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Tinuviel

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Being "old" has nothing to do with it. It hurts, and it hurts bad, no matter how "old" or "young" you are. I've lost 2 dogs and a horse, all in a deplorably short time. Death is rough. Always, it reminds me of how this was never supposed to be like this, and gives me something to look forward to in heaven.

It's been 2 years, 2 months, and 23 days since my horse died. I've just reached the place where, when I think of him nearly everyday, it doesn't always hurt.

I'm so sorry Willie! It only gets better, even if it seems to take forever.
 
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AuntieAnt

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Willie-T said:
I guess I kind of hardened my heart with all the other deaths I've known, (and at my age, more and more drop all around me), and I actually had some times of being awfully angry at God. But this one was all me... my choice... and I feel so much a Judas, even though I know, in my head, that we had to do it.

It was somehow easier going through a period of blaming God. With little Gordy, I can only remember that I led him into that cold office, all on my own.

I dunno. It's all kind of weird to me.
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Oh gosh yeah, the guilt and sorrow of having to take them to that cold office. *ugh* I actually broke down so badly, the vet let me stay in his back office with my Azer (short for Eliezer) until I could muster up the strength to let him go. I cried terribly!
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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I didn't want Tequila to go home at the vet's office, in a sterile vanilla room, on a cold table, stressed out and scared. I paid $173.50 to have her put to sleep here at home. I'm glad I did, because she wasn't scared or nervous, or stressed out. Her final hiss at the vet tech was like "ha ha, you're never gonna hurt me with a needle again".. lol .. It was her final "forget you" to the vet. :eek: It broke my bank account, but I'm sooo glad she went here at home. It was peaceful, quiet and painless. Now, one week later, I look back and wish I had done goodbye so differently. Things I wanted to do and say but didn't because I didn't think of them 'til afterward. I wanted to keep some of her gorgeous orange fur, but I didn't. Now I wish I had. I should've picked her up and held her, and said mummy loves you, and your suffering's gonna end now. But I didn't, even though she knew what was going to happen. I still should have told her. :( I only told her that AFTER she was gone.. But I am convinced that our loved ones and pets can hear us, even after they're gone. I'm sure Tequila knew she was headed home, just as Gordy did also.

Willie, what you and I did for Gordy and Tequila was the biggest act of compassion that we could have done for them. To make them linger on would have been inhumane. Animals know when it's their time to go back home. They rely on US to be smart enough to recognize that, and strong enough to do the right thing for them.
 
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Hellooo

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It's funny how dogs just really work their way into your heart.

Truly sorry to hear about your pup, Willie. That sucks.
 
nu2see

nu2see

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Willie-T said:
It was just a dog, Nu2see. I'm sorry if I didn't make that too clear. It shouldn't be affecting me like this... but it is.
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Well, maybe some will be chuckling at me, but when I started my first post, there were only 3, which gave no indication....
I thought you might have been talking about you're son.

Nevertheless, that prayer took meby as much of a surprise as anyone.....
I was getting so many emotions flooding through me, and I just started writing what was coming from the heart.

Our pets can become like family, though, and I know the
feeling of trying to reason with yourself over not having
a heart as soft for some ppl as you do for an animal.

But I believe we are all God's creatures, great and small,
and it's a real blessing that the Lord loans us pets to
take care of as they often 'take care of us' with their
unconditional love and it even seems like they are used
by God to comfort us, especially thick-heads like me,
who can't always seem to find comfort direct from Him.

I had to say goodbye to my buddy after 14 years,
and having no wife or kids, not really any friends
for the most part, and a few siblings, but not real close
like we used to be...He was my constant, lone companion,
so it was real hard saying goodbye,
and after 2 years it still hurts, so

I can share in your grief, and have been
sharing a spiritual heart with blb as well,
her experience with her cat was almost
identical to mine...I pray she's finding comfort.

I know the guilt trip you spoke of, too, but
that only comes from someone who cares,
so thank the Lord for that heart and don't
beat yourself up with it.....
if you didn't feel a bit guilty, I'd question if you
truly cared...it's ok to feel like you could have
done more, as long as it's from a heart of love
and compassion, and not condemnation.

I often say the way a person treats animals
can be a good indication of where one's heart
is in relation to God and man.

Be of good cheer, brother, Jesus loves you,
and He is Lord over all His creation.
He knows.
 
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Tinuviel

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The reason a relationship with a dog is so special is because they love you absolutely, and they ask nothing. Never listen to any one who says "buck up, it was just a dog" we could learn a lot of heart from those "just dogs".
 
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Willie-T said:
It was just a dog, Nu2see. I'm sorry if I didn't make that too clear. It shouldn't be affecting me like this... but it is.
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The only time we should call our pets "Just," is when we name them Just. Pets don't ask for give-and-take, they don't ask for their own space, they don't expect the rest of the evening off to do their own thing, a curfew, a vacation from us, or an hour of our time to explain what's wrong. They lean on us but without needing support, lying on us more casually than even our spouse would dare, and the only thing they want is food, but they don't care if it's overcooked, undercooked, not enough flavor, expensive, or cheap. That's the most thorough concept of unconditional love we ever get. That's not "just," and that's why they keep a place in our heart forever.

Briar the beagle -- 1962 - 1973.
Mr. Bo Jangles the cat -- 1978 - 1994.

I still miss them and have all kinds of fond memories of them right down to the hidden vomit I stepped in with my barefeet.
 
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If it helps any, with Bo I let him die when it was time. His kidneys had shut down, so we knew it was soon. And in the quiet dignity, humility and sappy love only a cat would lavish on anyone, his final act was to pee all over my lap.

(One of those moments when I was crying and laughing at the same time, while trying to figure out what to do with him and wanting to take my pants off.)

There is no pretty picture at the end, no matter what we choose.
 
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PeacefulWarrior

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Sorry about your kitty, Blue.

Hope you are well.
 
Willie-T

Willie-T

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All of you who have shared memories of your precious and special buddies, both large and small. I thank you for what you gave me, and I apologize for dredging up any old hurts if I did.

Only one person here knew about Gordy, and I was going to keep it that way. But this one-month anniversary caught me by surprise, and I just needed someone to cry with. Thank you again.

This afternoon, Sue and went to the park where we (secretly) spread his ashes three weeks ago. It was his favorite place, and we could think of no other place we would want to imagine him romping. It was good. Yeah, it still hurt some, but it was good.

Of all the loved ones I have lost, even the kids, I have never once been back to where any of them are buried or where I spread their ashes. Nor do I ever intend to do so. But I think we are going to make periodic visits to Gordy's park to just sit there remembering him and "see" him playing with the squirrels and ducks.

I feel somewhat better tonight. Thank you again. I almost never show need, but somehow you crazy bunch of peeps have come to make me ache for you to know that I do need every now and then.
 
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sassylady

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An animal is one of those blessings that the Lord gives us that makes us rich and He adds no trouble to it. (Proverbs, but I don't have my Bible here at work). No arguments or complaints, just pure love and adoration. Plus losing him is just one more in a long list of those that have gone on before.

We had to give away our wonderful dog when we moved out of our house almost 11 years ago and I can still cry over him. Somebody sure got a blessing when they got Kipper.

Hoping God sends you much comfort at this time.
 
Utah

Utah

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Willie-T said:
..... since our little soldier had to march on into tomorrow alone. I know he will be waiting for us, but that really doesn't make the day any easier. I've known a lot of pain in my time, but I sure thought I would have stopped crying by now.
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I know the pain all too well myself.

Read Psalm 36 and be at peace, my Brother.
 
tanakh

tanakh

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Willie-T said:
I've lost mother, father, wife, children....... they all hurt. But somehow, this silly little dog is just tearing me up inside in a way I have never known. I guess it's because of being old now.
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I do feel for you Willie. I know how it feels to lose a much loved companion and how some people just dont understand just how close we can become to our pets. Praying for you
 
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