Morals & Values in Today's Society???

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savatreatabvr

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Hi I'm a laidback, levelheaded, blue eyed young looking and acting 44 year old male who's new to the whole chat room thing but since I'm going through a terrible break up I thought I'd give it a try. At the end of a 6 year relationship with my beautiful blonde girlfriend I find out she cheated, I'm not talking about one time in 6 years I'm talking about 14 time just in the last 2 years! That's why I'm kind of in-between when it comes to religion, don't get me wrong I'm a Christian but things happen sometimes that's out of our control and can only be explained by being Karma. While this break was at it's peak something happened that was completely out of the ordinary, I've never seen this happen in my life to anyone but since it happened to my exgirlfriend it was comical and I laughed, I laughed my ass off but I do have a heart so I felt bad also, lol. I won't bore this forum with details unless you want me too so let me know! I know one thing for sure I'm a firm believer Karma now!
 
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The problem with today's society is that it is run by the world and the world is antichrist. Perhaps we should refocus ourselves on what truly matters in these situations and remember that God is in control. Thankfully you were not married and that her dalliance with others was not breaking a marriage covenant but I know it still hurts. I truly am sorry for what happened to you but always remember God is in control. What is in darkness will come to light, and knowledge of what she was doing was given to you by the hand of God :). God is in control of all and we must focus on Him, not something not of God such as Karma. I pray that you stay strong in this situation! If you ever need anyone to talk to, we are here in the forum and in chat.
 
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savatreatabvr

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Thank you NarrowRoadDisciple for the kind words! I'm being strong and friends say I'm holding my composer very well especially since I'm finding out new things she's done almost every day but there are those times when the thoughts of getting her back flood my mind to the point of not sleeping, it's 3:48am and I'm off to work in 2 hours, lol! I'll never do this in a million years but is it really wrong to daydream about ways to get her back? Reason I'm wondering is because I was told it's healthy to keep it all on top and not repress my thoughts?
 
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EhMan

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Welcome to CC, sorry to hear about your misfortunes with your ex,
 
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Welcome savatreatabvr - It sounds like your ex is exactly in line with what scripture promises to wrongdoers
Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.
This applies equally to women
As for missing her.. that only shows that you are still attached. If you had relations with her - there is the cause of your discomfort
1Co 6:16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."
This is not figurative - this is why extramarital relations are so damaging. The pain is not worth the pleasure.
If you did not have relations with her - it may still be uncomfortable for a while, the heart can still get entangled, although not to such an extreme.
You will heal - as long as you forgive and pray for her.
God Bless
 
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Ugly

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hi Sav... welcome to CC. Just a quick heads up, i'd be careful with your language. If the moderators see you with repeated offense they could decide to ban you, since there are rules about it. Just a friendly tip.
Also, if you are a Christian you may want to rethink your use of the term 'karma'. Merriam-Webster puts it this way...
kar·ma/ˈkärmə/Noun

1. (in Hinduism and Buddhism) The sum of a person's actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences.

The 'previous' and 'future' states of existence refer to reincarnation. The belief that a persons soul returns to earth over and over again, in different forms, being birthed and dying. the idea being that each 'existence' we hopefully grow until we 'ascend' beyond needing to grow more. I maybe be a bit off on the exact details, but as a blanket explanation its right.
Really karma is you build up good or bad within 'the universe', (basically 'god') and which you build more up of the universe gives it back in return. The nature of the word goes beyond just the simple idea of consequences and takes our actions and puts them into the hands of 'god' (the universe, where we are all one with god, and are all god) and this force acts on us. Not quite the most scriptural concept.
Again, i may be slightly off on the details, but the general concept i'm giving is right, i know. i know it sounds similar to the 'reap what he sows' in the bible, but its totally different at its heart. Once again, a friendly tip, no offense intended.

To your question about 'repressing thoughts'.. actually, it depends on the thought. If you're having thoughts of doing wrong things, then yes, you should push those out and not dwell on them. Or any negative thoughts. Now something like, wishing to go back to a previous positive time in your life... well, its a natural thing to do. And if you've just recently had a break up, its definately natural. But i also think its a bit detrimental. All you're doing is allowing your thoughts to dwell on the past, and chances are you will romanticize and idealize the relationship to be better than it really was, causing you to miss it/her more.. which only leads to a bad cycle of thinking. So don't beat yourself up over when it happens, but i would encourage you to work at avoiding those thoughts. in the long run its the better way to go.

Just remember there's a difference between pushing your thoughts down, stuffing them.. and not letting them run you. you can think about your ex, your previous relationship, but the concept is be in control of yourself and your thoughts so that you don't end up like i mentioned in my last paragraph. so the idea isn't to not think about it, its about not dwelling too much, or letting those thoughts control you.

Hope some of this helped. take care.
 
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savatreatabvr

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I know dwelling on negative thoughts isn't healthy but when something happens in life that's just so beyond the norm it's hard to not try and figure it out! I guess she feels no emptiness and heartbreak because someone else is filling those voids so next best thing is I'll do the same, wait, wouldn't that be a rebound girl? Who knows but I know it gets easier too deal with every day but it those painful thoughts that pop out of no where of her being with another man that's a killer!
 

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Hello savatreatabvr welcome to Christian Chat.
 
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Romans8

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welcome to cc enjoy u'r time GBU