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kricett

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I have a wonderful step daughter that has been lost to drugs and street sex. She has two sweet children that has lost their mother. Their home will never be the same. Their father has moved on and is now with a person who is very good to my grandkids. He has finely started to let us start see the grand kids again, but only if we dont let their mother see them. Its so hard, but at the same time, every time the kids see her it brakes their hearts again because she well not come see them when she says she will, she shows up messed up, she has pieced her face, and other parts of her body, she now has tatoos all over her body, and has not showed up for any of her court order appiontments.
I have never had to deal with anything like this before, now I find out that she has made a sex video and its being passed around, she has started going back to the ER almost every night to get pain meds.
I feel like I have failed to help her, I have given her a home, feed and clothed her. But she doesnt come home, and when she does she is messed up. I dont know whatelse to do.
Her Dad said pack her stuff up and put her out, I just dont know, as a mother (step-mother) I cant find it in my heart to do that. I know its his daughter and I should do as he asked, but Im so conflicked, please advise and pray,
 
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Donkeyfish07

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kricett said:
I have a wonderful step daughter that has been lost to drugs and street sex. She has two sweet children that has lost their mother. Their home will never be the same. Their father has moved on and is now with a person who is very good to my grandkids. He has finely started to let us start see the grand kids again, but only if we dont let their mother see them. Its so hard, but at the same time, every time the kids see her it brakes their hearts again because she well not come see them when she says she will, she shows up messed up, she has pieced her face, and other parts of her body, she now has tatoos all over her body, and has not showed up for any of her court order appiontments.
I have never had to deal with anything like this before, now I find out that she has made a sex video and its being passed around, she has started going back to the ER almost every night to get pain meds.
I feel like I have failed to help her, I have given her a home, feed and clothed her. But she doesnt come home, and when she does she is messed up. I dont know whatelse to do.
Her Dad said pack her stuff up and put her out, I just dont know, as a mother (step-mother) I cant find it in my heart to do that. I know its his daughter and I should do as he asked, but Im so conflicked, please advise and pray,
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I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter/step daughter. That's such an awful position to be in....for her and everyone around her. I'll definitely pray for her. I had a friend I used to work with that had a daughter a few years younger than me. She became hooked on prescription drugs really bad and she was able to secure a mental hygiene warrant on her in order to get her into a detox/rehab program. It got her daughter off of the drugs (at least long enough for her to snap out of it and realize what she was doing).....I'm not sure how it worked out in the end but it's the only thing I can possibly think of that you may be able to do. I have several recovered drug addicts in my family as well.....It took a long time for them to want help. It's hard to help somebody if they do not want to be helped.
 
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Ugly

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kricett said:
I have a wonderful step daughter that has been lost to drugs and street sex. She has two sweet children that has lost their mother. Their home will never be the same. Their father has moved on and is now with a person who is very good to my grandkids. He has finely started to let us start see the grand kids again, but only if we dont let their mother see them. Its so hard, but at the same time, every time the kids see her it brakes their hearts again because she well not come see them when she says she will, she shows up messed up, she has pieced her face, and other parts of her body, she now has tatoos all over her body, and has not showed up for any of her court order appiontments.
I have never had to deal with anything like this before, now I find out that she has made a sex video and its being passed around, she has started going back to the ER almost every night to get pain meds.
I feel like I have failed to help her, I have given her a home, feed and clothed her. But she doesnt come home, and when she does she is messed up. I dont know whatelse to do.
Her Dad said pack her stuff up and put her out, I just dont know, as a mother (step-mother) I cant find it in my heart to do that. I know its his daughter and I should do as he asked, but Im so conflicked, please advise and pray,
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There is an awesome TV show on called Intervention. It follows a drug or alcohol addict around, under the guise of making a documentary. Then at the end the family (with the help of a professional) has an intervention to try to convince them to go get clean.
Its amazing how similar all these addicts act. Sounds to me like your step daughter is just acting like a typical addict and nothing you can do, being nice, feeding her, giving her money, a place to live, etc is going to phase her whatsoever. All she cares about is how she is going to get her next hit. That's all she lives for, thinks about and works for. She will lie, cheat, steal, sell her body or do anything she has to to get her fix.
I suggest watching the show to help you get a grasp on the mentality of these people and how they operate and function.
 
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Praying for her , your husband and you also in Jesus's name.

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
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