Friendless in life

Hello everyone!
Heres my dilemma. Well for a while. I don't have any friends except a pen pal who lives over seas. Trust me, she is a great friend but an unbeliever and lives so far away of course we can't hang out. My coworkers are awesome but I can tell I am not their type. I'm the only one who doesn't drink or smoke pot, so it limit their "abilities" to hang out. I'm so lonely, I've become so tired of being lonely
Hopefully here I will be able to meet some fellow Christians and become friends.
Does anyone else have this problem? Finding friends in this society?

Well, there is a reason we all come here. And it isn't to escape our hectic social lives. (insert sarcasm sign here )

You have the best-est best friend ever!

Have you prayed about how you are feeling? Tell Him you lonely and would like some Godly friends in your life.

Welcome to CC, hope you find some great friends and are blessed by being here.

Yup. I can't seem to fit with many people no matter where I go for various of reasons, so for a good part I'm going solo and staying this way. Like you I have a friend but we live in different states and even with them I've lately wondered how I was able to be friends with a type of person such as them after all this time... Not sure if that's a good or a bad thing.

Anyway, I'm sure you're going to find many people here that will come to your common interests. Matter of fact if you're into humor you'll find some users here to be quite funny along with the topics brought up.

This was rich! Yeah - CC stands for the chronically crestfallen. You're in the right place pepperoni and I'm glad you're here!

Well you are not allow anymore my sister, many awesome Christ loving friends to be made here. God Bless.

I used to be a hermit and think that online communication would curb my cravings for social interaction... And to an extent, it worked. But can I just say, if you are really lonely and really want to make friends, go out and make an effort!

Please. For your own sanity. It is SO MUCH BETTER having friends in real life!

I currently have a HUGE social circle. I hang out with someone different 4-6 nights a week and I'm a total introvert. (The other nights I use to recharge.)

And don't make excuses like "there's no one like me" or "no one shares my interests" etc. There are millions of people out there, and as long as you're open and vulnerable, as well as open to differences in others, you'll have a fantastic time making friends! The people I have nothing in common with are often my favorite to hang out with because it's a change from the "norm" and I'm constantly learning around them.

I live in a smaller community (it's Montana, for crying out loud), and moved here as a total outsider.

Friends didn't find me, I found them. I made an effort and put myself out there (yes, it took a lot of courage and boldness on my part). At church I joined small groups... When someone intrigued me as a friend, I invited them to coffee. I asked for phone numbers, I invited myself to outings, I joined sports teams where I knew no one, just to make friends. And guess what... It worked!

Now, I get invited places often. I have lots of friends that I see as my family. Sure, some of the initial friendships didn't work out, but they led me to friendships that did! How cool is that?!

I'm not here because I'm socially awkward and looking for friendship, btw. (Although to this day I am STILL socially awkward... It's okay! Haha!). I'm one of the few who is here to help boredom during downtime at work and have no real intention of developing deep and meaningful relationships... (Too easy to be fake for so many and I don't trust the system.)

Anyways... Once you find those real life friends you'll know exactly what I mean in saying it's SO SO SO MUCH BETTER. And totally worth the anxiety of throwing yourself to the wolves. It is AWESOME!!

Best of luck to you!

Try visiting a Bible-believing church.

Yeah, I came in here to ask, do you go to church? If not, you should really find one and make friends unless you live in a remote area or something?

I'm pretty much friendless in life. I have a few friends but they are more still in the process of becoming deeper relationships so its hard to know how much I can confide in them. Lost all my close friends through different transitions in life...

I think its harder to make new and intimate friends the older you get, because people tend to be close friends with those they grew up with.

CC is a great place to make friends. But I have to admit its definitely not the same kind of friendship intimacy that you can experience in real life. Plant yourself in different places and experience different groups and church hop if you need to, and I'm sure you will cross people you can connect with. But you have to be willing to put yourself out there and know that you might feel uncomfortable at times, but that's okay!

There is a huge difference between virtual friends at CC and flesh and blood friends who are real. Friends I have but it is love that I want.

Everyone has a passion. Everyone has a undeveloped set of skills. Whatever sport or hobby this is seek it out in the public setting so that your conversations will be easy, as well as insightful and encouraging. You will find quickly and easily you can meet quality people at the same time as doing what you love.

I would have to agree with fallingdeep. Plant yourself in different places and try to get comfortable with new people in general. That is what I have been trying to do the past two years ( probably not with as much gusto as I used to). I do crave more christian interaction that is why I joined CC. I have used Meetup, fitness bootcamps, volunteered, and taken trips with recreation centers in my area. I am socially awkward so talking to people was a bit of a challenge but it has helped. You don't have to church hop to find christian fellowship. If you love where you are now you could talk to groups in other churches that are a bit more active and get involved with some of their activities; just be honest about your intentions.

I have the same problem and for some time God gave me th scripture 'Bad company currupt good morals'.So in prayer time I was asking him what do you mean Lord I don't even have friends.So I came to the conclusion,you don't want to be so lonely(like I am) that you confide in bad company.Best pray about it and before long things will be sorted.