Beautifully said. Thank you. You are right. I'm a really capable person and it's very difficult for me to not handle things myself. It's a lesson I continue to get to learn. Thank you for the reminder. I believe there is spiritual warfare to try to take out the head of the family before he even has a family. Great point.
That's the super frustrating thing to me about all this. I made some very unwise choices as a teenager, but I felt it was because my parents basically just opted out of my life during that time period and I felt completely lost. I've worked so very hard to be there for him and be involved in his life so he'd always feel loved and connected. I didn't want him to go through the pain I went through. We support whatever endeavor he wants to try. Our house is the one the kids always come over, we know all his friends, we take him to school and pick him up every day, all the kids ride with us to out of town sporting events, he's never known a day of daycare, we talk to each of his friends' parents if he's going to their house, always know who's driving, etc. He was getting stressed out in school, so in reflecting, I think he started some of the stuff as a coping mechanism for stress. We've allowed him to move from private school to public school, to private online school at his request to help create the right learning environment for him.
He is kind of floating right now. Not much interests him. He had a job for a short period of time and quit. He's quit sports. He quit (public) school. He doesn't find a passion for anything. He is meeting with a counselor once a week. His pediatrician is involved. There are also a couple of specialists he's seen. It's hard to see him like this. Disconnected. He is still very interested in hanging out with his friends and does that frequently. I play video games with him, drive with him, sit in his room while he multi-tasks on technology as these are things that interest him. Just want him to be joyful, a contributing member of society, and his version of successful.
Thank you, You are welcome. Well we all have lessions we need to learn, You are welcome, Thanks.
Well, I feel the same way, I mean they send me to school, I get picked on and teased, and then they wonder why i start acting out, and the next thing I know by high school they are getting divorced, and my moms boyfriend is throwing a glass of water in my face every morning just to get me out of bed to go to school. They never consider counceling they don't talk to me about my problems,
Thats why I became anti social when I was 8 years old. It's why my first criminal conviction was at the age of 13.
I don't think people actually consider how serious it is to give life to another human being and raise them into adulthood. I think it's great that you do your best to give him a warm, loving enviroment,
I wish my parents had done that. So basically, your controlling his life, but in a way that strives to keep him out of trouble. Well the key to coping with stress is to reduce it, sounds like he needs more vacation time, just little breaks to get away from everything and enjoy his time with friends and family with out work and stress.
Actually, I was watching a Michael Moore Documentry not too long ago, and how some of the european countries became #1 is by eliminating home work and keeping learning time to about 3 -4 hours a day. Because the brain needs time to digest and process the information it's taking in.
The Documentry is called "Where to Invade next."
Infact in Germany, doctors will prescribe up to 3 weeks in a spa to combat the effects of stress.
I kid you not, we are living in the wrong country lol. I speak as a Canadian, we should be living over in Europe.
Actually when it comes to post secondary education, look to places like Slovania, Where they have free education for foreign students.
I get it, it sounds like he is suffering from a bit of depression, you should talk to him and your doctor about it, well I would talk to your doctor, it could also be a sign of Autism. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 17, after I finished school and after my parents kicked me out.
Actually it could be that he is a hands on learner, he may prefer a trade school where he can be creative and work with his hands. Get him some pants and colouring material, he might have a talent for drawing and art. if he does try giving him challenging math questions, he might excel in areas where he is being challenged. Also give him a few different computer programs to work with, like Microsoft Office, or Greeting Card Deluxe. Office will open a lot of job oppertunities for him if he knows how to use it, and Greeting card deluxe will allow him to kinda use his creativity skills.
