How should I act on my feelings in this situation ?

Ms. Pink - On page 1 I believe @Kireina and @Subhumanoidal gave you a kind of mom and dad armchair type of advice. It's an advice refined by fire and tempered by years and you should take heed. The only thing I could add is that your risk of rejection or harm to your pride or whatever you're afraid of risking is perfectly and precisely necessary for practically any gain. And if you don't risk your heart, your energy, your money, this earth just gets a little duller somehow. Things just aren't as curious.

What little I know about Kireina and Sub, I do know this - they've risked. And they've lost. And even their loss had value.

To the Original Poster of this thread -- I truly apologize for the derailing of your topic, but I feel a need to answer some of these posts.

@Lanolin -- to clarify, I never did someone's homework for them in the sense that I never, ever took someone else's school work home, completed it, and handed it back them so they could turn it in.

Rather, what would happen is that these kids would come to me during school time to ask me about what they should put down as answers on their own papers. I never wrote it for them.

And again, I certainly wasn't the smartest or the best in school, it's just that I was seen as usually having my homework finished. It took a while, but when I finally got tired of the popular kids trying to use me for answers, that's when I started purposely giving them the wrong answers. When they saw that they still got bad grades after trying to ask me for the answers, they eventually stopped asking.

My first year in college, two guys who were there to be baseball stars asked me the first day if I would help them (aka, give them the answers) with their homework on a regular basis. At 15, I might have, because I would have wanted to fit in. At 19, I squarely told them they would have to look for someone else to use.

It's funny because later on in life (at about age 30,) I ran into one of them in a work situation. It wasn't a big deal, but he had to check with me about some of the products he was bringing into the store I worked at then.

I'm sure he didn't remember me, but it was interesting to see this guy who thought he was the end all be all back then with a double chin and some wrinkles.

Why don't you simply Google, "What language do the Chinese and other Asians speak," if you truly know so little about other people?

I suppose next you are going to now ask if Mexican people speak Taco?

I hope the people who have been here on this site for a while know me fairly well, so they should know that I am not someone who automatically pulls the race card.

But your posts are so incredibly juvenile that I haven't felt like this since a little kid last "slanted" his eyes at me in public (it happened all the time at school, and yes, still happens occasionally even though I've been an adult for several years

I have reported your posts here to the moderators, simply because I'm hoping that this kind of absolutely ridiculous, ignorant dialogue will stop. And before you try to tell me I'm being too sensitive, I was raised by white parents in a white family.

It's interesting that you are also obviously unaware that the owner of this site is of Asian descent.

Why don't you try telling him how annoying Asians are and asking him directly if he speaks "Ching Chong," as you insist on calling it?

Please, don't hesitate, and don't hold back, just as you've let it all go in your posts. I'm sure you'll just tell him that you're "calling a spade a spade," after all.

I am eagerly awaiting to hear how it goes.

Since UCA4J seems to insist in multiple posts, I have to agree with you, @Reborn -- we might as well go all the way with the preschool stereotypes.

Just wait until Reborn starts to go all-out kung fu in these threads -- I'm not even kidding. I've seen him do it, right out in public, and smack-dab in the middle of the forum, too!!!

It's just that usually he's so busy figuring out complicated math equations (just like all good Asians do in their spare time,) that he REALLY hates being interrupted from ONE racially stereotypical activity in order to do yet ANOTHER stereotypical behavior assigned to him due to race.

After all, it's one of the toughest decisions we Asians have to make.

I was asking, so someone could actually give the answer, instead going to google.

If you knew how to ask in a polite and proper manner, someone might take the time to answer.

Asking over and over, "Do you speak Ching Chong?", and insisting on calling it that is not going to motivate anyone to take the time to bother.

What amazes me most is that you seem to have absolutely no understanding of this at all.

I could understand if you were 5 years old and truly didn't know any better.

But are you honestly trying to claim that you are a 39-year-old man, and have somehow made it this far in life -- but yet still don't know any better?

I guess I'm actually the naive one here for thinking -- or rather hopefully wishing -- that in 2021, ignorance like this no longer existed.

Well there are worse stereotypes I guess... If I had to choose a stereotype to live under, Asian stereotypes would probably be my pick. Too bad I'm not Asian.

USA stereotypes, now... They're worse. If people (who do stereotypes) know you come from the USA they automatically assume you are fat, loud, obnoxious, that you like hamburgers and that you are very possessive of your shotgun.

But that's NOTHING compared to Australian stereotypes. People who do stereotypes think all Australians are petty thieves, or some kind of criminals at least.

It sure is a good thing I don't do stereotypes. I'd hate to think you're a crook just because you're from Australia.

those petty thieves, are they from the captain cook ships ?

Well, those aren't my people.
The Brits took something that didn't belong to them at the time.
But anyway.

thankyou for the grand compliment .. 😁

Believe me, you're most welcome.

At your age, you more than deserve it.

😆