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lulu127

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I'm 14 and I have a dilemma involving sinning and pre-marital sex. Can someone talk it out with me?
 

Deade

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I'm 14 and I have a dilemma involving sinning and pre-marital sex. Can someone talk it out with me?
Whoa! Slow down. This is the introduction forum. Maybe just introduce yourself and move your question to another section like singles/teens/young adults. Any of those will do. I will give you a hearty welcome to CC, Lulu. I hope you stay will be enjoyable.

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calibob

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@lulu127 I got a similar response my first try also. Other than that welcome. Etiquette here comes through experience. There are plenty of girls/ladies here that will share from the heart, the word and experience.
Just keep on being friendly and honest. Welcome, welcome, welcome!
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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Hi! Lulu 😊 call me big sister 😊 our youngest (my lil sister) just turned 18 a few months ago...and just like what I told to my nieces and my 2 other younger sisters I told her to wait until she is married...but you know at the end of the day it is them who will gonna decide what to do and not to do ..but whether we are aware or not the choices we make have consequences...

God approves sex that is why God protects sex by marriage...therefore sex outside marriage is a sin.

I want to tell u a lil bit of my struggle in the past...i struggled with pornography for a very long period of time...i struggled so much to break free from it...but our Lord Jesus is a gracious God He helped me break free from it and still helping me when temptations arise...You need Him to help you because you can't do it on your own you can't break the chain by yourself you need GOD'S help Lulu Ask the Lord for strength 😊


Lulu, we all make mistakes no one is perfect but we should not use it to continue doing what God asks us not to do...It is not yet too late for you ask Him to help you...

And if you have a partner right now talk to him about it...that u want to wait until marriage to sleep with him...if your man loves you he will wait for you, he will respect your decision and will value you. If he doesn't love you and he is there only because of that thing he will quickly leave you if you will say you will wait.



God forgives our sins He is happy if He sees a person who returns to Him and will make a commitment to not continue sinning 😊 He is a forgiving God ❤



It would be a hard battle it would not be easy I've been there but you can win it with the Lord on your side 😊



God bless you Lulu and welcome to CC ❤
 

blue_ladybug

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Feb 21, 2014
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Hi! Lulu 😊 call me big sister 😊 our youngest (my lil sister) just turned 18 a few months ago...and just like what I told to my nieces and my 2 other younger sisters I told her to wait until she is married...but you know at the end of the day it is them who will gonna decide what to do and not to do ..but whether we are aware or not the choices we make have consequences...

God approves sex that is why God protects sex by marriage...therefore sex outside marriage is a sin.

I want to tell u a lil bit of my struggle in the past...i struggled with pornography for a very long period of time...i struggled so much to break free from it...but our Lord Jesus is a gracious God He helped me break free from it and still helping me when temptations arise...You need Him to help you because you can't do it on your own you can't break the chain by yourself you need GOD'S help Lulu Ask the Lord for strength 😊


Lulu, we all make mistakes no one is perfect but we should not use it to continue doing what God asks us not to do...It is not yet too late for you ask Him to help you...

And if you have a partner right now talk to him about it...that u want to wait until marriage to sleep with him...if your man loves you he will wait for you, he will respect your decision and will value you. If he doesn't love you and he is there only because of that thing he will quickly leave you if you will say you will wait.



God forgives our sins He is happy if He sees a person who returns to Him and will make a commitment to not continue sinning 😊 He is a forgiving God ❤



It would be a hard battle it would not be easy I've been there but you can win it with the Lord on your side 😊



God bless you Lulu and welcome to CC ❤

She's 13!! Too young for a partner of any sort...
 
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Gracie_14

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She's 13!! Too young for a partner of any sort...
Correction there, Blue...she's 14 yrs...and culture has changed...public schools even says it's okay to experiment with sex at just the age of 12...so...it's not surprising...So, I understand why @Sweetmorningdew78 had to say that...

BTW, she may be 14...but some teens mature faster than others at that age...just saying. I'm not applauding her choices though, but there are teen pressures to give up virginity so early....
 

blue_ladybug

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Correction there, Blue...she's 14 yrs...and culture has changed...public schools even says it's okay to experiment with sex at just the age of 12...so...it's not surprising...
Correction, Gracie. She's 13, her birthday isn't until June.. And she should be listening to GOD, not culture or schools..
 
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Gracie_14

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Correction, Gracie. She's 13, her birthday isn't until June.. And she should be listening to GOD, not culture or schools..
Yeah, she does...but secular environments like that still get in the way....
 
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Gracie_14

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Yeah, she does...but secular environments like that still get in the way....
How do you know she's 13 just because her birthday is until June? If you knew the year she was born...I could understand...what if she's turning 15? It doesn#t say on her profile whatsoever...
 

blue_ladybug

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How do you know she's 13 just because her birthday is until June? If you knew the year she was born...I could understand...what if she's turning 15? It doesn#t say on her profile whatsoever...
It says she got saved in 2005. Her birth year.. 2005 plus 14 = 2019..
 
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NoNameMcgee

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I'm 14 and I have a dilemma involving sinning and pre-marital sex. Can someone talk it out with me?
Hi! I'm 14 and I don't quiet understand what the bible says about pre marital sex if someone could explain what I should do to live my most holy life. Please don't be a cree
Our Father in Heaven says that sex outside of marriage is sin, and what we should do is hold our thoughts captive. (lustful temptations)
Then we pray for deliverance from them, the only time sex is not sin is between one man and one woman joined in marriage.


1 Corinthians Chapter 6

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.


1 Corinthians 7:2 - Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.


(premarital sex is fornication)
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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Ohhh...yayyy I apologize 😢




I never wanted to suggest it is ok for someone so young to have a partner @blue_ladybug and I agree with you...and Lulu when I first read your post I saw it as a confession but when I reread it again it can also see as more of a question about how God sees pre-marital sex. If I made any assumptions about it I am sorry I don't want to accuse you falsely 😢 I would love to try and answer any questions you have... Please feel free to ask... I apologize again Lulu...

May God bless you in this by showing you exactly what HE wants you to see.


I'll see you around Lulu ❤
 
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Gracie_14

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It says she got saved in 2005. Her birth year.. 2005 plus 14 = 2019..
Yaaaa you may be right. Anywho, she may need some sound advice before making a terrible mistake...if she hasn't already...I might be able to talk to her...
 
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Gracie_14

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Ohhh...yayyy I apologize 😢




I never wanted to suggest it is ok for someone so young to have a partner @blue_ladybug and I agree with you...and Lulu when I first read your post I saw it as a confession but when I reread it again it can also see as more of a question about how God sees pre-marital sex. If I made any assumptions about it I am sorry I don't want to accuse you falsely 😢 I would love to try and answer any questions you have... Please feel free to ask... I apologize again Lulu...

May God bless you in this by showing you exactly what HE wants you to see.


I'll see you around Lulu ❤
You gave some sound wisdom, tbh. I'm sure Lulu needed to it hear it anyway. :)