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My husband and I have been together since we were teens. We only recently been married, just 7 short yrs ago. I found out a couple months ago that he was confiding in another woman. Telling her things about our marriage that he refuse to discuss with me. He lied to her... telling her I was causing him problems financially. This lie cut me deep because my children and I had to sacrifice and go without basics. Meanwhile this woman was saying things like she wished her man was a hard worker like my husband, and if they were together she'd make sure he'd was appreciated,and tell her to get a job... he says that I should become friends with her. He said that she's an older woman who goes to church & she was encouraging him in the word. I am no fool! He said this because my faith in God is strong. He thought that I would buy that lie... out of the 70 or so text messages sent in a 3 week period not one of them mentioned God, scripture or biblical morals and values.
It's been 3 months since I learned of this woman. The first month was rocky. My heart was broken and I was hurting badly. He also agreed to end that "friendship". I resolved to forgive him & took thelove dare. Things started to improve. 2 months after we bacame closer and started to talk things out. Now 3 months later & he has his cell phone turned back on and he's stepping out the room to text. He has even left "to the store" but has come back empty handed.
I am currently reading Jimmy Evans book and he says he believes that every marriage can be repaired! I'm not so sure anymore. What do you think? Can my marriage be repaired if I am the only spouse working on repairing it?

You need to ask your husband. He has to take the love dare too, and that is a choice. Unfortunately, that part of the choice is something you have no control over (and God will not control his free will). I can tell you that his agreeing to stop the relationship will not heal this thing. He needs to share his heart with you, as it sounds like you have with him. You need to become the "other woman" for whatever is bothering him; there's no other way you can be part of the solution, which is what God wants you to be for each other, in all life's problems. If he really feels that you and he need a marraige counselor, it should be someone you both pick and you both see together, and someone who can act professional, not another woman who texts him all the time, no matter how old or Godly. 9 times out of 10, the wife's instinct will be correct, and 10 times out of 10, it needs to be listened to anyway.

i am truly sad about your situation , you first have to pray about whats going on and put all of your names in the prayer, and ask for guidance to a Christian marriage counselor, let your husband know how talking to another woman about your problems or anything concerning your marriage is not okay with you and if he will go with you to counseling to save your marriage but she HAS to be out of the picture before you go, there is one thing i definitely know and he has to realize is the marriage will never work or recover if theirs another person involved. she's giving him bad advice to sway him away, and it's real easy to say i'll treat you better , or i can do this for you or whatever to feed his ego, but you take care of yourself emotionally and spiritually

remember God is just a whisper away and will never leave you

Yes your marriage can be repaired, but are you both willing to stop playing church, and get serious about your love, devotion, and obedience to God and His commands?

What A MESS, your husband has no fear of God at all, which tells me he is still carnal in his mind and soul.

His fruit is rotten, and he needs a serious wake up call. The church is to blame, NO repentance, No holiness, NO seperation, and as I mentioned NO fear of God, or any urgency to obey His commands!

Seek those things which are above!

Col 3:1 If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is sitting at the right hand of God.
Col 3:2 Be mindful of things above, not on things on the earth.
Col 3:3 For you died, and your life has been hidden with Christ in God.
These powerful verses above really sum up what is required of you to walk a pure and holy life before God!
But as with all the powerful scriptures, they come with a strong warning and something we must do!
Now IF you were truly raised with Christ in newness of life that comes from the truly repented and crucified life, you will be seeking the things which are from above! The things that please the Lord, who is sitting at the right hand of God!
It also warns to be mindful of thing’s above, which is purity, sincerity and love, and not on the things of this world, as many who profess Christ have it backwards. They love the things of the earth or world more than crucifying their flesh with Christ, and walking the narrow road that leads to life!
Now the most powerful warning so far is the last verse that says you died! Died to what?
You died to sin, worldliness, and rebellion to God, having truly repented (sin stops) and now your new life is free from the corrupting influence of the world and sin, and now hidden with Christ in God!
This death must occur through the process of godly sorrow which produces repentance leading to salvation, if its real, and from the heart, which will show proof such as a clearing of all wrong doing, amending you ways if necessary, a strong fear of God and His wrath to come, plus a vehement desire to cast out of doors all defilement and attachment’s to the world and its vain ways!
This is what real repentance produces in the humble, and obedient soul, who has yielded to the powerful conviction of the spirit of God, who abounds around the whole world, convicting the whole world of sin, righteousness, and judgment, not asking the lost sinner to just accept, believe, and confess in something that never happened!
1Jn 5:4 For everything that has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that overcomes the world, our faith. (Obedience to the truth)
Tommy

I pray you both will honor God in your life and marriage, and be who he created you both to be, which is holy, pure, and blameless, and a light to all those lost in the church system!