Intermediate passive aggression
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Receive what?
False accusations?
Satan is the accuser of the brethren, and you just sided with him.
One of my favorite things about God is that he sees, hears, and knows all...and he knows that you're delusional in regard to me.
Just ask him yourself.
Anyhow, I'll not waste another second on you.
I responded for your own potential benefit, but I doubt that it will benefit you at all.
You or anyone else like you can have the last word.
False accusations?
Satan is the accuser of the brethren, and you just sided with him.
One of my favorite things about God is that he sees, hears, and knows all...and he knows that you're delusional in regard to me.
Just ask him yourself.
Anyhow, I'll not waste another second on you.
I responded for your own potential benefit, but I doubt that it will benefit you at all.
You or anyone else like you can have the last word.
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This is a great idea for a thread... in the Singles forum (tips hat to the photogenic OP).
Seriously, there is a bit of an art to the backhanded compliment. A really good one leaves the recipient feeling complimented, and leaves just a niggling hint of "Did they really mean that?"
That just leaves one question: why bother? If you've got something negative to say, just say it, or better yet, keep it to yourself. Yes, it shows wit to come up with a complimentary insult, but it also shows darker character traits which may need work....
Seriously, there is a bit of an art to the backhanded compliment. A really good one leaves the recipient feeling complimented, and leaves just a niggling hint of "Did they really mean that?"
That just leaves one question: why bother? If you've got something negative to say, just say it, or better yet, keep it to yourself. Yes, it shows wit to come up with a complimentary insult, but it also shows darker character traits which may need work....
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Boy have I thought THAT a lot!
There's this one manager at my job who comes from... er, a certain part of a certain state where they are known for their incisive, insulting wit... who seems to take pride in her ability to put people down in clever ways. It never stops! All day every day she's ALWAYS scanning for some humorous way to insult everybody around her.
After a while I started wondering why she felt like she had to be witty AND put people down, at the same time, all the time.
There's this one manager at my job who comes from... er, a certain part of a certain state where they are known for their incisive, insulting wit... who seems to take pride in her ability to put people down in clever ways. It never stops! All day every day she's ALWAYS scanning for some humorous way to insult everybody around her.
After a while I started wondering why she felt like she had to be witty AND put people down, at the same time, all the time.
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Passive aggressive behavioral patterns arise from upbringing issues, at least that’s one explanation. If you’re raised in some parts of the South, and you are a girl, you’re most likely taught to not display any sort of direct aggression. Nevertheless, hot boiling emotions will surface one way or the other, and women from those parts have developed passive aggressive strategies to let out some steam.
Just think about words like “sweetie”, “honey”, “darlin”…they ain’t always as sweet as they come. “Bless your/her/his heart” sounds nice, but it usually ain’t.
I have a feeling many men don’t get the insults, good for them, but we do get the point whenever handed one of these “compliments”. It’s okay, though, I think the alternative to this sugar sweet mud slinging is way worse. It ain’t no joke that the frequency of mental problems are higher among southern women than the rest of the country.
Just think about words like “sweetie”, “honey”, “darlin”…they ain’t always as sweet as they come. “Bless your/her/his heart” sounds nice, but it usually ain’t.
I have a feeling many men don’t get the insults, good for them, but we do get the point whenever handed one of these “compliments”. It’s okay, though, I think the alternative to this sugar sweet mud slinging is way worse. It ain’t no joke that the frequency of mental problems are higher among southern women than the rest of the country.
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Fine! I'll insult you!
Nah, I won't. What I will say is that I think we've probably all experienced this. If you get one and immediately recognize it as such, maybe call them out on it. Or, come back with a subtle snort of a reply that makes them realize that you know what they just did. I tend to be rather direct, and I might come back with something that would have them backing off. But, I got to be careful as sin can creep in in those moments.
This reminds me of Everybody Loves Raymond. That mother-in-law is the reigning champ of the passive-aggressive... everything.
Nah, I won't. What I will say is that I think we've probably all experienced this. If you get one and immediately recognize it as such, maybe call them out on it. Or, come back with a subtle snort of a reply that makes them realize that you know what they just did. I tend to be rather direct, and I might come back with something that would have them backing off. But, I got to be careful as sin can creep in in those moments.
This reminds me of Everybody Loves Raymond. That mother-in-law is the reigning champ of the passive-aggressive... everything.
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Annie was from way up north. I’d say she’s more like the old West kinda character. A southern lady is a long way from that. But most of us southern girls would never qualify for a southern lady membership anyways lol. We usually go by redneck girls or other terms that are not even in the vicinity of the word “lady” lol.
oh ok
I think in Gone With the Wind scarlett O'Hara was southern but she also slapped and shot people, and Rhett didnt think she was a lady. Melanie was and never had a bad word to say about anybody, I dont recall her giving back handed compliments or being catty.
Of course I havent ever lived there (in the US) so not sure what its really like. Reese Witherspoon wrote a book called 'Whisky in a teacup' all about being southern, but all I remember from it was she liked monograms and insisted she wasnt racist.
I think in Gone With the Wind scarlett O'Hara was southern but she also slapped and shot people, and Rhett didnt think she was a lady. Melanie was and never had a bad word to say about anybody, I dont recall her giving back handed compliments or being catty.
Of course I havent ever lived there (in the US) so not sure what its really like. Reese Witherspoon wrote a book called 'Whisky in a teacup' all about being southern, but all I remember from it was she liked monograms and insisted she wasnt racist.
Blanche Du Bois (character in Streetcar named desire) was Southern from New Orleans. She went mad though.
Vivien Leigh who played both Scarlett and Blanche wasnt american she was british. In both stories her character gets raped. ?! So not really sure what its saying about the South.
I think maybe in the olden days Southern ladies have to learn how to be charming to men thats all, cos they dont have any other means...of survival...they not going to work like field hands in the plantations.
Vivien Leigh who played both Scarlett and Blanche wasnt american she was british. In both stories her character gets raped. ?! So not really sure what its saying about the South.
I think maybe in the olden days Southern ladies have to learn how to be charming to men thats all, cos they dont have any other means...of survival...they not going to work like field hands in the plantations.