Separated wife, battling gay desires

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flight316

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Tiger, God is the great artist of everything. Sometimes we find beauty in others, even the opposte sex, as we should. There is no wrong in loving the opposite sex. You just can't lay with them like the opposte sex. You must adhere to the boundaries of relations. You must resist your urges at all costs. You could end up in a very dark place. Close that door, lock it and throw away the key. Believe me God has His reasons for forbidding this. LoveAlways
 
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wordflayer

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Aren't we forgetting something here? Jesus isnt out to punish...hes here to spread joy. Love, from what I remember of my degree, is also part of his teachings. But, for those who have problems with this...whom among you wears leather? Who works on sundays? Who shaves their hair on the sides of their heads? Whi eats the blood if animals? Who, in all honesty, is pure enough to judge amobg all who read this? Stobes? Basket full, right here...
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wordflayer

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Excuse my spelling...on a train atm but SO annoyed!
 
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wordflayer

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So God has reasons for not eating the flesh of animals with cloven hoofs and shaving your beard...own a gillette?
 
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Shaije

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tiger27 said:
This is the first time I've ever done this sort of thing, because I need HELP :( I would appreciate feedback from other women who have been in the same circumstances as me.

I have been raised a christian, was married to a christian man for 16 years, however (after 2 failed attempts), have separated - will be getting divorced. The separation was all amicable, we just weren't meant to be together & both accepted that fact. We have been separated for over a year now.

Life gave me a strange twist in that I ended up falling in love with my female friend & was with her for 3 months, in secrecy. She is gay & married. At the time, we were both in the same situation - our needs weren't being met & we found what we needed in each other, both emotionally & physically.

This woman made me feel on top of the world & made me feel special, like no-one had ever done before. What started out as a friendship, became more serious. However, we both knew that it was wrong & had to stop, so the affair ended.

We somehow have managed to stay friends, however whilst she has gotten back on with her normal life, I am struggling badly, enough that I had to go onto anti-depressants. All along I knew this was wrong, even though I haven't attended church for sometime, however lust is a powerful thing.

I do not know where to begin to get my life right again. I feel so much guilt & shame, that I wonder if God will ever forgive me. My life is a mess, riddled with confusion, depression & worthlessness.
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My heart goes out to you. I do not know what you are going through, as far as the gay issue, but i do know what it is like to feel ashamed, confused, and worthless. After my fiance killed himself in our bedroom, i fell into heavy alcohol and IV drug abuse and stayed there for 4 yrs. My life too, was a MAD mess. But let me tell you...God loves YOU, if you had been the only one on the planet, Jesus would have died JUST FOR YOU! I do not condone, nor do I condemn homosexuality. The Bible teaches us that God hates sin...BUT He LOVES the sinner. Jesus has ALRFEADY died and paid the price for ALL sin. So you see, dear friend, you dont need to be ashamed....Rest in the Lord, He will NOT forsake you. Isaiah 41:10 says....Fear not, for I am with YOU; be not dismayed, for I am YOUR God. I WILL strengthen YOU, yes I WILL help YOU, I WILL uphold YOU with MY Righteous Right Hand, and another favorite is John 3:17 For God did not send His SON into the world to condemn the world, but that the (world/YOU) through Him might be saved. If Jesus loved YOU enough to die for you then YOU MUST BE PRETTY SPECIAL, yah? Try to see what He sees and learn to trust His judgement, He is never wrong, and He is also, the ONLY one who will NEVER! let you down. Turn to Him and YOU WILL find rest for your weary soul. Gods speed.....
 
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Shaije

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tiger27 said:
Appalling? Pity? I'm not asking for anyone's pity, far from it. I'm seeking answers from Godly people in order to get my life back on track with the Lord; as a sheep who has strayed, I hear my Master calling me back.
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Just you never mind the clear and obvious ignorance of "anyone" who wishes or tries to judge you. It is for the Lord to judge. You keep your head up Sister. If you want to chat please email me. [email protected]
 
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Ugly

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tiger27 said:
Firstly, I am not yet divorced. Second, the above happened AFTER we separated, physically & spiritually, & were no longer together .. My divorce & this issue are 2 totally separate matters & my divorce is NOT an issue. My ex-husband & I have already cut the spiritual ties with our marriage .. God knows what our situation was.
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'Not divorced'... 'ex-husband'. Seems you're a little confused on the topic. I tried to help by pointing something out you seemed oblivious to, according to the bible, but if you think 'God knows your situation' and won't use His biblical standards because your situation is different, then its your life. I won't be back to this thread.
 
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wordflayer

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Ashamed, confused and worthless...in the eyes of our Lord.
Jesus, who was crucified for our sins...you stand 'ashamed' in front of him whose feet were washed by a prostitute?
Jesus forgives.
Jesus loves.
Man condemns.
Take the love Jesus has given you and spread the joy both of his love and his forgiveness and, as Ive mentiobed before, if anyone wants to judge then READ scripture...no trimming beards, no tatoos, no sex with women on or near after periods, no cloven hoofed animals, no leather and so on and so on....LIVE in simplicity and live in love
 
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Shaije

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RickShafer said:
Tiger27 -
Please disregard the appalling advice you got above from halfevil333, this was his first day on the blog and he's already been banned.
So please, don't take anything he said seriously.
I don't pretend to understand your situation.
I only know this: that God saves to the utmost.
There is nothing you have done - nothing that you have acted out - - - - that can't be forgiven.
Jesus is in the forgiving business.
And the great thing about Him is when He forgives, He forgets.
I know that what you have been through has upset your life like an earthquake.
I know you feel dirty and deranged.
- - - - But God's Grace is Greater than that!
Jesus payed such a penalty.........do you know why?
It was to reconcile us to Him. - - - No......no......no.......there is no sin great enough to
separate you from His tender mercies, (which are new every morning); and great Grace and Love.

I know right now you might feel morally disjointed, with the amplitude of soulish passion and how
both doing it and missing it must make you feel. - - - How lost and unattached you must feel.......


BUT GOD'S LOVE IS GREATER!
And He will forgive you...........(quite easily for Him). - Much easier than you can forgive yourself.

Listen,....we have all done things that are detestable in our own eyes.........do you think you are any different?
(Well, you are not). There is NO sin that Jesus didn't die for; substituting His perfect life as the sacrifice for our disjointed, filthy ones.

I'll pray -

"Thank you Lord, Jesus. - Thank You that you not only came and lived a perfect life(overcoming sin); but You were obedient to even
suffer a tormenting death that You would stand in our place.
And thank you, that You took upon Yourself, every iniquity that any of us committed, and swallowed it up in Your perfect body!
And that your unyielding life, flowed out and down Your sinless sacrifice. - - - - And by it we are cleansed!
Thank You that You shed Your sinless life, ..........for all our sins. - - -- - - -How can we ever repay, except to be thankful.
To be full of thanks.............................We are just so full of gratitude...........yhat we can't even express it......
How could such a one as You bleed and die for such the like as we?????
We have no answers,.........only You do.
And we thank You Lord; that You can restore us to that perfect state........that we had when we were children..........
Because we are children, again.
Because You loved us, .............and bought us back again!. - - - - - - - - (With Your redeeming blood)
And now we can begin again, as children ...........under the covering of Your magnificent protective wing.

Thank You Jesus; that You can restore us again to innocent children;...........even from our darkest and most seemingly unforgivable sins.
I seal it for my sister in Your most Holy and Precious Name."
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AMEN brother.....very uplifting...brought a tear to my eye.
 
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wordflayer

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Amen! God is here for us all......
 
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