Tired of the game

what do we get when we keep focusing on what we think is wrong with what the others are saying?
are we trying to show the world that we corrected someone else? does that mean we are better?
if our main goal is to tell the truth (without the thought of having people say, hey i agree with u, u're awesome!!) does that mean, we need to respond with a worldly attitude and spot all the mistakes and correct 'em all without even paying attention on what they say that made sense? if our main goal is to correct someone, why do we have to post it in public when we are not sure what their explanations behind it are? we have private messages, why not use that if we want to correct someone for their own good? or are we thinking of ourselves as well, that we want it to be public so the others will witness? others will witness what? that we corrected somone? that we are better than the others? does that mean we have to be rude, sarcastic, judgemental (name it) to other christians because we think God speaks more to us than the others? (im not confused even tho i have so many questions)

thats what i consider 'the game' that most christians play

Exactly, exactly, exactly, exactly, exactly!!!!! The Bible is not literal when it says how we are supposed to get married. When people say they want a Biblical marriage they don't literally mean a Jewish arranged marriage, they mean they want a modern marriage from our culture based on Biblical principles. This is why I couln't understand why some people on this forum comes down so hard on those who's interpretation of how those Biblical principles and how they apply are different than there's. I mean, isn't an interpretation, by definition, open to different interprations???

I'm sorry you don't want to be part of this discussion anymore, but thank you for your response!!!

Amen, sister!!!

hello all I am not a single, however just wanted to put my 2 cents in here please. first all Christianity can be a game if not played by the rules. I am tried of people playing as Christians but what can I do to change it. I can't force those that say they Jesus keep His commandments.

Joh 14:15If ye love me, keep my commandments.

But I can see to it that I do. you see dating or as it has been referred as the Game. is only and can only be as what you make it, same as marriage I have done enough in 30 years to allow my wife to be justified in making my life miserable, or vice versa, but we chose not to. we have put all the bad behind us and are still looking for the good, I often have said that we can't always change the situation that we are in but we can changed the way we look at it. example one could say that because our oldest daughter went to be with Her, Jesus at 19, that God was mean by taking her life so early, or we can count it a blessing that He is keeping her real close to Him and that he allowed us 19 years with her. We as Christian should see, grab and cling to the good we see in things and in people. I prayed many years that God would make My wife a better wife, But I didn't get my request until I prayed that God would make me a better Husband. so maybe it is not the game itself that bis so bad, but rather the way we are playing it. just a thought!!
I would like address those who say that dating itself is a sin. anythying we do in life can be good or bad; Televisions I can watch preaching, or the Office. I can lay out of church to watch football or I can turn it off and go to church. inter-net I can preach or i can go to the dating sites. even family or a marriage can be wrong if we put it before God. Church can be used wrong Jesus taught us that as he whipped out the money changers. But Listen to God rather than me If God is telling not to date then I wouldn't date. but it is not dating itself that is wrong !!

you know you commented that you are tired of how christians fall for what the world defines as romance, a relationship and love. However, you didn't define what you believe those things are. I'm curious as to how you believe it should work. I'm sure with as strong of views as you have, you have formed a concrete opinion.

I believe some people cannot control their desires and needs when it comes to the other sex.

I'd like to know that too. Take "dating" for example. What does that mean? Well, it means different things to different people. I mean it's been implied earlier that this thread that one has to be having sex to be considered dating, ie dating is bad because forinication is a sin. Well if that's the case I guess I've neve dated! I hate to sound like a broken record with I Kissed Dating Goodbye, but he says here on the middle of page 13, right after he says he doesn't believe that dating in itself is a sin, he says "Rejecting typical dating does not mean that you'll never spend time alone with a guy or girl... if dating were merely a guy and a girl going out for coffee, we wouldn't need to spend a whole book talking about it, would we?" Well, I've had dates that were quite literally just that. I'd challenge anyone to call that a sinful game.

And when I hear the word "game" I hear something done for fun and selfish reasons. Just like the context of "mind game." And while I'm not totally sure what a "mind game" is, I know it doesn't involve open and honest communication.

But, I don't see Christians dating in a way that would justify using the word "game." Those that I know aren't playing for fun, they're playing for keeps, because they want to get married.

tootsie: people believe the fantasy because it's fun, and the romantic endevor should be fun, not a chore. don't stop believeing the fantasy because the fantasy lives! i know, i lived it, until my husband died. my advice from someone who lived it; date as many people as you can, that way you find out not only what you like, but what you don't like, what you need and and what you don't need, (ex: if you need to feel 'nutured and supported'') don't forget the 'law of attraction,' work on yourself first. it's not selfish. all you are and all you have are a gift from god. be the best 'you' you can be. be grateful and you wil attract what you are looking for, even if you're not sure what that is, god knows.

Only orthodox Jews do it right. Engage. No contact for 3 months. No touching. No idea why christians adopted the worldly method. You can trust noone. Stay away from them all.

This is a ten year old thread. The OP and many of the posters are no longer here, including the person you responded to..

LOL I clicked the wrong arrow I think. I thought this was page 2. Thanks!

I'm a people kind of person and a firm believer that everyone I cross paths with or feel the Holy Spirit leads me to reach out to, is part of His plan. Whether He will use me to help them, or they will help me, or I am meant to make a life long friend...there is a reason. Maybe it's simply His way of teaching me something.

The bottom line is trusting God for His timing and the purpose and walk that He has chosen for me. It's important not to shut windows and doors that God opens...but to walk through them.

He knows the desires of our hearts. That's why it's important to let Him lead but more important that we follow. If you don't follow the prompting of the Holy Spirit, then you may miss out of God's lessons and blessings. Advice from other people are just suggestions to take to our Father in prayer.

It's true that we can't put God in a box and we need to remember that nothing is impossible for Him.

Lol...😀

Some old threads can be beneficial for new members to read...

But for us old hands it can be depressing to see so many nicknames we recognize, that are guests or banned.