"Not Physically Attracted Enough" - Vs - "Friendship that Catches Fire"

I have not been attracted to some and then later down the line developed an attraction to them. It can be their kindness, genuineness, even their ability to stay calm despite whatever is going on. It shows that the inside is important.

I always say if attraction is so important why do many people in the media who are considered highly attractive such as models, actors etc have spouses who cheat on them? Could it be that we have all been trained to think attractiveness is of the highest importance?

Esther did win, and she won big.

True, very attractive people, such as actors and models, have spouses who cheat on them and leave them. Part of that is they know they are partly in a rat race for publicity and getting favors... like hollywood show marriages for publicity or a model marrying a big movie producer... sometimes those are marriages of convenience, that situation can change fast. And I would suspect attractive, rich and powerful people tend to think there will always be lots of green grass fields for them, so they are willing to put someone else first 50-100% of the time. The wiser know you have to be a good person to keep a good person.

I don't think anyone was trained to think attractiveness is of the highest importance, especially people who grew up in the church and with good families. Rather I think most people think physical attraction is not the most important, just an essential element for a mate.

Most people don't select their friends based on physical attractiveness. I think most want their spouse to be their best friend, but they know a spouse is not the same thing as a friend... lots of friends can't be your spouse. Isn't this the essence of the issue?

A Proverb warns about the vanity of beauty as well as the deceitfulness of charm, but not the functionality of physical attractiveness. Proverbs 31:30 ESV: Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 5:19 ESV: A lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

Not the beauty contest I was thinking of.
Esther is a stand alone story.

The one I was thinking of was supposed to be another wife for David. But David didn't want her. Instead his usurping son asked for her to be his wife and Solomon had to kill him.

We don't know exactly what happened to her. She may have been included in Solomon's harem which seems the most likely outcome. She was a king's woman even if she started out functioning as more of a human hot water bottle and if Adonijah wanting to marry her was a play for the throne that got him executed you can't really imagine that she would be allowed to marry anyone except the king. So she probably lived out her days as one of Solomon's hundreds of concubines.... not great but there are worse fates.

Not the beauty contest I was thinking of.
Esther is a stand alone story.

The one I was thinking of was supposed to be another wife for David. But David didn't want her. Instead his usurping son asked for her to be his wife and Solomon had to kill him.

Not the beauty contest I was thinking of.
Esther is a stand alone story.

The one I was thinking of was supposed to be another wife for David. But David didn't want her. Instead his usurping son asked for her to be his wife and Solomon had to kill him.

Oh... how did you see that as a beauty contest?

That's actually a difficult one to find. It sounds really interesting. Can you note the chapter/verse? Thank you in advance!

READ the scriptures carefully and slowly. Diagram the sentences if need be. Underline the verbs and nouns if you don't know how to diagram sentences.
It was written very minimally....fewest words possible.

Think about what all would have been going on in the minds of everyone involved. Soak in the action written and "of course" stuff that wasn't written.

Then answer your own question.

Well, since you are without grace or humility, I'll be sure to avoid making the mistake of asking you to explain something in the future.

No....
I want you to know the scriptures. Soak them in. Keep them in your heart at all times. Most every story written in them has answers for some of today's issues. I ALWAYS point people to the scriptures.

Sure, I can tell you what they say and mean....but it's not really helpful for anyone. It actually hurts people when that happens. That's why I say things the way I do. I want you to know what you know and why you know it. Nobody can take away what you know.

I will give the general information and guide....but I really do want you to feed yourself and not rely on the multitude of wackanoodle "teachers" explaining the scriptures. It's straightforward stuff usually...sometimes it's difficult but not usually.

So discussion and teaching are passé. Got it.

No....not at all.
But you are an adult who knows how to use Google and read and self learn things that are important to you.

I can be a resource for Guidance. I'm not a teacher nor have I ever been. I kinda suck as a trainer too. My wife? Awesome teacher. She's the one that rocks at it.
I just point you in the right direction and believe that you are capable and able. You are a guy....if you don't already have one...one day you will have a household to patriarch. Single Christian men are practically unicorns in number....a myth that doesn't really exist. And I'm sure that one day a young lass will keep that true. And you are going to be tasked with spiritual leadership.
And that doesn't have anything to do with urinating from the standing position or wearing boxers inside out because the seams chaffe. It means taking the responsibility of the direction your family goes and why.