Will I ever get a good wife of Christ?

Marrying a cute woman of Christ is my biggest life dream. Cute in her inner side especially. I really want a God-fearing lifetime companion who listens, respects, appreciates and loves me. A lifetime companion who stays loyal to me forever even in my most difficult times and never looks for someone else. A lifetime companion I can make one flesh with and be the example of a holy marriage for our children.

The thing is that I'm worried the woman I'm looking for may not exist here. You know, secularism and modernity have driven the younger women away from religion and commitment. Everyone I know in the place where I study are unbelievers (both men and women). Actually, all the people my age I know. I'm scared that my life may be doomed to singledom forever, since I don't want a relationship with an unbeliever. We would be in heated fights and discussions all the time, unable to have a minute of peace, we would have completely different values and she could also pressure me to commit sin, let her go with other men or even abandon my religion. A believer and an unbeliever can never build a lasting relationship. But I'm scared this may mean I will have to remain single for the rest of my life.

My country (Czechia) is one of the most atheistic in the world (our percentage of believers is just 20% and much lower in the younger generations) which makes my chances nearly unexistent. We are most known in the world for our huge porn industry and our dirty women. I have heard travellers and students from other European countries saying that Czechia was the easiest country to get laid in the continent!

Ok I may be getting somewhat paranoid but it's because I'm really scared and uncertain about my future. Maybe all my life effort will worth nothing and that sinks me. I'm here burning with passion and hormones but maybe God has just not a wife prepared for me and it's not His plan to give me one. By the way I'm not asking to get the woman of my dreams right now and immediately, but I really don't want to be in my 30s wondering if I will ever get the one. Has God a woman prepared for me? Do pure faithful women of Christ in my age group exist here in Czechia (not in USA)? It's very good to know there are still young women in America who choose the path of God, but maybe it is different here in Czechia (given this country is far more secular).

Ending this post, I do know that many people in this forum do not have enough knowledge of Czechia to be able to address all of my points, but please try to personalize your answers considering all the aspects you know about my country the best you can and if you barely know anything about it then give the best advice you can. Thank you all for reading and listening.

The truth is that no one knows. Some of us on here have been waiting for years to find the right one and it hasn't happened for most of us. You have to be okay with that scenario. Trust God because he knows best. He might want you to stay single right now to learn something. You say you are struggling with passion, depend on God for strength and pray for that go calm down.
I know it's easier said than done...but most people don't know if God will bring them a spouse or not. You have to make peace with that. God bless you.

@Zdenek

No one can say. Marriage is not a promise. So it's possible you may never marry. Or may not happen till much later, if it happens.
My cousin was about 55-60 when he first got married.

I've not been to Czechia but I did get in the neighborhood at Slovakia...(Banska Bistritzka... capital city...my spelling sucks)

And if you wish to meet a Christian woman... you are going to have a really difficult time. Most of your Christian community is still used to how things were behind the iron curtain. Meaning that many boys and girls are engaged/promised as grade school children... barely 10 years old.

Others are meeting up at nationwide church camps and meetings.

My inner sides are my cutest. I think my spleen is especially standout though it's hard to find a better looking duodenum than mine too. The kidneys aren't much to look at, but I've got some super cute lymph nodes.

Seems like we've had a rash (ok a few others, you're the third in recent memory) of European guys from various countries come in and say the exact same things you are saying and they never really wanted help, they just wanted to have a pity party about the hopelessness of their situation. So best advice we've got is remember that self control is part of what his Spirit produces in your life and ask him to increase it so you can control those hormonal urges better and then get on with your life. And if an awesome Christian woman comes along, go for it. And if not at least you'll be spending your time better than pining over the lack of Christian women around you.

If you have tied happiness and worth to a person who does not yet exist, you have already doomed yourself. Life is much more than marriage. Christ is much more than anything. Give more of yourself to Him. Serve in your community with children and widows. Get involved with something. Helping people gives fulfillment. If you spend a lifetime waiting for "possibility" you will waste this life and more than likely be depressed each year you don't get it. Furthermore, some people get what they desire and are still depressed because it didn't play out like they saw it in their mind.

For the LORD God is a sun and shield; The LORD will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold From those who walk uprightly - Psalms 84:11

Translation, if you walk uprightly God will give it to you IF its good for you. Trust His Words. Sometimes we think things are good for us, but they are not. Trust that God makes no mistakes.

Put your focus on Him. His is infinitely better than any spouse. Serving Him can be more fulfilling than serving your spouse. There are many crowns to gain in this lifetime (not speaking of physical stuff).

Well I don't "want" to echo what other posters are saying but there is some truth in saying that God doesn't promise marriage.

I don't want to get "too deep" into my life story on an internet thead but I did pray about it a bit before posting because what I previously typed was a "bit bitter".


I think there's a VERY strong possibility that if you master yourself within his power and what he has given to you and show good stewardship in honoring the Lord with your body and your thought life that you may be ready for him to honor or bless you in that way.

Most people (myself included) aren't there yet.

I would highly encourage you to super guard yourself against bitterness. That's a problem that I had when I started typing because I've liked girls definitely since I was 6 and now I'm 30 and it's probably the only thing I've ever wanted in life...it was part of my lifelong motivation for serving the Lord also to be married.

Let's say that marriage is off the table in the Lord's kingdom and not in the enemy's...am I out? Do I really want to be in a marriage that isn't really a marriage at all? No.

If I had to deal with my loneliness and physical issues the rest of my life watching as precious years go by with no one to physically hold my hand...ever...would I still serve him?

Yes, I think so...but it is a huge stumbling block at times in my relationship with the Lord. This "might" be a reason that I'm still single. I've laid it down as an idol many a time, only to bring it back up as an "excuse" for sin in my life. Sure, many people might not understand why the Lord still has me single but He does.


For whatever reason, I do sort of understand in this moment what it means to be called to lifelong singleness and the high calling indeed that is. I certainly hope that's not the case for me, but think of how much it honors him to lay that down at his feet.


You're going to just have to wrestle a lot with this. I have scriptures that I've almost used to exalt myself and cast aspersions as to the Lord's goodness. I won't do that publicly or with others but even ruminating on such things is being a tool of the enemy if allowed free reign. So just be careful...the Lord knows how to give good gifts to his children. If you don't get the present you wanted...does that change this fact?


I'm in the same boat man, it's incredibly difficult when things get stormy and indeed in moments of weakness...I thought I'd be past all this stuff by now but I'm not and yet still he requires more of me. I'm on board for battening down the hatches and holding on, despite the water looking pretty warm and my boat having quite a few holes in it. It took this thread to give me a clear opportunity to take the time and address my frustration in prayer, so I appreciate it. Stay strong. If you haven't...get back up. Keep going. Peace.

Enjoy life and serving God now and He will guide you in the direction you need to go and may even let you cross paths with a lovely Christian lady along the way.

Marriage only increased the stress of my life. I wasted years in romantic hopes. Don't waste your life in hopes. Focus on living

Man this sounds familiar... like, VERY familiar.

Claiming to want to find a woman - check.
Worried a woman will lead a man astray or leave him - check.
Complaining about the low percentage of Christians in the area - check.
Burning with passion and hormones - check.

Are you SURE you haven't posted about this here before? And here before?

As a guy I don't have a cute anything, and if you tell me I do I'll deny it. My pancreas is handsome though.

But really... showing off your duodenum in public? This thread is about finding a good Christian girl! Girls who show off their duodenums (duodeni? What's plural for duodenum?) in public are brazen hussies, not good Christian girls.

I won't add anything here...

Well, this post did cause a song to pop into my head...

What is love?
Baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love?
Yeah, yeah
(Ooh, ooh)

You're short a few ooh's. And love might hurt a lot if your date tries to see if your insides are cute.

10 years old is impossible - people don't get engaged that young in Europe (maybe they do in Pakistan and other countries with a tradition of child marriage but not here). In the case maybe 14 or 15?

Anyway, what is your point? Please explain it more since your post sounds like I will not have a single chance or something.

Ok as I did explain I could sure wait a few years more since I still live with my parents, what I don't want is to find myself living alone for a long time after I turn independent.

Countering everything everybody says with an argument - check.
Asking people to further explain what they mean, ad nauseum - check.

This dude is DEFINITELY the same guy.

Because of the way things were behind the iron curtain Christian communities were fairly closed groups of families. They operated in secret. They really didn't associate or trust anyone outside of their group. The children would make friends and would be friends without the sexual aspect of a more modern engagement...they are children after all with extreme self discipline in anything to do with the Christian aspect of their life.

Even if they aren't going to get married for 10 years...they accepted the fact as to who they are going to marry one day. (Trust me when I say I was shocked) When you have a secret group that keeps it's secrets...there is no marriage outside of the group or else you and the entire group get sent off to prison.
And these traditions are going to be very difficult to break. Most churches don't accept anyone until after two years. (And that was 5 years ago) The Catholic church does better than the evangelicals in this. But not much better... The communities are very slow to react or to accept newcomers to their group. So be patient and be friendly...let everyone get to know you and see who you are. They are all going to watch you anyway whether you see them watching you or not.

And when they feel comfortable...they will be extremely helpful in finding you a wife.

Back when I had my kidney stones removed, I had lots of "oohs" then. I wondered if oysters felt the same way when their pearls were removed...

I think my post now fits within the context of this thread so there is that to consider.

It’s hard to identify an ugly duodenum from a cute one.

Claiming to want to find a woman - czech
Worried a woman will lead a man astray or leave him - czech
Complaining about the low percentages of Christians in the area - czech
Burning with passion and hormones - czech