Been Single My Whole Life

seeking christ...sometimes I wonder what its like to be an only child (I grew up with 3 siblings)
I guess thats what drives you to find if not a mate, at least brothers and sisters

were circumstances such that your parents couldnt have more children?
if you join say, a group of guys, would they not have sisters they could introduce you to

But then when i think on it, none of my female friends ever really introduced me to their brothers, and Ive never really thought anyone would be suitable for my brothers nor play the matchmaker for them, and Im not friends with my siblings friends, we all had our own separate groups of friends. Isnt that funny, sometimes I think thats just going to be the way it is.


I think it would be very differnt if I was an only child it sounds teribly lonely. As such, being alone isnt that much of a hardship for me sometimes its a relief or Ive gotten used to being the only one in a bunch of paired up people and not sort of expected to really find a mate at all...?!

All He needed to do was tell me that He was having trouble reading my stuff on his phone, and I would of been happy to make an adjustment. But it seems he assumed that I already knew that. Or maybe He was lazy because it's harder to type on a phone. But whatever the case is, I'm not on this site for conflict.

Well don't worry about it. Sub probably won't say another thing in this thread. Most likely he said to himself, "Well there's one who can't take a word of advice without getting all offended" and went off to do something more profitable.

Gonna have to disagree with you again. He is actually quintessentially helpful.

I grew up as an only Child. I think my first girl friend was in kindergarten. If you could call her a "girl friend" back then. But my relationship with girls fell apart after that. I wasn't exactly around anyone Godly. The people I went to school with were just about all into drugs and were anti-christian. The only church that was apart of, fell apart after I started attending for 3 years. The friendships I made there, all fell apart when the church went through a major split. Several years after the major split the denomination that owned it, sold it to another church. My parents and I went to another church for 13 years, we went in whiteout friends and left without friends. We then tried another Church for 2 years. The same thing happened. Next we attended another church for a year. It had some theological differences that we as a family don't think are right so we left. Again, we came in without friends and left without friends. Next we went back to a Church that I grew up in. We were there for another year or 2 and Covid hit. They also fired the pastor. Came in without friends and pretty much left without friends. The point I'm trying to make is, I haven't had a good opportunity to cultivate a relationship with a Godly woman. Now let me back up for a few years. For around 11 years of my life, starting around 2002 to 2013 or so, I knew that my only chance might be online dating. It was really hard because I carried some baggage into it. I with some parents who don't think online dating is a good thing. That caused me to limit what sites I could use. I could get by with using the free ones, and Christian and secular social media sites. But I didn't have any luck meeting anyone who lived in my area. So even when I did get someone to talk to me, the relationships quickly fizzled out. And there is more about this I can talk about, but I'm going to leave it here for now...

Sub going off to do something whilst whistling, that I'd like to see. Hehe.

Maybe he didn't have trouble, he never said he did.
I don't think he was being lazy. That's just how he is, as Lynx mentioned, he was trying to be helpful. Straight to the point and helpful. That's Sub. 🙂

Paragraphs are your friend. They're all our friends.

Creating a wall of text will discourage some users from even attempting to read your posts. On my phone with a large screen your post fills the entire screen and beyond.

sometimes I confuse myself dont worry

My job is to make order out of chaos. But...sometimes I make chaos out of order by accident


I actually know quite a few 'only children' and they seem a bit more desperate to find a mate than others,,or they grow up with only brothers if they are male, or only sisters of they are female....when you are in a family with both brothers and sisters its more like you dont idealise the opposite sex I think.

also, all of us are technically single if we are not born as twins.

Is this something you were wanting advice about or wanting to 'get off your chest' so to speak?

What is your occupation? If you don't mind me asking?

I can't make a comment about the 'only children' being more desperate to find a mate thing. I am an only child, but in my experience all the people I know who have brothers or sisters, or brothers and sisters, got a mate fairly quickly. In fact I have heard it said, that people who come from big families often have big families.



I don't understand what point your trying to make here.

iS probably just me but nobody I know ever says of themselves 'I'm godly' or 'Im godly, pick me'

and no woman I know ever says of a man cor...he's just so...GODLY.