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Lenoir

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Lanolin said:
If you all read the Bible, which Im sure most of you do, a year is nothing! 7 years was nothing to Jacob to woo Rachel. Because he was so in love with her, it didnt seem very long. And he was young too.

Abraham and Sarah, well how long did they wait until Sarah was pregnant? it was YEARS.

why in such a hurry? Patience is a virtue, not a sentence.

Plus who doesnt know the maxim marry in haste, repent at leisure. Just how long did it take for people to marry the first time? If both ended in divorce, what does that tell you?
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Jacob even worked another 7 years after her father tricked him; God rest his soul, what a guy. He doesn’t get enough credit for being set on doing things the right way. Many (dare I say most) men would have had that “street justice” mentality and just tried to run off with her. But to be fair they lived a lot longer in the Bible. Patience is hard to practice when you feel you don’t have much time to get things right.
 
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Rickt4du

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I’m case anyone is interested. This relationship has lasted 4 1/2 years. I’ve been patient. I have trusted God. I am about to jet!
 
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Rickt4du said:
Just for the record.. I wasn't ready to just jump either. Lol. Im just thinking.. isn't it about time to jump?
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There was a female radio talk show host I used to listen to that suggested getting to know the potential spouse for two years before making a decision. I thought that was good advice at the time and still think it is good advice.
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

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Rickt4du said:
I’m case anyone is interested. This relationship has lasted 4 1/2 years. I’ve been patient. I have trusted God. I am about to jet!
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Good for you
Most men proclaim their own goodness but a faithful man is hard to find

I like it when men follow up and keep their word...all the best
 
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Karlon

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Rickt4du said:
I am 51... a Christian.. former youth pastor, in the best relationship of my entire life.
Carrie and I have been dating for 10 months. We are both divorced and have adult children.
I absolutely love this woman more than I can express in words.
She is the Godliest, smartest, the most beautiful, hilarious woman I have ever known.
Our relationship started with God as the center and we have conducted ourselves accordingly. Purity isnt the issue.
I want to marry her.
She is very intentional.. the way she goes about being a girlfriend. I believe she loves me.. yet, she wont tell me so. She knows I want to hear it. She says she doesnt want to move too fast. 10 MONTHS! Am I moving too fast? We arent 20 here. She is my age.
Im not digging this weird timeline. March will be a year.
I have in Faith, already bought a ring. I absolutely do not pressure her.. I actually wish I would have been THIS guy in my youth...
But, I am not going to just date her forever. Im starting to feel anxious about US.
I suppose my question is...
Should I just continue and let her timeline lead? She says she is allowing yhe Holy Spirit to guide her in this. Well, I am too. And I seem to be at a different spot on this "timeline"
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right on, 10 months?!!!!! most relationships know if things can be extended after the 1st date. as far as love, i think something is being said without being said. allowing the H.S.'s leading? my greatness! it's
possible she may have heard the word about the relationship already & doesn't know it or she may never hear from the H.S. again! no, don't let her run this deal. she may be declining to say "i love you" so she doesn't develop feelings for romance. but if that's the case, it isn't right to keep someone on hold. i used to attend a church where the pastor would say, when confronted about a subject, "i haven't been led by the H.S. in that direction". he may NEvER hear form the H.S. about anything. stay away from that remark when heard. if your heart strongly tells you to move on, move on. blessings to the both of you.
 
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Rickt4du said:
I am 51... a Christian.. former youth pastor, in the best relationship of my entire life.
Carrie and I have been dating for 10 months. We are both divorced and have adult children.
I absolutely love this woman more than I can express in words.
She is the Godliest, smartest, the most beautiful, hilarious woman I have ever known.
Our relationship started with God as the center and we have conducted ourselves accordingly. Purity isnt the issue.
I want to marry her.
She is very intentional.. the way she goes about being a girlfriend. I believe she loves me.. yet, she wont tell me so. She knows I want to hear it. She says she doesnt want to move too fast. 10 MONTHS! Am I moving too fast? We arent 20 here. She is my age.
Im not digging this weird timeline. March will be a year.
I have in Faith, already bought a ring. I absolutely do not pressure her.. I actually wish I would have been THIS guy in my youth...
But, I am not going to just date her forever. Im starting to feel anxious about US.
I suppose my question is...
Should I just continue and let her timeline lead? She says she is allowing yhe Holy Spirit to guide her in this. Well, I am too. And I seem to be at a different spot on this "timeline"
Rick
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You reach a certain age where you either know what you want, or you don't. Ten months is plenty long. Try to ascertain why she is hesitant to get married, especially if she loves you. If she doesn't then perhaps consider moving on. Yeah, gonna be some heartbreak for sure if it comes to that. Seems to me that bit about the Holy Spi1/2 years have passed since your OP so it would be interesting to know how it all turned out.
 
tourist

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Rickt4du said:
I’m case anyone is interested. This relationship has lasted 4 1/2 years. I’ve been patient. I have trusted God. I am about to jet!
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Let her go and move on. Don't waste any more time on her. It is a lost cause.
 
Lanolin

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People, the one OP was dating has now lasted 4 and a half years.
I thought he meant when he was about to jet, that he was going to marry her. Like elope.

?! Unless jet means something else.
 
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jennymae

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It means, at least in American English, that he was going to leave (her) real quick.
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

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jennymae said:
It means, at least in American English, that he was going to leave (her) real quick.
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huh, I thought he was eloping to NZ.

I've had to counsel many people who'd done that and regretted it.
 
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