Need words of wisdom

I confessed to having an affair w/someone nearly 10 years ago, to my wife about 5 days ago. She still isn't really speaking to me. I'm sure this is normal but all I can think about is why did I tell and how stupid that was....any advice?

You did the right thing maybe keep pursuing on how sorry you are and let god take care of the rest

Thx...I'm trying.

when you walk in truth.. you walk in the will and power of God. You did do the right thing. every thing that draws us from the truth, the way and the life of Christ Jesus.. leads us always from Gods blessings.

Now you have chosen truth.. now God can heal. I Pray that the Lord heals and restores all that has been broken. May the Lord bring forgiveness and mercy to bind your marriage in Him.

God bless both you and your wife.

Thx...trying.

Dear Father In Heaven

Please be with this family and the wife. Help her to be able to forgive and move past this as it is something that happened so long ago. Our brother is sorry and felt he should come clean with his wife so please help her to see that he does love her. Soften her heart and help her to be able to understand the love he has for her. Help our brother to stand firm for You always and continue to be patient with his wife as she works though this hurt. Help this family to grow stronger in You I pray in Jesus Name Amen.

Thank you for that.

Having been on the other side of this I have to tell you it could take a long while for your wife to forgive you, the length of time passed since is irrelevant - it happened but if you pray together with your wife and she is a Christian she will eventually forgive you. The trust will take a lot longer.

Thank you for your honesty and your perspective. Though it's hard to hear, I know it to be true.

You did right to tell her, bless you.

Jesus is the truth, the way and the Life. you can never fully live a life centred on Christ, walking in His way and in His abundant life unless you begin with the truth. Its impossible. praise God that he didn't allow you to walk in darkness for another ten years. God never sets us up for failure.. what He has begun in you right now He will bring to completion. You must trust in Him.

You really did the right thing man. I can relate I came clean with my wife right before we got married as well. In my situation we were both young and I had sent her away from me for a time because I was going nowhere and thought I was just dragging her down. I wasn't really ready to hear that she too had something to tell me, so a little difference, but we had been together from High School and we were both loyal while we were close together, but I guess I did the whole "free them, if they come back" thing. To be honest she never thought of us as broken up, so she felt so guilty about it. I sent her off and in 3 months realized what I had and came up with the most brilliant idea in the history of man. I thought "instead of sending her off because I'm so bad, why don't I just act right an be the man she deserves?" LOL, to me at the time that was a MAJOR revelation, to most others simple common sense.

But just keep praying, and being patient and understanding of her feelings. This is a lot to handle for anyone, but you are doing the right thing brother, and it will end up making your relationship stronger if you both endure. I pray His peace and understanding fill you both and you can come together to bring Him glory together.