remarriage after divorce.

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Jewel5712

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the check mark is my amen button. Thanks for responding. I think some women believe a man gets over a broken heart as easily as a fender bender. We know that isn't true.
Isnt it said that a woman falls in love faster but even though it takes a man longer to fall in love ..he usually falls "harder" when he does..
 

Jewel5712

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yes but many churches discriminate.
Well..it used to be that the CONSUMATION was the official "marriage binder" so..if she has SEX..(not necissarily marriage..in this day n age) shes broken the marriage covenant
 

calibob

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Well..it used to be that the CONSUMATION was the official "marriage binder" so..if she has SEX..(not necissarily marriage..in this day n age) shes broken the marriage covenant
That term is older than me dearie. Believe it or not!
 

calibob

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Well..it used to be that the CONSUMATION was the official "marriage binder" so..if she has SEX..(not necissarily marriage..in this day n age) shes broken the marriage covenant
I don't really think it takes longer for a man to fall in love, just longer to figure it out.;);)
 

calibob

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boys learn yong to distance our selfs form emotions. I starts with bullying and teasing. It's ok to hit back but don't cry or their a sissy. So we learn to suck it up get mad, fight or yell. But not to let how we realy feel show. By the time we're 20 we don't really know how we feel.
 

Waggles

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I know you re charismatic
No I am not. I am Pentecostal.
The Revival Fellowship to which I belong conducts itself decently and in order according to scripture,
especially in close accord with the instructions given by the apostle Paul.
 

calibob

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No I am not. I am Pentecostal.
The Revival Fellowship to which I belong conducts itself decently and in order according to scripture,
especially in close accord with the instructions given by the apostle Paul.
maybe the word has diffrent meaning here. Charismatic churches are mostly full gospel teaching churches. Penticostals are one, assemblies of God are another that don't believe that the holy spirit left us when the original 12 died. The mainline churches call us holy rollers as a derogatory title. Full gospel refers to the teachings of penticoast. Which catholics, lutherans, methodists don't teach much here.

The definition of the word in the context I was using it is "SPIRIT FILLED" Thereby all penticostals are chairsmatics. while the reverse isn't true. Not all charismatics are penticostals. Charismatic is not a brand any more than cola is. It's a flavor. So to speak.
 

Waggles

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We have couples who have remarried in our Fellowship.
Firstly, there are those who have suffered marriage breakdowns, divorced, etc. prior to their baptisms of
water and the Holy Spirit - that is before their conversion and membership of the body of Christ.
Usually such people are themselves single or have remarried in the world.
But their repentance unto Godliness covers their sins and they enter the grace of the gospel.
Sometimes only one spouse will believe and receive the Holy Spirit. That does lead to complications …

Secondly, even in a strict Bible believing church as ours, people do wrong.
And we get separations, breakdowns, and yes, adultery (and all the misery and hurt that comes with this).
People get put out of fellowship for a while and given the directive to get their act together and sort out their marriage.
If this is not possible or desired by the parties involved then people leave permanently.

In the end sometimes both remain separated and attend different congregation halls to avoid embarrassment.
Most often one leaves for good and one (ex)spouse remains in fellowship.
Now and then both leave and do their own thing in the world.

People who have gone through such do remarry in our church - usually if one (ex)spouse has done the adultery thing
and no longer walks in the way of the Lord. Then the person who has not committed adultery is free to remarry.
But the oversight do get it wrong from time to time. Whilst adultery is the scriptural basis for separation and divorce,
the women of our church also know that many a husband can ruin a marriage through their failure to love their wives.
 

calibob

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We have couples who have remarried in our Fellowship.
Firstly, there are those who have suffered marriage breakdowns, divorced, etc. prior to their baptisms of
water and the Holy Spirit - that is before their conversion and membership of the body of Christ.
Usually such people are themselves single or have remarried in the world.
But their repentance unto Godliness covers their sins and they enter the grace of the gospel.
Sometimes only one spouse will believe and receive the Holy Spirit. That does lead to complications …

Secondly, even in a strict Bible believing church as ours, people do wrong.
And we get separations, breakdowns, and yes, adultery (and all the misery and hurt that comes with this).
People get put out of fellowship for a while and given the directive to get their act together and sort out their marriage.
If this is not possible or desired by the parties involved then people leave permanently.

In the end sometimes both remain separated and attend different congregation halls to avoid embarrassment.
Most often one leaves for good and one (ex)spouse remains in fellowship.
Now and then both leave and do their own thing in the world.

People who have gone through such do remarry in our church - usually if one (ex)spouse has done the adultery thing
and no longer walks in the way of the Lord. Then the person who has not committed adultery is free to remarry.
But the oversight do get it wrong from time to time. Whilst adultery is the scriptural basis for separation and divorce,
the women of our church also know that many a husband can ruin a marriage through their failure to love their wives.
We have no fault one party divorces here the only reason need stated is irreconsileable differences on the part of one party. A wife or husband can tell the other to go fly a kyte. we still have to go to court to solve child support, custody and property disputes but the decision to divorce is a one sided matter in many states and if the other party contests they can lose visitation rights for being hostile to the first party. If we want to see our kids we must sign the divorce. I was sent to mediation where a court appointed attourney decided what I needed to do to see my kids again. That was a long time ago but I'm positive I'm not the only one here. In fact I've heard from some with similar stories.
 

Faith-n-Christ

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yes but many churches discriminate.
Today's churches ( alot) do that. Its easier for them to judge you than look at their own sins. (Tim. ( itchy ears))

I was done the same way. A church I started going to (after divorce) Need help with the youth group. (I can pass a background check to work in the ER and get on a military base.) I can pass a background check to work with the youth. Every Sun. Announcing the help needed. Every time I offered, "they had it covered" that was not the only church either. I was treated like the plague or like I was there to steal their husbands.

It is frustrating and sad. Few churches are truly home for the lost and broken, seeking compassion, guidance and fellowship. I finally got over it, and get my fellowship on here or my facebook and groups on Facebook. I miss the personal interaction ( church family ) part of it. Just not worth being treated like a leper.

I pray the Lord gives us outcasts a strong spiritual foundation and a blessed church family. Even if that means he sends and angel.
 

Jewel5712

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Today's churches ( alot) do that. Its easier for them to judge you than look at their own sins. (Tim. ( itchy ears))

I was done the same way. A church I started going to (after divorce) Need help with the youth group. (I can pass a background check to work in the ER and get on a military base.) I can pass a background check to work with the youth. Every Sun. Announcing the help needed. Every time I offered, "they had it covered" that was not the only church either. I was treated like the plague or like I was there to steal their husbands.

It is frustrating and sad. Few churches are truly home for the lost and broken, seeking compassion, guidance and fellowship. I finally got over it, and get my fellowship on here or my facebook and groups on Facebook. I miss the personal interaction ( church family ) part of it. Just not worth being treated like a leper.

I pray the Lord gives us outcasts a strong spiritual foundation and a blessed church family. Even if that means he sends and angel.
Thats why i like my new church..it really DOES minister to the down trodden as thier NORM not just has a committee within the church to do it..the down trodden IS the church..lol
 

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Plz what if a man start sleeping around with different women, is a woman free to leave a man and remarry?
 

Jewel5712

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Plz what if a man start sleeping around with different women, is a woman free to leave a man and remarry?
Biblically..i dont think is specifally says..but it definately has broken the covenant of marriage
 
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Plz what if a man start sleeping around with different women, is a woman free to leave a man and remarry?
Yes, it is acceptable to divorce your husband if he is committing adultery. One of the only reasons according to the Bible.
 
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If she remarries..you are free to marry..the covenant between the 2 of you is broken
nope. the context of that verse is when one partner of the marriage union is an unbeliever. this is in reference to a married person being saved and their spouse remaining in unbelief.

1 Corinthians 7:12-16
12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[b] to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
 
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A divorced person must either be reconciled to their spouse or remain celibate unless the spouse dies, then they are free to remarry in the faith.
 

Jewel5712

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A divorced person must either be reconciled to their spouse or remain celibate unless the spouse dies, then they are free to remarry in the faith.
I USED to think this..n thought..how UNFAIR to people whos spouses have cheated and walked away from the marriage..then the one left behind not only has to live with the feelings of being betrayed and rejected BUT they cant ever marry again til thier cheater spouse dies? I was 25 with 2 babies when my husband left the state with another woman without turning back..a LONG lonely lifetime of being single since hes still alive (although re married) ..the covenant of marriage became "official" with CONSUMATING the marriage..so if one of the spouses consumates with another tgey have definately broken the covenant of marriage in Gods eyes ...NOT sayimg there still cant be healing and reconcilliation in a marriage after an afair but God releases a person from a cheating spouse..theres many ways to "die" other than literally when it talks bout tgat regarding marriage and divoorce..DEFINATELY wasnt Gods original plan for marriage but then again..when has MAN EVER stuck to Gods original plan :/