Hello Everyone,
I know the questions I've been asking might be seen as better suited for the Family Forum, but Singles is what I know and so I tend to post all of my inquiries here.
We've been talking a lot about family in the other threads, as well as talking about the potential of a dating site that would "determine whether or not divorced were eligible for remarriage," and this reminded me of a topic I brought up long ago.
So yes, this is actually a recycled question that I have already asked, but it was years ago. I wanted to see what the current crowd has to say.
Many of the Christian circles I grew up around have had very strict rules for remarriage after divorce, and very few people qualified according to those standards. I'd say this also seems to be the majority belief in most Christian communities I have been exposed to.
But on the flip side, most of the churches I've been part of in my adult years have had many members who were divorced, remarried, and had second families.
I hear many Christians talk about how others get divorced too easily and remarry when they shouldn't be remarrying (because the second or additional marriage is seen as adultery.)
I would like to know your thoughts about the following questions.
* In my original thread, I asked what should happen when people who don't qualify for remarriage go ahead and remarry anyway -- does this mean that the second marriage should be broken up and also end in divorce? What then happens to the people involved?
* Are the children produced in anything other than a first marriage seen as being illegitimate in the kingdom of God?
* If it is ruled that the Godly thing to do is to break up the remarriage, what then happens to any children born during this time?
Please know that I am NOT trying to condemn, criticize, or belittle anyone in this thread, no matter what their situation is. I myself am divorced (husband left for his girlfriend) and have not remarried. I don't know what God's plans for me are, or if I will ever marry again.
And I certainly have nothing against anyone who is divorced, has remarried, or is the product or part of any remarriage. My whole life, I have gravitated towards friendships with people whom others have shunned for this reason or the other. In most cases (unless it's very blatant,) I figure that their situation is between them and God and I am not to make myself the judge, especially since I've been through at least part of it myself.
* My point is simply this: Many people in the church will rule that most who are divorced can never remarry. So what I am asking is, What is the Godly thing that is to be done in when people who are not seen as eligible for remarriage or new families go ahead and do this anyway?
* For example, if you see a remarriage in your own family that you don't think is Biblically allowed, would you advise your family members to divorce? What if the people you saw as being ineligible for remarriage were your own parents?
I know this thread is going to be seen as highly controversial, but I'm always someone who tries to get people talking about things I don't hear anyone talking about. The last time I asked this, the majority said that the marriages should not be broken up, and that the children should be seen as full-fledged members of the Body of Christ.
I am just curious as to what our current crowd believes, and hope that it can be discussed in a respectful manner that will both educate and edify one another.
I know the questions I've been asking might be seen as better suited for the Family Forum, but Singles is what I know and so I tend to post all of my inquiries here.
We've been talking a lot about family in the other threads, as well as talking about the potential of a dating site that would "determine whether or not divorced were eligible for remarriage," and this reminded me of a topic I brought up long ago.
So yes, this is actually a recycled question that I have already asked, but it was years ago. I wanted to see what the current crowd has to say.
Many of the Christian circles I grew up around have had very strict rules for remarriage after divorce, and very few people qualified according to those standards. I'd say this also seems to be the majority belief in most Christian communities I have been exposed to.
But on the flip side, most of the churches I've been part of in my adult years have had many members who were divorced, remarried, and had second families.
I hear many Christians talk about how others get divorced too easily and remarry when they shouldn't be remarrying (because the second or additional marriage is seen as adultery.)
I would like to know your thoughts about the following questions.
* In my original thread, I asked what should happen when people who don't qualify for remarriage go ahead and remarry anyway -- does this mean that the second marriage should be broken up and also end in divorce? What then happens to the people involved?
* Are the children produced in anything other than a first marriage seen as being illegitimate in the kingdom of God?
* If it is ruled that the Godly thing to do is to break up the remarriage, what then happens to any children born during this time?
Please know that I am NOT trying to condemn, criticize, or belittle anyone in this thread, no matter what their situation is. I myself am divorced (husband left for his girlfriend) and have not remarried. I don't know what God's plans for me are, or if I will ever marry again.
And I certainly have nothing against anyone who is divorced, has remarried, or is the product or part of any remarriage. My whole life, I have gravitated towards friendships with people whom others have shunned for this reason or the other. In most cases (unless it's very blatant,) I figure that their situation is between them and God and I am not to make myself the judge, especially since I've been through at least part of it myself.
* My point is simply this: Many people in the church will rule that most who are divorced can never remarry. So what I am asking is, What is the Godly thing that is to be done in when people who are not seen as eligible for remarriage or new families go ahead and do this anyway?
* For example, if you see a remarriage in your own family that you don't think is Biblically allowed, would you advise your family members to divorce? What if the people you saw as being ineligible for remarriage were your own parents?
I know this thread is going to be seen as highly controversial, but I'm always someone who tries to get people talking about things I don't hear anyone talking about. The last time I asked this, the majority said that the marriages should not be broken up, and that the children should be seen as full-fledged members of the Body of Christ.
I am just curious as to what our current crowd believes, and hope that it can be discussed in a respectful manner that will both educate and edify one another.
