Hello

So i just signed up today and I have no clue how to work this...I mostly signed up because I need feedback on something I been praying for a while now.

At the church I go to now we have youth group every Tuesday night and I know why i go to church and that is to Praise Jesus not the people that are there, but it seems like it is just becoming a routine, with the same people over and over.

I would like to bring up to my pastor that we should try having a young adults meeting or somehting to that effect since most of the Youth group is still in High School.

It seems as everytime I offer to help they close in their circle and stick to the same people over and over again. At first I tought it was just me until another one of my friends volunteered to help clean up the church afterwards and the Youth Pastor told her he didnt know that he had to pray on it??

Come'on do we really have to pray to let someone do a good deed for god??

Me and my friend gave our selfs 3 month period to try to speak up and let things change at my church or try to relocate to another one.

It seems as if everytime we try to get closer they push away, just last week they had a " Young Adults Dinner" which I was never aware of.

This really sucks because I am always up to volunteer and do anything that is helpful around there, but yet they seem to be ok with the same people.

Is there any way I could let my pastor know what is going on without getting introuble or accused of lying?

The people there are totally cool but then again they have this insiders circle that I feel like a total stranger to them from time to time.

I'm sorry you have to experience that. It seems like many churches have cliques within them, and while I am sure it never happens on purpose it does happen and it is not fun to deal with.

I would suggest before bringing this problem up to a senior pastor, make sure you address the pastor involved. Let him know you feel excluded from fellowship, and ask if he is aware he is doing this. It will be hard to bring up, and I would advice you pray about it to God so that He can guide you on what to say exactly.

I think the idea of trying to start a young adults group is a good idea. Or you could even venture out and find an adults group and join that one. You're 19 now, so it is okay if you start hanging out with older adults.

If you try everything else and nothing works, I would suggest you pray about it and see if God wants you to find a new church to attend.

Hope that helps some.