need some good godly advice

So I have this family member who I think is taking advantage of my kindness and I don't know what I should do? So every month I've been covering their half of the rent or some of it and they will just pay me later on in the month. But if they were just low on money etc I wouldn't even be questioning it or writing this thread. But they are just over spending throughout the month. Always eating out and partying with their friends. Then rent time comes up and they always ask me to cover it. I feel like their not learning how to be responsible and its really bothering me. Should I just leave it in God's hands and just do my part to help them or should I confront them on this.

Hi wit2Christlv , One thing I have learned over the years is that confrontation and family never goes down well. However if they are squandering their share of the rent, then it cant continue to be your responsibility to cover there share. Rather than as most folk would want to do, and confront them to the point it probably lead to a argument, you should simply tell them that you are saving for something and so cannot and will not be able to help them out.... say it with a smile.
I dont know about your housing situation but maybe you should think about getting a place of your own or with someone who is more responsible like yourself.
I try and see the good in all people but im also aware that some folk will continue to use the act of kindness to the point of being disrespectful. So stand your ground graciously, and remember God wants us to help those in need, but he also wants you to be respected.

Good luck in finding the answer... and God Bless you

I don't know if my advice is godly but if they asked for help another time, id help them whilst raising your concern and make it clear that your not going to help them next month. At least you've raised your concerned and warned them well ahead of time of your intentions, that's what id do anyway

Hi wit2Christlv
I think scottish gave good advice.I think you should confront them with your true feelings,that way they can't say that they didn't know that you felt that way.People sometimes hate to be straight up with people,because they don't want to hurt there feelings,but the consequence for you is that you don't like being disrepected,so you will have to be honest are try to tell them through osmosis,and thats not good for you.

Ok, please remember that I am an old Soldier, so, my advice tends to lean towards the "big stick" approach. Just saying. Take it for what it's worth.

There are times that Christians, because of their compassion, love, and concern for others, act in ways such as you. Allowing people to SURELY TAKE ADVANTAGE of them. IMO, God does not want us to do this. Reason being, is that when we allow others to treat us in such a way, we become "enablers." Meaning, our acceptance of their treatment of us allows them to continue acting irresponsibly, and immaturely.

We would not raise our children in such a way would we? Neither should we raise our friends in such a way. Personal responsibility is a NECESSARY lesson that must be learned. Now, IF your family member DID NOT have the financial resources to MEET their obligations, THEN it would be Christ-like to COVER them. HOWEVER, IF they are doing as you state, THEN in my opinion, this is a sinful way to treat you. YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT. You are a Child of God!

[ok, Old Soldier part]

Snatch 'em up by their scruffy neck, give 'em a good shaking, and then set them down and let them KNOW that you are not their personal ATM............THEIR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES are THEIR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES. Financial responsibilities COME FIRST. Now, if they have money left over...........well, it they want to blow it eating out every night and partying........that's their irresponsible act.........BUT PAY THE BILLS FIRST.

If they can't do this, hey, U-Haul is just up the street.

God bless

Thank you all for the advice, I just pray the Lord gives me the words to say it in a loving way and it touches their heart in a good way.

and I will be with you Sister.

what p_rehbein said -- yeah, good advice.

Give your roommate plenty of notice that you will no longer be able to foot his/her half of the rent. Period. Then stick to it.