How to identify the right partner for love among your female friends?

with that question, do you realize what territory you are going to tread on?
are you sure you can handle the potential drama that comes with it?

I was making a joke. I asked OnceFallen to delete my account, so it really does not matter if Hameen is angry at me for making a joke or not.

My particular brand of humor is not appreciated on this forum. Beside that fact, a guy asked me to come back to the forum, but has not talked to me since I have returned.
I really see no point in continuing posting on the forum.

feels like ecclesiastes?

I time to leave? Yes. I think so. A time to refrain from posting, to paraphrase “to refrain from embracing”. Yes

I think it is time for me to move on and put message boards behind me. Goodbye, and best wishes for the future.

I only know you so briefly, I barely scratched the surface, but whatever this "in a nutshell" experience is, I believe your thoughts are capable of influence, at the very least

I have already influenced people for the worse, so it is better to keep my thoughts to myself.

I never saw you influence people for the worse.

that sad face is my first negative response so far, according to my memory

Thanks, that is very kind. I am an angry person, and I think my bitterness has made an unhappy atmosphere. I need to stop being angry before I come back.

I am about to be very busy with work, anyway.

Good Bye

Don’t take any wooden nickels.

I will miss you so much.

This “friends first” is bilge and will leave you forever in the friend zone. Start by DATING, if you don’t hit it off, DATE another girl, etc. until you fall in love.

If a girl sees you as “just a pal”, that may be all she wrote, she might never get to that romantic stage.

You will miss me like a person misses a hole in the head.

Just think, with me gone, everyone can now come out to play in safety. I’m sure quite a few people have been in hiding in order to not have to interact with the mean, old dragon.

Stay. It's boring here without you.

Well that puts me out of the running. I can be very lazy.

You done left, LaVie? You leaving me here with all these non Alabamians? Come back now!

Now!

I don't have any female friends I could marry. But I have a friend that could marry me.

I have male friends and they feel easy to hang out with. I sometimes think of some of them as spouse material, but it always fails badly. The guy I married was someone I met at a music course. Perhaps not love at first sight, but fireworks and emotions for sure. How I was blinded by them!

I don't think it would work out well for me that way. I cannot feel comfortable around a girl who I barely know and immediately seek to become romantic with. I need to know the person really well before I am attracted (otherwise it seems more like lust). There was this one girl that I took no special notice of at first, but as I spent more time with her (we were in the same "Theme Learning Community" last year in college) I slowly developed a love that I had never experienced before. She would say seemingly unimportant things about herself, but these things automatically seemed special and important to me (like how she loves Almond milk and rollercoasters). She would greet everyone with a cute high pitched "hi ______!" that automatically made my day. She also could make the cutest faces. She was the first girl that I ever loved because of her personality first, and her looks grew on me (a lot) as I got to know her. What was awesome is that I didn't feel ashamed about my love for her because it was pure and not lustful. Unfortunately, she is not a Christian, but I have been praying for her salvation daily.

I wrote her a thank you note to show my appreciation for how she changed my life for the better. I told her how I was more of a loner before, but now I have opened up and am more comfortable being myself due to her. I am sure part of that was God's doing as well because it was a season of trial and transformation for me. She is really busy this summer and said she can't really focus on keeping the relationship going for the time being. It looks unlikely at this point due to that, but I have three more years of college left. Maybe it isn't God's will for it to be. If not, I have to yield. I'd be disappointed though. Hard to believe there is anyone better out there for me when you have only met one person who is so incredibly compassionate and kind. The bar has been set high. I have to trust God though; He knows best.