Talking to Men - Women of opposite sex

I read this book on how to Catch you a Man and get Married in 9 steps.
And it was super stupid of course - but some of the stuff seems to be correct.

One of the things it said was
Ask the man ALL the questions when your having dinner - and let him talk all night long. when he remembers the night he will realize how much fun he's had because he just talked about HIMSELF all night long. LOL He don't wanna listen to you.

Oh Pot AY to, Po tAT oooohhh You know what I mean missy! haha

YOU ARE A KEEPER!
I am honestly crying 3 seconds into the beginning of the movie because I read WAY too much into it and movie music gets me in my feels all the time - even in boy action movies lol

Haha well I don’t cry 3 seconds into the movie but I totally understand all the feels she could have... maybe cause I’m sensitive.

But you cry?😁

In all honesty I think it goes that you need to have common interests, and be willing to learn about the other person’s interests too.

Like I’m a gal that likes Jane Austen period romances (“girly films”) but I also like Godzilla, which is more of a “guy film” I guess.

which Godzilla and I guess you could call it a guy movie I never really thought romantic as girl movies or action as guy movies. I enjoy both romantic and action movies I take after my Dad who loved a good romantic movie and would replay the ending of certain movies more than once and you be seeing him tear up just a little bit.

Awwww my dad was like that too :3 At least with like You've Got Mail. Hmmmm which Godzilla.....maybe the new one? King of Monsters. If not the 2000's ish one would be hilarious to laugh at. The first US 2010's Godzilla was pretty neat too.

Gladiator is one of my fave movies!!! And Braveheart!!! And 300!!!!

I don’t like chick flicks so I’m not invited to the party lol

Dudette!!! I have had a lot of instances I ask a lot of questions to get to know her, she answers them and doesn’t ask questions back. Its frustrating! I think we need a topic talking to women lol

I love you've got mail and sleeping in Seattle a good one to and then there is L.A story which is a good romantic comedy and i love how that movie ends. you can't help but get goosebumps watching the ending of that movie. I have a list of romantic movies i could list and and of course some good action movies to lol

out of curiosity, do you ever place boundaries on a guy or break off a friendship with a guy BECAUSE you are attracted to him? Or perhaps it was a relationship few would approve of?

To answer your question of flirting/approaching men...technically speaking...a good man will approach you first; if a man is not sol bold as initiate conversation, then either he may not be interested, or he lacks confidence; in either case I do not see the long-term sustainability of the relationship.

Generally speaking, it's not so much the topics; but how you appear in frame--how confident are you? Do you maintain eye contact? Are you bold in your convictions (i.e. sharing the Gospel)? All these will be effective in attracting a woman; but be discerning in the woman you allow in your life. The more confident and successful you are; the more women will try to work their way into your life; if you are already in a relationship you have to nix those ladies from the bunch so as to remain faithful to the one you're with; whether gf or spouse.

I find activities helpful on dates - in case you are shy and don't know what to say - you can focus on Mini Gold and having fun and that eases the tension.
Dinner - first dates initially to me are a bit stressful...

lol 100% agree....I try to find creative ways to build relationship....I've found those bowling/arcade/laser tag places to be pretty good...but my favorite is escape room...though one time I asked a girl out and she asked if she could bring her "friend" who turned out to be her boyfriend....Thankfully I had friends join us as a backup plan to avoid the awkwardness.

As for the volunteering...that's a really tough one...Right now I'm in a new town and looking for a new church (which has been hampered for obvious reasons), but a in one church I was deacon and a youth worker, also while working a fulltime job that often required overtime, as well as a part time job....and that was just to provide for myself. Now imagine the expectation from the church that man must be provider for his wife and children, if he has any. You can begin to see this overwhelming burden placed on us in a money hungry, competitive, cutthroat society. Add the 10% tithe expected to that. It's mentally and physically draining...and then also we must have time to socialize with our families. I can barely do all this on my own...I don't know how the married guys do it. But this should answer why so few guys are involved with volunteer efforts...simply put they probably feel it does not contribute to their purpose of providing, and in many cases, hinders it; not to mention females are often the ones with the nurturing spirit inclined to volunteer without pay...not that a guy can't, I just don't think we do it intuitively.

lol 100% agree....I try to find creative ways to build relationship....I've found those bowling/arcade/laser tag places to be pretty good...but my favorite is escape room...though one time I asked a girl out and she asked if she could bring her "friend" who turned out to be her boyfriend....Thankfully I had friends join us as a backup plan to avoid the awkwardness.