KNOW WHEN TO "CUT" PEOPLE OUT YOUR LIFE

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MrsClementMelton1122

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KNOW WHEN TO "CUT, CROP, DELETE, ERASE, SUBTRACT, ECT...PEOPLE OUT YOUR LIFE

I hope this post opens up discussion on the proper way to cut people out of your life. Have you ever felt weighed down by certain people in your life? Do you often take on other people's problems? Can you ever find peace when someone in your life doesn't have faith? If that's you......please leave a comment on how you handled the situation.

My Testimony: I currently have a few people in my life who may use me as a crutch. I mentor about two people on a regular basis; speaking about life challenges but more importantly the desire to have a significant other. Its humbling to know people actually respect my opinion and recommendations. However, I feel like whenever there's an issue i'm dealing with there's no one I can talk to on a spiritual level. I pray and speak to God on daily basis but at this point in my life I just need a break to focus on my family. How do you cut people off without offending?
 
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I think it may depend if they are people you want a break from or that you don't want in your life anymore.
Sometimes I just cease contact and let it naturally die off. I've also learnt to be honest with people if it comes to having to say something and I would say that I need a break to focus on my family. They may get upset, but if they're reasonable they'll get over it and understand and appreciate it.
 
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oldthennew

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fine tuning our hearing surely takes a lot of trial and error,
but, it can only get better if our hearts are steadfast and true.

there's nothing better than sharing Holy Love,
and our Father always knows our true intentions and is
always there beside us, guiding with His gentle hands.
 
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I have had a person who at first had been helpful in my life, then became my critic. She criticized about things she had never done or experienced, and knew nothing about. I'm doing the best I can with the Lord's guidance with the issues in my life and do not need that despite any help I've gotten. I just don't communicate anymore with her.
 
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oldthennew

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sassylady,

often those who criticize are hurting inside or feeling left out.
I feel all of us have done this at times in our lives, either
knowing or unknowing and it's not a very likable trait,
but one that can be overcome if convicted.

my husband and I have found that every single person
is our 'teacher' of some kind for some time, and it is up
to us to find out why our Lord has had them cross our paths.
we have often been surprised when we found out the why!

and then, most times we are told to move on......
 
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Ugly

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Maybe it's less about cutting them off as it is about you learning to take care of yourself better. Many people who are in positions such as yours spend so much time helping others, sometimes to the point of obligation, that they don't take Active effort to do things for themselves. This is when you get burnt out and start going in opposite extremes and wanting to get rid of people.
I think the healthier balance is knowing your own limits, knowing when you need to say 'i can't do this right now' and finding a source to recharge your own batteries.
Otherwise what happens is you end up letting those people, or new people, back in and start the cycle over. The book Boundaries by Townsend/Cloud might be a good place to start in knowing how and when to set limits on people for yourself.
Remember, our Ultimate goal in life is Not to make sure we don't hurt peoples feelings. And while we should attempt that when possible, sometimes we have to step on toes and we can't let our lives be dictated by others feelings if we end up having to disappoint or hurt them.

People really should only be cut out of your life when their direct behavior is having a negative influence on you. Not when you are not handling them or yourself properly for your own reasons.

But for now i'd suggest if you have a day or, even a few day, that you need a break, just tell them that you are feeling overwhelmed by many things going on in your life and you need a little time. That as much as you would like to be there for them you are just not mentally or emotionally capable of giving them what they need. Maybe offer to pray for them quickly right there.
One thing i've learned is that sometimes God isolates us from others because it forces us to go to Him, not people. If that person doesn't do this, that's not on you. That's on them.
 
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