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Misha

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I have a friend and she's the type of girl that smokes, party and get into alot of arguements. I know I shouldn't be friends with a person like that but she's a really sweet person and have been my friend since 6th grade. I try to talk to her, tell her about the bible hoping she'll think about it and slow down but it's useless. She's the only real friend I have and the only friend I actually care about but I don't want to do anything that's going against God so if I have to cut her off I will! What should I do? I pray about it but I just need some opinions and thoughts...its kind of getting depressing :(
 
shemaiah

shemaiah

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The best you can do is continue praying for her, and continuing to influence her in whatever means you can and showing love. May God give you the wisdom and guidance you need. God bless
 
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Ugly

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I would ask, does she try to have a negative effect on you? Or does she accept your lifestyle and leave you to live it without pushing you to follow hers? If shes not pushing you to do things, and you aren't having any temptations to do wrong by being around her, then why do you need to get her out of your life? I'll take a good sinner over a bad saint any day.
What i mean is, the people you need to keep out of your life are the ones that bring you down, irregardless of their supposed spiritual beliefs or lifestyle. If you have a Christian in your life that has a negative influence on you, get them out of your life. A good friend is not defined soley by their spiritual beliefs. While its true, we don't want to overdo the amount of non-Christian people we spend our time with, that's not to say we can't have non-Christian friends.

If you do keep this person in your life, and hopefully you continue to be a witness, don't get impatient about it. Just keep being a witness. You may or may not be the person that leads her to God, but you will definately be a seed sower, and watering that seed as well. You may never see for yourself, the fruits of your witness, but that doesn't mean you don't try.
Also, remember, the goal in all this is not to get her out of the 'party girl' lifestyle. But the goal is to bring her to Christ. If you focus on getting her to stop her sins, you're wasting your time. Because even if you get her to quit partying, drinking, smoking, etc... she's still going to help, she doesn't know Jesus. The idea is bring her to Christ and allow Christ and the Holy Spirit to do the work in her to get her out of that lifestyle.
 
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