New & Struggling with my marriage

Hi Everybody,

I'm new here. Looking for some guidance. I'm a Christian married to a non-believer and struggling with marriage issues. He has lots of anger issues and yells and complains about everything. But I see a lot of good in him too and often wonder if God wants me to stay and try to guide my husband to God, or if God is waiting for me to get up the courage to take care of myself and get the hell out! We have 4 children, a business that we run together, and lots of bills. I have prayed to God for years for guidance and am still no closer to an answer. Need some help!

klock

Put your trust in God, not man. I understand where your coming from, these scriptures helped me. Ask God for wisdom.

James 1:5
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

2 Cor 4:17-19
Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day. For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Psalm 118;8 It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.

1 Cor 7:14
For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

Isaiah 54:5-10
"For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the LORD of hosts ; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth. "For the LORD has called you, Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, Even like a wife of one's youth when she is rejected," Says your God. "For a brief moment I forsook you, But with great compassion I will gather you. "In an outburst of anger I hid My face from you for a moment, But with everlasting lovingkindness I will have compassion on you," Says the LORD your Redeemer. "For this is like the days of Noah to Me, When I swore that the waters of Noah Would not flood the earth again ; So I have sworn that I will not be angry with you Nor will I rebuke you. "For the mountains may be removed and the hills may shake, But My lovingkindness will not be removed from you, And My covenant of peace will not be shaken," Says the LORD who has compassion on you.

Okay. First off, Welcome to CC!

Now then, I've seen this situation many times over. I know what you mean by seeing good in him. I would have quoted 2 Cor, however it seems I was beat to it.

I can't give you very much advice on the subject, as I'm still essentially a newlywed.

I can, however, promise to pray for you. That you find the guidance you need.

I can pray for your husband as well, that he may find the light, albeit in his own time.


I hope it helps, I really do

Ray

These cases are always a lesson in God's patience, in how he put up with us also. As he could have also left us also.

Have you learned anything the Lord has been trying to teach you? Patience? Longsuffering? Have you realized what he is trying to show you?

It is a message to you. To show you just how patient he has been with you. Isn't it reasonable that you should do the same?

Now we can see how very much the Lord loves us.

May Jesus bless you my friend. Welcome to CC.