I'm new here. Trying to find online ways to chat with people but feeling detached

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
 

tourist

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Right now you are in the forums and this site is an excellent resource, especially the forums to form interesting and enduring friendships. Glad to have you onboard with us. Welcome to CC.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
This site isn't a ghost town, and there's often more advice than you'll want. It'll mostly contradict. But connecting can still be difficult. It takes time and involvement.
Many come to the site, barely post, then complain they can't make friends. So start posting.
 

Kireina

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Yeah, this covid19 thing makes it difficult to reach out to people I mean to interact with people face to face 🙁 I am having the same problem like the others... I love to hangout with some friends regularly but now no more... It's been a while...

Anyways Welcome to CC @Benjamin3000 hope you will be able to connect with other believers and you'll have many wonderful interactions here 🤗


God bless you ❤
 

Roughsoul1991

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
I have enough positive and negative experiences to go around. What's going on?
 

oyster67

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
After you type something, you must remember to hit the [Post reply] button.:giggle:

Give us a try. MOST of us love you very much. Don't let a couple bad experiences destroy your hope, future, and fellowship with your brothers and sisters. We want you to stay.
Welcome to CC!:):coffee: We love you and Jesus loves you even more!:D
 

Bingo

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"Welcome to the real deal, for the most part."..............:)
 

She_is_Legendary

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
This is quite possibly the BEST chatting site i have ever come across, it’s uplifting, it’s (mostly) a spiritual place to be, and you can chat just about anything. Not saying it won’t be “quiet“ sometimes... but it’s mostly pretty active on here.

Anyways, welcome to CC! Hope you stick Around and join us all in God’s love for us all. ☺️☕️
 

TabinRivCA

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Nice to meet you and have you joining the fellowship here at CC:) God bless you!
 

Reformed1689

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
Hey, welcome to CC Benjamin. CC has been very beneficial for me. This account is new, but I made my first account around June of 2010. I took a break for a few years, but as a new Christian back then I found it very helpful and made me learn quickly. That being said, places like this are really great but if you're feeling detached you should really look into a congregation to join and engage with. Online communication is great, but it can't replace person to person.
 

phil36

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
Welcome to CC Benjamin3000, Hopefully you'l have many great conversations (y)
 
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I have enough positive and negative experiences to go around. What's going on?
Well, I've tried to make a forum post saying "I fixed an issue with X on game Y by doing Z" on a forum specifically for that game, but no replies. I've also asked for help with a game before, and gotten no replies.

In terms of hardware, I've posted about PC hardware on PCMasterrace on Reddit, but I don't get replies to advice given in post format, me asking for advice, or just ranting about a bad experience. Ditto for a local group that is named "computer enthusiasts" but there's no software anyone in either group talks about either.
r/rant and r/depression have also been equally barren in terms of replies.

Before COVID, I tried finding people to play a sport with. For some reason, I thought people who weren't on the internet as much, might be more interested in physical activity. Except there was no gym that had a (insert sport here) club that people could just join to meet others who played the same sport. Nothing at the community center(s), the churches, and asking people at work who were either my age themselves, or had a son, daughter, or family member my age, or a church pastor, all lead me to dead ends and no one even knew where to start looking for sporting groups.

I've tried volunteering at places where their mission was compassionate in some way, but there were never people my age (I'm 28 now) doing any of those things. Homeless shelter, animal shelter, thrift store, you only met children with their parents or elderly folks. Not that they were unwelcoming or not kind, but I went to a college that had no clubs and the writing/math/science/electronics labs never had people who wanted a conversation about anything.

I've lost in-person friends by asking, what was the best thing that happened in the past few weeks. I wanted to get an idea of something positive to talk about by their reply. Like if their favorite TV show started a new season, I'd ask them questions about that show, and, then when they were finished, either share episodes of that show that I liked or, maybe there's a similar show I've seen that I'd want to talk about, I'd mention that show.
Instead, the person decided to end their friendship with me. Once I asked them that question, they never spoke to me again.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Well, I've tried to make a forum post saying "I fixed an issue with X on game Y by doing Z" on a forum specifically for that game, but no replies. I've also asked for help with a game before, and gotten no replies.

In terms of hardware, I've posted about PC hardware on PCMasterrace on Reddit, but I don't get replies to advice given in post format, me asking for advice, or just ranting about a bad experience. Ditto for a local group that is named "computer enthusiasts" but there's no software anyone in either group talks about either.
r/rant and r/depression have also been equally barren in terms of replies.

Before COVID, I tried finding people to play a sport with. For some reason, I thought people who weren't on the internet as much, might be more interested in physical activity. Except there was no gym that had a (insert sport here) club that people could just join to meet others who played the same sport. Nothing at the community center(s), the churches, and asking people at work who were either my age themselves, or had a son, daughter, or family member my age, or a church pastor, all lead me to dead ends and no one even knew where to start looking for sporting groups.

I've tried volunteering at places where their mission was compassionate in some way, but there were never people my age (I'm 28 now) doing any of those things. Homeless shelter, animal shelter, thrift store, you only met children with their parents or elderly folks. Not that they were unwelcoming or not kind, but I went to a college that had no clubs and the writing/math/science/electronics labs never had people who wanted a conversation about anything.

I've lost in-person friends by asking, what was the best thing that happened in the past few weeks. I wanted to get an idea of something positive to talk about by their reply. Like if their favorite TV show started a new season, I'd ask them questions about that show, and, then when they were finished, either share episodes of that show that I liked or, maybe there's a similar show I've seen that I'd want to talk about, I'd mention that show.
Instead, the person decided to end their friendship with me. Once I asked them that question, they never spoke to me again.
Sounds like you are feeling lonely or alienated to a degree due to factors I am not aware of yet. I am 30 years old and have struggled to get people into discipleship due to people just being too busy to dedicate such time to discipleship.
 

BigSky2021

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Hello Benjamin! New here myself, just dropped by to say hello.

PC gamer? I used to do that. Old old old school MMO gamer here, I started with Everquest and rolled toons on pretty much every popular MMORPG title after that you can think of including classic WoW. And quite a few MMOFPS games (Battlefield series, etc)

I gave all that up a few years ago.
 

BlessedByGod

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
Hey Bejamin300 and Welcomr to Christian Chat 😀, nice to have you here.

May God Grant you the good company and friendships you seek, and Bless you in all good ways that serve Him.

Look forward to chatting sometime. There is a thread called The Chat Thread. It's for general topics and Chats that may or may not fit into other threads. And if you want to "tag" someone, so they know you are talking about them or talking to them, just put the @ symbol, then right next to it like this @BlessedByGod . This will send them a message someone has used your name and they can go to that thread.

I pray this helps.
 

Tararose

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
Well this place is certainly an active one :)

In fact a bit too active sometimes lol things can get heated on some of the more serious topics, but there is a lot of love here too. The prayer section is a good place to share concerns, and I am sure whatever you want to talk about people will respond, mostly nicely too :)

I look forward to your input on the forum :)
 
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I’ll be your friend I love Jesus and country music
 

Evmur

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I am flexible with the idea of using online ways to make or maintain friendships (COVID and all) but the problem is, I've tried so many websites that were all ghost towns, where no one accepted or gave any advice or had conversations, or could relate to any negative experiences either.
Hello Benjamin welcome :)