What annoys me about people telling single Christians about dating

A couple of things.

First - when I speak, I speak from the personal space of someone who was both married and then divorced under Islam, according to Islamic law, prior to being saved.

Just a small point, but Islam is contractual marriage - not covenantal as Christianity is, and my former husband caused me lifetime disability due to physical abuse.

When I remarried to a Christian man many years later, I didn't so much as hold my husbands hand prior to marriage.

I don't see my former marriage counting against my Christian marriage, as I was unsaved. My husband is a widower. His wife died of cancer many years before I met him.

So when I give advice that's where I'm coming from.

As far as encouraging youth toward marriage, I think most people do but the youth's have to meet the right person first. You can't advice anyone to marry the first person who says yes - that would lead to a poor choice if "yes" becomes the main criteria.

You have to be realistic, and give advice according to the individuals situation without exceeding the boundaries our Lord has given us.

My stepson married at 18, but they had to have tons of family support to succeed in the marriage - but they both had supportive families that could help them early on. Now they are doing great financially and otherwise.

Not everyone has the above support systems, but in many Christian homes they exist.

If you want to make a change in your local church concerning groups for the unmarried youth there - speak to the elders and see what you can do together as a church. Instead of complaining about x,y,z be the change you want to see there - just make sure to they are clear as to what your proposing.

Why doesn't it count?

Yes you do miss the time you didn't use it. If you lost your eyesight, I think you would miss it. Where are people taught to find a mate?

I'd strongly advise you to read I Corinthians chapter 6 which precedes what Paul said in chapter 7.

For example:

I Corinthians chapter 6

[9] Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
[10] Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
[11] And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God

Paul clearly warned fornicators that they would not inherit the kingdom of God.

Furthermore, he clearly said "and such WERE some of you". In other words, they repented of their fornication unto salvation.

Which brings us to chapter 7...

I Corinthians chapter 7

[1] Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
[2] Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Paul's words were written "to AVOID fornication".

You make it sound as if he was telling fornicators that they didn't need to repent, but to just get married instead.

That's clearly NOT what Paul said.

The Corinthians were well aware that Paul instructed them to REPENT of fornication:

II Corinthians chapter 12

[20] For I fear, lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I would, and that I shall be found unto you such as ye would not: lest there be debates, envyings, wraths, strifes, backbitings, whisperings, swellings, tumults:
[21] And lest, when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and that I shall bewail many which have sinned already, and have not repented of the uncleanness and fornication and lasciviousness which they have committed.

I'd rather have eyesight than a libido in any universe.

You missed the point. The sex drive is there for a purpose, to join you to the opposite sex. It's much stronger when you're young.

Why are you guys always bringing up sex?

how did Paul handle sexual immorality in the church as compared to how some churches handle it today?

Why doesn't it count?

2 Corinthians 6:17
“Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,”

Paul was referring to idol worship. Not sexual immorality.

Now read 2 Corinthians 6:16 "What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” ......Paul was referring to idol worship. Not sexual immorality.

Sexually immorality is almost always linked to idol worship, whether you realize it or not. In the case of Corinth- they had the Temple of Aphrodite right there.

Paul was answering 2 questions. One was idol worship the other was fornication. I don't see forincators today worshipping idols.

Paul was referring to sexual immorality. It is our bodies that God desires to dwell in. We are to be His temples.

1 Corinthians 6:19
“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?”

The idol would be the person they are fornicating with.

Paul was answering 2 questions. One was idol worship the other was fornication. I don't see forincators today worshipping idols.

I can tell you for a fact that young women generally don't have a strong sex drive. Men are different.

In Chap 6 Paul was dealing with idol worship and fornication, which was part of the idol worship. In Chap 7 he's dealing with fornication without the idol worship. Learn to study in context. You're just pulling out verses to support your opinion.