Do men prefer women who don't chase...at all?!

sorry this is weird, why would some guys just go out with a random girl they dont even know from a bar of soap. why would girls do it. dont do that its not safe. We are not that desperate. How can you call on friends and family if you dont even know the slightest thing about this person except what they tell you.

from experience that is really risky.

I am not a stranger to flowers, but for me, it's something of an act of gallantry when I already know the person and it wouldn't be awkward or too "forward" from my perspective. I've given my mother flowers many times (fresh picked). So it just seems like ships passing in the night. It's uncomfortable for me to give flowers as a "opening line" but for you that is the preferred line.

See how things get confusing for males trying to show interest to a female? Perhaps we should start a flower thread and see the responses from others on how they perceive it haha.


I think it's an invasion of privacy to go "ask for a female's number" but many men do that with success. Some probably feel like that's too forward and others don't. Everyone is different, which makes this quite frustrating

Do you read my posts? I never recommended dating a stranger.

I believe a woman should take care of herself, dress well and be nice, but it is the job of a man to "chase"

Anne, are you a man? I believe the thread title is Do men prefer women who don't chase...at all?!

Sorry perhaps I got confused.. I just said what I think...

Having had it happen both ways in several occasions, I actually like it more when she’s pursuing/aggressive. I don’t mind either way, but for the sake of preference. I’m sure you’ll be getting varying answers though as we all differ 😉

In any case I would be happy if they preferred women who do not chase..

I don't. I prefer women to chase me instead. It's happened a number of times that I got girlfriends that way. Women have better emotional intelligence.

chasing with flowers or guns?

on seconds thought...guns are too forward. But there are gunshot weddings.

Not sure if online messages count as either flowers or guns. They still count as chasing to me though. In fact, that's how my first girlfriend got me. She was excellent at writing online messages.

nah its just talking.
I thought chasing was running after someone like literally RUNNING. I dont do that.
I do the civilised thing and meet up somewhere but if its too out of my way I wouldnt be inclined cos petrol is expensive and I hate sitting in traffic.
However if someone was all talk and no action then Im sorry Its not that I dont like you but I cant gasbag all day.

I'm wondering why there needs to be any chasing at all🤔....I mean, if two people really like each other then why should there be any 'chasing'?

To me, chasing, from a man or a woman, is game playing and immature; or it's happening because one party is interested and the other is simply not.

Chasing could also happen if one party is interested but shy and the other party is interested but not shy. The one who is less shy chases the other. Eventually, the one that was shy becomes less shy, and boom, it's a relationship.

BTW Butterflyyy, why did you thumb down my post above (we need a new forum feature for thumbing down a thumb down)? Are you suggesting Anne is a man?

Where in the post did she ask that? Why you gotta judge what other people watch? I bet you don't watch Christian shows and listen to Christian music 24/7.
And those of you who liked his post...I know ya'll ain't saints either...
I used to be LadyInWaiting by the way...

That's okay. From what I have been able to gather from conversations, the best women don't really go much for men who make broad-brush assumptions about whole groups of women like that.

She seems to be asking what the male mind thinks about a woman pursuing a man. She is asking for male advice. I might not have been verbose enough which is why you seem to have interpreted it as judging.

Many Christian males like myself and every single one of my many Christian male friends that I know closely are absolutely turned off by a women who watch shows like Bachelor, Bachelorette, Housewives, and anything similar piping silly ungodly thinking and negative drama into the home through the TV. Being bold in pursuing a man that you like is not that big of a deal. It is not going to be a DEAL breaker most of the time. However all my friends would consider watching Bachelor, Bachelorett, Housewives a major red flag and not the kind of woman they are looking for to be a holy wife on fire for Jesus and the idea of allowing that ungodly drama to be piped into the home through the TV would be a much bigger turn off than chasing the man. There are men that disagree with me and many do agree with me. I believe most holy men of God are horrified by these shows. She would do well to stop watching those shows if she cares about what holy men think. Obviously what God thinks is most important, but understanding men is what she seems to be asking and I can only speak from the perspective of a man who is born again and controlled by the Holy Spirit.