Getting Enough Lovin’

They are plenty of Bible men with multiple wives. That's well documented throughout the Bible. However, RasputinOz wrote that monogamy "was never meant to be unless you were an Elder or Deacon according to scripture." That's why I asked RasputinOz to cite scripture.

I'm really not asking for or interested in implications. Implications are subjective. Cults have been founded on implications.

Anyway, I would like respond to your particular post here in greater detail. Just not sure that I have time right now. Hopefully, later

Because the letter was written in a time and place where polygamy was common, and becoming a Christian didn't mean you were able to divorce all but one of them.

When I read the verse, what comes to mind is that you’re focus will be divided with how many people you are married to. It would be best if you were only married to Christ so your service would be concentrated in Him. However, man is flesh as well. If he could keep his flesh in check, instead of compounding temptation, even having a woman to assist him in his ministry, one woman is enough.

I am taking it you don't like the Scritpures already mentioned. I can find no scriptures that say it was wrong. but there are places where it only mentions on wife.

But as we no longer under the law I guess it really doesn't matter.

But it all now is just an issue as I am convinced no woman would ever share her husband as that is how we are brought up.

Now it is Happy Wife Happy Life

That’s how we were brought up but the next generation subscribes to new absurd philosophies. No longer can you take for granted the XX or XY system for gender identification. A hundred years from now they will tell of these days, eyebrows furrowed in disbelief....if we have a hundred years.

In my opinion, it’s a privilege to meet my companion’s needs. Developing a pleasing attitude and service-driven mindset demonstrates my willingness to address his concerns with a welcoming spirit. His desire is not a duty, hardship, or begrudging task. It’s a physical confirmation of his delight and preference for my touch and comfort.

Through our intimacy I affirm his desirability and sate his need for release in the arms of the one he loves and trusts.. Our engagement is his respite from the demands and expectations the world throws his way. In our time of togetherness he is free to give of himself without repressing awkwardness or vulnerability. My acceptance tells him he’s okay as-is.

That mindset isn’t borne in the marriage bed. It begins with our commitment to do him good all of our days and become wise tenders of the garden we’ve been placed beside. Whatever we plant and nourish will bring forth fruit. We must consider if our seeds are beneficial to both or not.

If we want him to anticipate his homecoming with joyful expectation. If we yearn to be the apple of his eye. We must be willing to dispense the respect and admiration he craves. In spite of his imperfections. We must use our intuition and gentleness to calm the storm and provide the resting place he lacks.

And if we’re wise, we’ll grasp the value our otherness provides. We’ll see the impact of our essence and the response it evokes within him. And we’ll stoke it again and again. In time, we’ll view our service as an offering to the Holy One and marvel at the oneness we’ve wrought through constancy and selflessness.