What is a Gentleman?

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Desdichado

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This looks like one of those logic games questions you have to answer for the LSAT.

None of the above. :ROFL:

ok the latest novel I read has 3 men in it, as it centres around 3 couples

one guy married to a former dancer who is very wealthy, is his second wife and they like partying, has many children
an incompatible couple of one guy who is kinda tone deaf married to a cellist, they have 2 daughters
and a childless couple but the guy wants children and they have been doing IVF.

The guy that is childless saves the life of one of the daughters of the incompatible couple who nearly drowns in the rich guys fountain..at his party he is hosting. the childless guy gives her CPR along with his wife. They had asked the cellist to donate her eggs but she really doesnt want to but pretends to them she does...

In the end (spoiler) the childless guy decides he doesnt want to cellists charity since it is making her friendship with his wife uncomfortable (and showing up the tone deaf guy husband for maybe neglecting his daughters) so they decide to foster-adopt instead.

Which guy is the gentleman?
 

She_is_Legendary

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#42
The song isn't just a commercial. It's a country music song and a TikTock challenge... neither of which is probably appropriate to post on Christian Chat.

The song is simply saying that you don't need to be rich to impress most women. The first part is about how they are just as happy at Wendy's, but he tries to give his lady a little upgrade when he gets paid....lol

Anyways, being from the part of the south that I am...Yeah, we women find Applebee's fancy...we don't need a Tesla to impress us we're just as fine rolling on a Vespa...Don't need a mansion for romancing....we're super fine with double-wide slow dancing.

While I don't really like the song...I heard it in the store while I was shopping and it is one of those catchy little ditties.
But it's actually true in ways. Like there are a few that would say a gentleman dresses the part, speaks the part, maybe fancy, etc.

To me, a gentleman can be that down-to-earth guy with the faded jeans and workboats who nods and holds the door for you.
Although it may be nice every now and then...He really doesn't have to be fancy like Applebee's all the time....lol
I concur 100% with this, southern girls dont Need much, don’t require much, and most definitely don’t need an expensive dinner for a nice night out. Simple classy gals, less complicated and very easy going. :)
 

true_believer

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A gentleman's character should be influenced by this idea....
 

Lanolin

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I concur 100% with this, southern girls dont Need much, don’t require much, and most definitely don’t need an expensive dinner for a nice night out. Simple classy gals, less complicated and very easy going. :)
I was reading a book about travelling in the South of US and it doesnt seem like there would be many expensive diners there anyway, as a lot of areas are totally impoverished.

If you like 'soul food' it would probably be the best place to go though....
 

Lanolin

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Colonel Sanders...the perfect Southern gentleman

beloved by harried housewives everywhere, expecially if the finger licken' good is delivered to your door!
 

Lanolin

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I am going to ask this question ---

There IS a christian ladies forum on CC
How come there is no Christian gentlemens forum? Is it because they dont exist? Or maybe it does but because Im female I just dont see it on here...?
 

Lynx

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I am going to ask this question ---

There IS a christian ladies forum on CC
How come there is no Christian gentlemens forum? Is it because they dont exist? Or maybe it does but because Im female I just dont see it on here...?
We don't have one.

Historically men-only forums don't do very well. I'm not sure why. It's not because of a lack of men on the internet.

Maybe it's just apathy. We men don't really care about having a men-only forum.
 

Lanolin

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I embarked on another novel this time its set in London (in this book, Londoneites refer to London only as the City) to see if any of the characters get descibed as gentlemen...

well they all go to wine bars and talk shop and mergers, and most of the time the women get embarassingly sloshed BUT a true gentleman doesnt get drunk and shaves apparently...and doesnt jilt his fiance at the altar or runs off on his married wife and children with a younger blonde on the tube.

He also isnt gay. So stay clear of the West End and maybe stick to Saint Albans where people are a lot more proper and respectable, and less likely to be theatrical types. It could be your next door neighbour, the kind one that brings you flowers when he accidently runs over your guinea pig with a lawn mower. Well, its a novel, they have to meet somehow.
 

de-emerald

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I am going to ask this question ---

There IS a christian ladies forum on CC
How come there is no Christian gentlemens forum? Is it because they dont exist? Or maybe it does but because Im female I just dont see it on here...?
haha.. its because its gentleman to assume gentleman are gentleman anyway.
 

Lanolin

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haha.. its because its gentleman to assume gentleman are gentleman anyway.
er, that doesnt make sense

of course gentlemen are gentlemen, but not all men are gentlemen I think that's fairly obvious....Or maybe it isnt. Well maybe you dont find out till you get a nasty troll on the forum who makes sarky comments on every post and treats women so badly that they might want to hide in the ladies forum.

Not that thats happened to me personally...but it happens.
 

Lanolin

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I found at that St Alban's is the poshest city north of London and of course I was pronouncing it all wrong anyway.
 

Lanolin

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well my attempt at finding a gentleman in british fiction so far has yielded, someone who isnt gay, has money, doesnt seem as if he's pursuing a lady (when he really is) , lives next door or over the fence, doesnt propose marriage but the lady says lets have sex and then he agrees so he invites her over to HIS place.

Also, the lady must not be aware she likes him until the very last moment, and she also finds out the reason her fiance ditched her at the altar was because he was gay and in love with her former boss, but for some strange reason he just couldnt tell her that.

Huh. And they all talk in posh accents using big words, while constantly quaffing glasses of wine, cos its, you know CLASSY

If anyone wants to read this super edifying novel, its called Reading Upside Down, by Jo Platt
 

de-emerald

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er, that doesnt make sense

of course gentlemen are gentlemen, but not all men are gentlemen I think that's fairly obvious....Or maybe it isnt. Well maybe you dont find out till you get a nasty troll on the forum who makes sarky comments on every post and treats women so badly that they might want to hide in the ladies forum.

Not that thats happened to me personally...but it happens.
It could be very gentlemen of me to be polite and could be very gentlemen of me to be a gentlemen in lots of other ways,, personaly tho i think it would be gentlemen to offer support for hurt ladies feelings. And perhaps a gentlemans forum may be a good idea where ladies could be made to feel more welcome.

perhaps you should call it the gentlemens and ladies forrum then that way there can be more of an invitation for both sides,
 

Lanolin

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It could be very gentlemen of me to be polite and could be very gentlemen of me to be a gentlemen in lots of other ways,, personaly tho i think it would be gentlemen to offer support for hurt ladies feelings. And perhaps a gentlemans forum may be a good idea where ladies could be made to feel more welcome.

perhaps you should call it the gentlemens and ladies forrum then that way there can be more of an invitation for both sides,
yes
good idea
I will make a suggestion to the mods
ladies AND gentlemen forum.
 

de-emerald

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yes
good idea
I will make a suggestion to the mods
ladies AND gentlemen forum.
I think its a good idea and maybe it should say under your avatar when you make posts that your a male or a female,, because lots of times i have mistaken female posts for male posts. I had no idea you was a lady untill i checked your profile. I remember because i thought it was funny when i did and saw that your username was also a type of oil ... i had many people think im a women too .. I think they thought my username was more lady like or something .. but ive done the same thing and thought a ladies username was a man when replying,, so im now checking peoples profiles out more befor i reply .. because i got into a long drawn out debate with a user here i had no idea was a lady because of her username. that was called hiskid. anyhow after checking her posts it turned out she was upsetting lots of people and she got banned. but when i was replying to her i thought she was a man. and ive done that a couple of times to other members.. at first i thought your username lanolin was an italian mans name for some reason.
 

Lanolin

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my next novel is called Shop Girls of Harpers, set in 1912

the main character parents die so she goes to live with her aunt in London but she has to find a job to pay her way, but she comes from a 'Proper' family in which women shouldnt have to work such common jobs as shopgirls (unless they are sell luxury goods) and her great grandfather WAS a gentleman he was a SIR

ie. had a title

I guess its assumed ladies only have proper, respectable jobs, the previous novel Id read the 30 year old heroined CO-owned an antiquarian bookshop. I supoose she was able to afford so because of her inheritance or trust fund money.

England was very class concious, I suppose it still is. Though possibly the 'common' people outnumber the aristocrats. I always remember Princess Diana being described as a 'commoner' even though she actually had a title before she married 'Lady Diana Spencer' so I am still confused over what would make someone 'common' and what makes them a lady or a gentleman.
 

Lanolin

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I think its a good idea and maybe it should say under your avatar when you make posts that your a male or a female,, because lots of times i have mistaken female posts for male posts. I had no idea you was a lady untill i checked your profile. I remember because i thought it was funny when i did and saw that your username was also a type of oil ... i had many people think im a women too .. I think they thought my username was more lady like or something .. but ive done the same thing and thought a ladies username was a man when replying,, so im now checking peoples profiles out more befor i reply .. because i got into a long drawn out debate with a user here i had no idea was a lady because of her username. that was called hiskid. anyhow after checking her posts it turned out she was upsetting lots of people and she got banned. but when i was replying to her i thought she was a man. and ive done that a couple of times to other members.. at first i thought your username lanolin was an italian mans name for some reason.
im a bit flattered you think Im a lady, well...I question that myself

haha I know Im female though!
 

de-emerald

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im a bit flattered you think Im a lady, well...I question that myself

haha I know Im female though!
maybe if i knew you i could leave you a nice suprise like a designer dress with a rose and an ivitation to a meal, and then you would feel special.
 
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I think the reason why a lot of women looked really skinny was because the men never fed them a proper meal on dates.

Though I am equally horrified that some women deliberately starve themselves for men. In what crazy upside down world do they do that?!
Women starve themselves for control issues, and to not be judged by other women. Most dudes aren’t attracted to scrawny women. Generally overweight people wouldn’t starve themselves. Normal looking people starve themselves because they think they’re fat.