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Feeling very lonely and frustrated. Single going on two years. I’m still depressed and angry. How is it my ex can go off with a married woman and raise her child and support her but yet I’m still alone trying to support my daughter and I? I feel like I’m being punished everyday I wake up.
 

Live4Him3

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Feeling very lonely and frustrated. Single going on two years. I’m still depressed and angry. How is it my ex can go off with a married woman and raise her child and support her but yet I’m still alone trying to support my daughter and I? I feel like I’m being punished everyday I wake up.
Hi, Gemmy.

I just finished reading a lot of your posting history, so I have a pretty good idea of what you've been struggling with. I also just finished praying for you and your daughter, and I will continue to keep the two of you in my prayers.
 

TabinRivCA

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Christians will go through trials and afflictions. During those times we need to count on our good Father to help us through. 'He delivers us out of ALL our afflictions' Psa 34:19.
A favorite Scripture of mine “But blessed are those who trust in the LORD and have made the LORD their hope and confidence" Jer 17:7. Think on the good things God has done and promised us, and trust in Him, He does not lie. 'A merry heart does good like a medicine' Prov 17:22.
Praying for you both also🙏💛
 

Live4Him3

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Hi, again.

I didn't want to quote you any scriptures in my first response because I know how overwhelming life's situations can be at times, so I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you and your daughter. However, I feel that the Lord wants you to know that he's not punishing you. I know why you feel that way because I've been through some extremely difficult trials of my own, and I used to feel the same way myself at times. Truth be told, God punished Jesus in your place that he might reconcile you back unto himself and be a loving and compassionate Father unto both you and your daughter.

Please consider what the prophet Isaiah wrote or foretold in relation to Jesus Christ and his sufferings in your place or on your behalf:

Isaiah chapter 53

[1] Who has believed our report? And to whom is the arm of the LORD revealed?
[2] For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he has no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.
[3] He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
[4] Surely he has borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
[5] But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
[6] All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
[7] He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he opened not his mouth.
[8] He was taken from prison and from judgment: and who shall declare his generation? For he was cut off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
[9] And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence, neither was any deceit in his mouth.
[10] Yet it pleased the LORD to bruise him; he has put him to grief: when you shall make his soul an offering for sin, he shall see his seed, he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the LORD shall prosper in his hand.
[11] He shall see of the travail of his soul, and shall be satisfied: by his knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many; for he shall bear their iniquities.
[12] Therefore will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the strong; because he has poured out his soul unto death: and he was numbered with the transgressors; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.

When Jesus was being beaten, being spit upon, and ultimately being crucified, he was doing so to procure you peace with God. Yes, as we just read, "the chastisement of our peace was upon him" or he was punished in our places that we might obtain peace with God.

Gemmy, "it pleased the LORD to bruise him" IN YOUR PLACE. Yes, God "saw the travail OF HIS SOUL, and was satisfied", and Christ's sufferings have "justified many", and that many includes you as you have placed your saving faith in him.

Romans chapter 5

[1] Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:
[2] By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.

God is not angry with you, Gemmy, nor is he seeking to punish you.

Instead, through Christ's sufferings on your behalf, you now have access to your heavenly Father through Jesus Christ.

Again, both you and your daughter are in my prayers.

Thanks for reaching out for help.
 

TheNarrowPath

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Feeling very lonely and frustrated. Single going on two years. I’m still depressed and angry. How is it my ex can go off with a married woman and raise her child and support her but yet I’m still alone trying to support my daughter and I? I feel like I’m being punished everyday I wake up.
Hey Gemmy, hope youre feeling a bit better as you feel the support from other Christians. I read your post earlier but couldnt reply to you privately but it took me a while to go through some songs to find one for you. The lyrics can be interpreted however you want. Jesus loves you each and every day.
 

Live4Him3

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Hi, Gemmy.

One more thing before I need to head out to work...

The Bible describes this world as a spiritual battleground, and God hasn't left us defenseless in this fight.

While reading through your posting history, I came to realize and understand your very real battle with what you called "intrusive thoughts" and/or thoughts of suicide at times.

When it comes to our spiritual armor, the Apostle Paul twice described the part of our armor that God designed to protect our minds or thought lives. Paul called that piece of spiritual armor "the helmet of salvation" (Ephesians 6:17) or, more specifically, "a helmet, the hope of salvation" (I Thessalonians 5:8). In other words, hope is what protects our minds while providing us with a positive outlook for the future.

Many years ago, I listened to a series of teachings on hope which helped me tremendously. Originally, these teachings came in the form of daily radio broadcasts, and each teaching is only about 10 minutes long in duration. There are 10 teachings in total in that they were stretched out originally over a 2 week period.

Anyhow, if you can spare about 10 minutes a day listening to the series, then I think that it will help you tremendously.

Here are links to the teachings in their chronological order:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7QJCzjpU5E
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGkclMCsDU8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3tiEVxAIDB4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-mzXduKzOE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-EbUR8VYZo