Single Men's Take on Marriage in Our Modern World

Well, this is interesting your response, I mean this is true this is why I often avoid this section of the forums and study the Bible subjects with the others that are actually care enough to be interested about the Lord God and his kingdom.

Hmm, but alas being in the holy knighthood of the omegas is not by anyone's choice. You have to be a man, and you have to have a certain card that the wicked cite in their mockery of us, it is not a card made of paper. The rankings are by age. If indeed you have the card still, you're the oldest I have seen and will record, you're the new #1 and I shall be demoted down to #4.

Are you playing Dungeons & Dragons, or some other esoteric tabletop game? I never was much into roleplay.

How old do you think I am anyhow?

I can honestly say I have never played Dungeons & Dragons.

Pretty sure you said you were 44 on the first page.

Esoteric . hmmm intersting use of word. it is a bit like being in a church ... so Esoteric .

Want it. My one marriage, ended due to her death, was good. I want that again. I miss the companionship and sharing my everyday life with someone. Besides, as a 58yo man who's still healthy with a respectable libido, I want a legitimate / holy sexual outlet.

Lots of crickets and worms under rocks. Interesting social life??

Yep cant complain, plenty of food too.

Yes!

I prefer the single, celibate, stress free life of not having to share my space with anyone. I don't think there is anything about marriage that is worth giving up the tremendous joy of an autonomous life where all your free time is yours to enjoy. The constant feeling of being on vacation. It's priceless.
I can do whatever I want, like study the bible all day if I want, and no one tells me, "are you going to read all day?" I love it so much.
I pinch myself daily and say "This is so awesome." Don't ever mess it up again. You're free, stay that way.

Sex is not worth loosing all that freedom and joy.

Truer words are hard to find. In God's dealing with me, He promised me a spiritual family and then promised me a wife. But He said this wife will be found within this spiritual family. For the last nineteen years, I've searched for this spiritual family and have not searched for a wife but haven't heard of any godly women. The two, indeed, are similar and are also difficult to find-- alone or together.

To you. As for me...

Manwhores + possessed modern women, sounds like a match made in h___🤦‍
uh wait, I better go get my specs, did I read that right???

I dunno... There are a few women who are quite nice. They aren't ALL slave drivers.

While I agree with the sentiment that those who wilfully destroy families destroy the very fabric of society, I am reminded of the phrase "There but for the grace of God, go I". Whatever sin is your weakness, all of us redeemed are only redeemed so by the blood of Christ.

1 Corinthians 9-11
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

Hmm, well I shall hope your prayer shall be answered indeed soon for the Lord has told me that he is going to destroy these generations in this very decade because of how wicked they are.

2 Timothy 3:6, Paul's rare prophecy about the end of the world and the nature of the wicked generations and the wicked women and the wicked men. Proof the Bible is right!


"But it happened to them according to the true proverb, the dog has turned back to his vomit again, and the pig has returned to her mud"

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Where this guy might be Catholic....he shares so many similar thoughts and morals as the rest of us.....I find his conclusions about the women angry about the abortion issue amusing....

You have an interesting view of marriage. I never felt I had to do anything in particular being married, nor did I feel like my time wasn't my own. I didn't do things for and with him out of obligation. I did them because I wanted to do them. I CHOSE to love him, and from that choice I made many other choices, like being faithful, wanting to do things with him often, wanting to do things for him to show him Love, wanting a family. The other things, normal life stuff, wanting a nice, clean house, a nice yard, clean clothes and so on, weren't because he expected anything. They were because I expected them. I want to live in a clean house, so I clean my house, I want to wear clean clothes, so I do my laundry, and while I am doing my laundry I did some of his also (it saves money to do full loads of laundry instead of partial loads). However, as a grown adult, he also did these things, and others to show me love. He wasn't my jailer, we were teammates. He wanted a nice house, so he cleaned, he wanted a nice yard, so he landscaped and he wanted clean clothes, so he did laundry. Neither of us did these things because we felt we should do them to please the other? We did these things because we wanted to be good stewards of what God gave us. We did them to please God, not each other.

Perhaps instead of claiming marriage was what caused your prison, maybe it was the person/people you've chosen in your life?

Oh well not my circus not my monkey. I don't need the answers to your life choices.

Well dang…

I’m glad my husband likes me.

Yes, I am sure there are great marriages and happy couples. I was just giving my "Single Men's Take on Marriage in Our Modern World" that he asked for.

When one is married they should be focused on all the positive things about marriage and family and all that. They should not even be thinking of benefits of being single.

I was not giving advice. I was giving my personal perspective on being single in midlife. I could easily find an attractive woman and get married again and do all the things that married people like about being married.

But my desires are different today. I don't want any of those things that come with a romance, marriage and married life.

I was just sharing that there is an incredible joy in being alone for me. And there is nothing wrong with people who enjoy that. They don't have to be antimarriage or anti women they can just be honest and accept the fact that they are happier alone.

I am much more realistic now. Jailer is a strong word. I would describe it more like finally being retired. No longer having the pressure to get to work everyday. Or like I said, vacation everyday feeling. Being single and focused only on what you want to do is a relaxing, pleasant, lifestyle. It is healthy. It is calming. It is energizing.

Maybe it is possible to have the same feeling I have now while being married to a certain kind of woman with a different personality than what I know about, but my realistic side tells me that it is not likely. So I won't risk getting back in that miserable life again. I think men fantasize about what marriage "should" be and it's not, and they try to make the best of it because now they are stuck in it.

Maybe I have PTSD. Or maybe I am just right.

Maybe the reason men are miserable in marriage is because they should have been focused on building a family, a tribe, a clan instead of thinking like a woman who watches too much Hallmark Channel movies and thinking that a wife would make them happy.
They should marry to have lots of kids and that would give them their sense of happiness. Just sharing your ever waking minutes with someone else, no matter how pleasant they are is not the secret to happiness.

As you can see, it is best that I not marry. Better for her at least. LOL.

Here are my thoughts, and I believe that I have the mind of Christ.

If you're hoping to ever get married, then you, as a man, ought to be focusing upon yourself and what you need to do to become the type of man who will love his wife as Christ loves the church.

Stop and meditate for a moment on exactly what type of love it is that God requires of you.

It's the most selfless and sacrificial display of love that this world has ever known, and that's what God requires of you in a marital relationship. It's going to take a lot of repenting and sanctification on any man's part to become that type of man, so don't worry about what women are doing, and get started working on yourself immediately.

Hey, you asked...