Finding my way!!!!

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Findingmyway

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Hi there anyone :)

im 31 years old and still trying to find my way, well to God. 7 years ago now my baby brother passed away at age 19 and i took it very very hard, and from that day i thought God really hated me :( from a young age bad things happened to me, and some how i lived through it all with never using them to get me down. A year ago my sons father started his spiritual journey and well left us to persue it. He said he couldnt be with me because i was not doing as he said and that i needed to get over my brother dying and follow God. I tried explaining to him that i needed answers, now realizing i needed them from myself more less. But he left anyways and said he was not going to wait for me. I know that God is there and im scared that if i give my all i may fall again. Has anyone had this fear? Please help me understand!!! I dont want my sons father back, i want to do this journey in my life for me. If God has been this patient with me then i feel my sons father should have been to, so his loss. Ive started reading the bible again, and feel nothing but love whilst i read, but my ex made it sound so deathly.
 
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kenisyes

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As a point of fact, Scripture says that he should never have left without your consent, and only temporarily. If he did in fact leave you to "seek God" and has no intention of coming back, I doubt whatever he finds will be God. You are free to marry again if you choose.

As far as your journey, you are correct, it needs to be YOURS. The things he told you about "needing to get over your brother" and whatever else may have been factually correct, but not statements from God, as you need to get over things and move on in God's timing, which is probably not his timing, and there obviously was a breakdown in the love here.

There is no reason to be afraid, although that fact probably won't help you feel less fearful. Again, as point of fact, God knows you better than you know yourself, and is quite capable of getting you to be where He wants you. He might not accomplish this as you (or your training) expect Him to, but you are, and always have been, safe in His hands. Because of how grace operates, you can simply abandon yourself, and trust Him. It is, and always was His job, not yours to build the relationship, and all you ever needed to do was be ready to accept what He does. Again, this is in point of fact. I do not expect it will feel like an easy thing to do, but even that's okay. God's timing is always perfect, He has considered your needs and feelings, and how long this will take you. In fact, He "sees the end from the beginning", and knows, that as long as you want Him, you will find Him. In fact, the more you want Him, the more of Him you will have.

The love you feel in the Bible is the correct thing. The deadliness in what your "ex" said is either going to be "his loss" as you say, or was partly your mistunderstanding due to your grief. No matter, that is over. Keep reading, when you feel ready seek the presence of other Christians for support, and keep trusting God.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Welcome.
I agree with him. Keep reading Gods word, and keep "listening", eventually you will know when God is talking to you, though it takes some getting used to realizing it.:)
 
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bluebirdchaser

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I have that fear all the time. It's scary but I've found that if you just cling to God and the knowledge that He will work his purpose out in your life it alleviates the fear. I'm grateful you found God. Don't worry. He's got you :) Welcome to CC!
 
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Findingmyway

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My journey will be for me and my child, thank yous very much for your comments that have let me know that this journey is more than possible. I will continue my journey with an open heart.

bless yous all
 
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Share55

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God says we should fear Him but our fear and His fear are greatly misunderstood in a way. God is love and when you go to Him He will guide you and keep you if you but ask and accept.

Since you have been through so much and rather than blindly seeking you might like this Bible study I found a long time ago and blessedly found on the internet BUT REMEMBER before you open your Bible pray that the Holy Spirit lead you and open your eyes to your heart so you may glean His great wisdom and knowledge to walk in the way He has set for you. The outlines are on the lower r/h side and take as much time as you need.
Bible Study Outlines | Center for Evangelists
 
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