the woman had to move out of their way.

I walked up to them and asked them if they were crazy and informed them of what they just did. They apologized and said they were looking down at the ground and didn't realize what they did. I saw what happened and they were not looking down at the ground. I told them they were better than that then walked away. I never raised my voice but I put a little fear in them and now I feel bad.
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You shouldnt feel a bit bad. Parents arent raising their kids today. You might as well do it whenever you can.
 
hornetguy

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The only way you should feel bad about your actions would be if you smacked them in the forehead first, to get their attention.

Apparently they had no parental guidance on how to behave respectfully, and you gave them a brief lesson on that topic.
Good job!
 
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this sort of reminds me of the movie "Second Hand Lions".... where Robert Duvall whips all the punks, then gives them a good friendly talk about how a "man" is supposed to act. Very good scene...
 
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I would have done the same thing and have done so.
 
Angela53510

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Really, this is on the schools, and the parents and the grandparents.

Somewhere along the line, the torch got dropped. Kids stopped being taught manners and respectful behaviour. Then the next generation had nothing to go on, except how people act on TV, movies and videos - both games and music. No one was modelling good behaviour, so they didn't learn how to be kind, and care for others.

It truly is a tragedy how our society has gone downhill. I stopped teaching school 17 years ago. Even then, kids still had a some concept of how to treat others. Even the non-Christian children. And those kids have grown up and failed to teach their children how to be polite.

But with our society getting farther and farther from God and closer to humanism, which is the deification of self, getting more and more important, we have lost the children. And more important than manners and respect, they do not even know the name of Jesus, except maybe as a swear word.

As for you, Utah, I do think you did the right thing. As long as you didn't yell, maybe these teens had never once been told in their lives to care for those weaker than them.

It sure doesn't bode well for the future of our society though, does it?
 
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