Stillbirth
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I am sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved son through stillbirth. I too experienced a still birth, bracketed by two first trimester miscarriages as well, so I understand the pain of loss, grief, and confusion such can cause. I will pray for your healing, and that you draw close to God during this trying time. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
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What happen was a horrible thing to experience but something that God in His wisdom and love allowed to happen for reasons that at this moment may not be clear. I am praying for both you and your husband during this most tying trial and to eventually lessen the hurt and anger. I have gotten angry at God too on more than one occasion but usually over something trivial. Jesus walked as a human too and fully understands the human condition and is full of mercy and compassion. I have asked Him to come to you now to comfort you and to ease your grief and sense of extreme loss. God Bless You.
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I'm in agreement with the prayers here. I just read the Book of Job and his whole trial boiled down to his faith and trust in the Lord. It may help you at this point in your life and know that 'All things work together for good to those who love the Lord'. Btw, I have a few grandkids in Heaven I will meet someday. We can't lose w/Jesus.
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Your story brought me to tears. I too have experienced something similar. As a health professional, I don't believe the hurt ever goes away. All of our experiences, good and bad, stay with us. Sometimes. I think we just put it on the back burner and it still simmers away.
From my experience, there will be good days & bad days. I saw a wee girl in the supermarket today; her & her Mum were so happy. I am not a Mum & never will be. Some days I feel like a total outcast.
There are many internet resources now to help you - free counselling etc - I had nothing back when I was young, so that is a blessing in itself.
Pour out your grief to friends, family, a counsellor, put it on paper, rant and rave when you're alone, exercise till you get some of that hurt adrenaline out. I've seen & counselled many women who kept all their emotions bottled up, and they usually suffer from it. Some people don't like talking about feelings though & are private people like me. My Dad never would - so that's why writing or recording your feelings is good. I find a journal helps me alot to put things into perspective. Most of all be kind to yourself - and kind to your hubby - & don't expect too much from each other. Try not to get too hung up on the little things that don't matter.
My generation, we were made of sterner stuff I think. I was brought up to be self sufficient, and not to 'whine' about things - I was also told to be grateful for the little that I had.
On a medical note, have you & your hubby had testing done to see why maybe this is happening? Give yourself time to grieve though before you even look into doing that though.
I think these sorts of events are too emotive for us to just say platitudes like 'it all gets better with time.' For me, it has all dulled with time, but I can't say it has got any better.
I have no doubt though that like me, you will see your babies in Heaven one day. Imagine the joy and happiness you will feel!!
Give yourself time to grieve. It's OK to be angry and to rave against God & probably everyone else for a while. Most ppl are understanding & patient. God will never turn away from you, & he will bless you one day. I can feel it in my waters - or I'm not a woman!
I am praying for you right now. Take care and do let us know how you are going x
From my experience, there will be good days & bad days. I saw a wee girl in the supermarket today; her & her Mum were so happy. I am not a Mum & never will be. Some days I feel like a total outcast.
There are many internet resources now to help you - free counselling etc - I had nothing back when I was young, so that is a blessing in itself.
Pour out your grief to friends, family, a counsellor, put it on paper, rant and rave when you're alone, exercise till you get some of that hurt adrenaline out. I've seen & counselled many women who kept all their emotions bottled up, and they usually suffer from it. Some people don't like talking about feelings though & are private people like me. My Dad never would - so that's why writing or recording your feelings is good. I find a journal helps me alot to put things into perspective. Most of all be kind to yourself - and kind to your hubby - & don't expect too much from each other. Try not to get too hung up on the little things that don't matter.
My generation, we were made of sterner stuff I think. I was brought up to be self sufficient, and not to 'whine' about things - I was also told to be grateful for the little that I had.
On a medical note, have you & your hubby had testing done to see why maybe this is happening? Give yourself time to grieve though before you even look into doing that though.
I think these sorts of events are too emotive for us to just say platitudes like 'it all gets better with time.' For me, it has all dulled with time, but I can't say it has got any better.
I have no doubt though that like me, you will see your babies in Heaven one day. Imagine the joy and happiness you will feel!!
Give yourself time to grieve. It's OK to be angry and to rave against God & probably everyone else for a while. Most ppl are understanding & patient. God will never turn away from you, & he will bless you one day. I can feel it in my waters - or I'm not a woman!
I am praying for you right now. Take care and do let us know how you are going x
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I’m very sorry to hear about your loss and that you and your husband have been going through a very rough time. I’m praying that God will surround you with His infinite love and fill you with the comfort and peace only He can bring. May He draw you closer to Himself, provide strength and protection as you lean upon Him. Also, you might find some encouragement in these links: bit.ly/2mlhBXX and bit.ly/2kUoDCO.
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Hi Neatne how are you going? I was thinking about you and wondering how you are.
Please message me privately if you need a wee bit of counselling, or just someone to vent to. I work with people in these types of areas, so I'm used to listening and helping others.
I do hope you are feeling a wee bit better.
Please message me privately if you need a wee bit of counselling, or just someone to vent to. I work with people in these types of areas, so I'm used to listening and helping others.
I do hope you are feeling a wee bit better.
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