To have friends or to not have friends.

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flight316

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I've had lots of friends over the years. As of late my friend base continues to get smaller and smaller. Most of my friends were buddies from the past. Were just not travelling the same road anymore. At this point I'm not really interested in making new friends. I'm not totally against it but I'm not seeking. Whats your opinion on friendships?
 
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What are those friends U don´t like or could be missing? real ones are not virtual...
 

mystdancer50

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Friends are necessary. Unfortunately, it is difficult to find true friends in this world. A few years ago, God granted me a season with strong and godly friends. However, due to sin and compromise, the friendships imploded and ended in betrayal. My heart was shattered and for the last 3 and a half years, I have kept everyone at arm's length. I don't want to go through that again.

I was just thinking today how I have no friends, no one to call and talk to, no one to run to and join together in worship and prayer. Yes. Friends are necessary. If you find at least one godly friend, do all you can to keep that relationship rooted in Christ, strong, current and functioning, because once it's gone, it is a great deal harder to find new friends in this world.
 
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I've had lots of friends over the years. As of late my friend base continues to get smaller and smaller. Most of my friends were buddies from the past. Were just not travelling the same road anymore. At this point I'm not really interested in making new friends. I'm not totally against it but I'm not seeking. Whats your opinion on friendships?
People are like a different nation that dwells inside of them (Multiple personalities). Some days they are angry or upset and some days they are very friendly and there are times they are feeling jealous or envy, and then there are times peaceful and showing kindness. If you do want to have friends, you have to be careful not to offend them, or you will have problems. It could only be one head in a household and or one king in a kingdom. Someone in that type of a relationship will always has disagreements, but if one of the party must be submissive toward the other in order for it to last and the other must treat them as they would want to be treated. But it is in everyone heart to be the chief while the other is the follower.

Proverbs 20:3It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.
 
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To truly live is to die to self and live in Christ. We can not do that without love for others. Our world has less and less of Christ in it, less of us being a unit and helping each other. Even families are disappearing. There are many many people who have no friends, but how other people are living without giving love is not to be a measure of the giving and love asked of you.

We have the Holy Spirit, a link between us and God. We cannot be alone. But if we don't freely give of it to others and share it, then we limit ourselves.
 
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im only 25, but honestly, since my daughter was born (i was 21) is when ive become closer to God... and since then, ive grown to be to my self more and more. its a shield from the world.

in such a sinful world, theres not many people you want to keep around and call friends. you can have a couple associates that you touch base with from time to time, but not to over-due it.

but i wish i had more friends like me.. christian friends, friends that i could trust and confide in that can give me advise when i need it like i do to and for other people. but i dont have somebody like Me in my life.. only Jesus, which is more than enough, no question. Hes my everything. literally. Father Figure, Best Friend, Rock, Motivation, Teacher, Supporter, Healer, etc.
 
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im only 25, but honestly, since my daughter was born (i was 21) is when ive become closer to God... and since then, ive grown to be to my self more and more. its a shield from the world.

in such a sinful world, theres not many people you want to keep around and call friends. you can have a couple associates that you touch base with from time to time, but not to over-due it.

but i wish i had more friends like me.. christian friends, friends that i could trust and confide in that can give me advise when i need it like i do to and for other people. but i dont have somebody like Me in my life.. only Jesus, which is more than enough, no question. Hes my everything. literally. Father Figure, Best Friend, Rock, Motivation, Teacher, Supporter, Healer, etc.
Jeremiah 17:5This is what the Lord says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord.

Jeremiah 17:7
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.

Matthew 5:48
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.


We are imperfect which meaning that we can't be trusted at all times. Peter was willing to be there with Jesus to the very end, but his fear of being persecuted has gotten the best of him. A true friend is someone that will stand with you to the very end, but if that person love this world too much, they will abandon you when times get rough, because they will not forsake the world on the account of that they have too much love for this world and doesn't want to lose their life and which mean that they would have to leave this world and that is what they don't want to happen. God would never abandon His children under any condition; that is why we only trust in Him, because He is perfect without flaws.
 
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Jeremiah 17:5This is what the Lord says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord.

Jeremiah 17:7
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.

Matthew 5:48
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.


We are imperfect which meaning that we can't be trusted at all times. Peter was willing to be there with Jesus to the very end, but his fear of being persecuted has gotten the best of him. A true friend is someone that will stand with you to the very end, but if that person love this world too much, they will abandon you when times get rough, because they will not forsake the world on the account of that they have too much love for this world and doesn't want to lose their life and which mean that they would have to leave this world and that is what they don't want to happen. God would never abandon His children under any condition; that is why we only trust in Him, because He is perfect without flaws.
right on. im definitely the type of friend that will die for you. put my self in the line of fire to protect you, even if you dont show me the same type of love. its all i know.

and for Jesus? no question i will die without a cause for Him. just out of my love for Him.
 

colalella2891

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I have no friends right now, with the exception of people in my classes at college, but I don't hang out with them or anything. I lost touch with my friends from high school, they're not christians so it got awkward to hang out with them after a while.

I get lonely sometimes, and my sister has tons of friends so I get a little jealous, so I can say that I wish I had friends. Going back to the ones I used to hang out with won't help me though.

You don't realize what you had until it's gone bro. That's the definite truth. I think friendship is important. But, not if they're going to stray you from God. That's the key.
 
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right on. im definitely the type of friend that will die for you. put my self in the line of fire to protect you, even if you dont show me the same type of love. its all i know.

and for Jesus? no question i will die without a cause for Him. just out of my love for Him.
John 15:13Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

John 10:11
“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

John 10:13
The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.



Luke 8:13Those on the rocky ground are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in the time of testing they fall away.

Hebrews 3:8
do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion, during the time of testing in the wilderness,

James 1:3
because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

Luke 22 31 “Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift all of you as wheat. 32 But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.”

33 But he replied, “Lord, I am ready to go with you to prison and to death.”
34 Jesus answered, “I tell you, Peter, before the rooster crows today, you will deny three times that you know me.”


 
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churchmouseinthehouse

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My sister in Christ.
You are never alone! Father is your first friend, your best friend, most loyal friend, loving friend, faithful friend, lifelong friend you will ever have! Get to know Him, really, really know Him. I will pray for you! Lift you up in prayer! I know it can feel lonely with a young child, yet rejoice! Is there a church near you, a fellowship group? Sometimes He gives us time just like this to dwell on the word and enrich our knowledge, later on you may look back being very, very grateful for this time, just you and Father, Amen?! One day you may be so busy caught up in life this will be a lovely memory for you to seek solace and comfort in! I say this from experience-when I thought I had no one....Ah, Abba Father was there every second:)
 
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John 15:13Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

John 10:11
“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

John 10:13
The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.



Luke 8:13Those on the rocky ground are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in the time of testing they fall away.

Hebrews 3:8
do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion, during the time of testing in the wilderness,

James 1:3
because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

Luke 22 31 “Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift all of you as wheat. 32 But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.”

33 But he replied, “Lord, I am ready to go with you to prison and to death.”
34 Jesus answered, “I tell you, Peter, before the rooster crows today, you will deny three times that you know me.”


i have to ask, why are you highlighting "the time of testing"?
 
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churchmouseinthehouse

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Hi Friend!

I feel we are led to especially and foremost be 'a friend in Christ to those in need".
We are to be a shining light to the sinful world we live in. My friends I had 20 years ago are not the same as friends now. We all need friends-suprising they can come from where you least expect it! Never forget how rich you are in Christ!! I feel sometimes we need a time only with Father to seek deeply in the word and rejoice what we have to look forward to in eternity until we are satiated in his love with a renewed happy spirit that draws in others. The world can be a weary place- and that my friend is when we need more of Him to lift us back up! I will pray for you! We serve the Almighty King! He has friends waiting for you, trust me on this!! In His time..Which is perfect! Amen?!
 
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i have to ask, why are you highlighting "the time of testing"?
We have to be tested to see if we keep our word.And by us being tested will show us the area that we are weak in and what area we need to be strengthen in.