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Please do not misunderstand me, but try to understand.
I see topics about depression and it is good to minister
words of encouragement. Scripture and prayer are the
key to helping the hurting person. A shoulder to cry on
helps, and ears listening to the hurting person. I am aware
some make it a habit and for them they need attention.
I am in need now. The shoe is on the other foot; my foot.
I am hurting, the tears flow freely and it is like at the
point of feeling like I am at the end. What end ? I do
not have a clue. Only God knows what is going on inside
me. Maybe He is purging me ?
My Granddaughter just married, and her Mother died 5
yrs. ago. Granddaughter is going to be 30 next month.
Beautiful, beautiful young woman. She looks like her Mother
so much and this is the most painful time because for few
mos. I had to get photos out of her deceased Mother and
deceased 22 yr. old Brother, my Parents. I went thru
the grieving period and asked for prayer here. I thank all
who prayed for me and understood.
Now, I am crying buckets and don't know what is happening.
I feel like I have come to and end, but not sure what end.
Funny thing, I had a vision upon waking day before yesterday,
and it was a beautiful woman in a casket, and there was a
girl in a Bridal gown at foot of casket. I came out of that
like what does all of that mean? Her mother was not beautiful
in the casket, in real life. So, the vision was nothing like anything
I experienced.
I want to say this about those like me, who confesses I am
hurting and crying and don't know why. Please don't try the
platitudes "Oh, just think upon the good things." or "Your
daughter would not want you to cry." Or the one "Find something
to thank God for." How do they not know we have already
thanked God. But that is not enough to make us feel better.
It lays guilt trips, it makes our pain worse, and just because
we can't get past the hurt, doesn't mean we don't trust God
to see us through.
I came from a Prayer Request I posted some time ago, and
two things stood out that helped me. One, just as there is
joy (laughter) there will be tears. It made me realize it is ok
to come here and tell you I am hurting. Even if I don't know
why, I can say I need someone just to understand me and let
me pour out a jug of tears. Another person shared, as long
as we have Jesus in us, we are never apart from our departed
loved ones. ( Provided they knew Jesus when they died ).
I have a wonderful Sister in law. She always wants to fix people.
Her way is to pound it into us " we always have something to be
grateful for." In other words, to me she is saying "Get over it."
She means well. I admire people who can get through trials with
a positive attitude. But, I am not made like her. I can't turn
on a switch and tell you I am fine when I am not.
Be there to listen to that person who feels they don't know where
they are in life. Share scripture in love. Offer to pray for them.
When we feel we have come to the 'end' but not quite sure what
it is, remind us, it is only a closing of a Chapter in life. God is
opening a new one. No matter our age. There is life until He takes
our spirit home.
For those who hurt now, it is my prayer you will find peace in knowing
God sees those tears. He is bottling them up. ( Mine is over-flowing ).
Thanks for listening to me ~ Thanks for understanding I needed to
share what does not make us feel better when we are hurting or
grieving. But, love, prayers, and listening ear comes from God as we
seek Him for direction to help one another.
Blessings
I see topics about depression and it is good to minister
words of encouragement. Scripture and prayer are the
key to helping the hurting person. A shoulder to cry on
helps, and ears listening to the hurting person. I am aware
some make it a habit and for them they need attention.
I am in need now. The shoe is on the other foot; my foot.
I am hurting, the tears flow freely and it is like at the
point of feeling like I am at the end. What end ? I do
not have a clue. Only God knows what is going on inside
me. Maybe He is purging me ?
My Granddaughter just married, and her Mother died 5
yrs. ago. Granddaughter is going to be 30 next month.
Beautiful, beautiful young woman. She looks like her Mother
so much and this is the most painful time because for few
mos. I had to get photos out of her deceased Mother and
deceased 22 yr. old Brother, my Parents. I went thru
the grieving period and asked for prayer here. I thank all
who prayed for me and understood.
Now, I am crying buckets and don't know what is happening.
I feel like I have come to and end, but not sure what end.
Funny thing, I had a vision upon waking day before yesterday,
and it was a beautiful woman in a casket, and there was a
girl in a Bridal gown at foot of casket. I came out of that
like what does all of that mean? Her mother was not beautiful
in the casket, in real life. So, the vision was nothing like anything
I experienced.
I want to say this about those like me, who confesses I am
hurting and crying and don't know why. Please don't try the
platitudes "Oh, just think upon the good things." or "Your
daughter would not want you to cry." Or the one "Find something
to thank God for." How do they not know we have already
thanked God. But that is not enough to make us feel better.
It lays guilt trips, it makes our pain worse, and just because
we can't get past the hurt, doesn't mean we don't trust God
to see us through.
I came from a Prayer Request I posted some time ago, and
two things stood out that helped me. One, just as there is
joy (laughter) there will be tears. It made me realize it is ok
to come here and tell you I am hurting. Even if I don't know
why, I can say I need someone just to understand me and let
me pour out a jug of tears. Another person shared, as long
as we have Jesus in us, we are never apart from our departed
loved ones. ( Provided they knew Jesus when they died ).
I have a wonderful Sister in law. She always wants to fix people.
Her way is to pound it into us " we always have something to be
grateful for." In other words, to me she is saying "Get over it."
She means well. I admire people who can get through trials with
a positive attitude. But, I am not made like her. I can't turn
on a switch and tell you I am fine when I am not.
Be there to listen to that person who feels they don't know where
they are in life. Share scripture in love. Offer to pray for them.
When we feel we have come to the 'end' but not quite sure what
it is, remind us, it is only a closing of a Chapter in life. God is
opening a new one. No matter our age. There is life until He takes
our spirit home.
For those who hurt now, it is my prayer you will find peace in knowing
God sees those tears. He is bottling them up. ( Mine is over-flowing ).
Thanks for listening to me ~ Thanks for understanding I needed to
share what does not make us feel better when we are hurting or
grieving. But, love, prayers, and listening ear comes from God as we
seek Him for direction to help one another.
Blessings
