Should women pursue men?

Personally I'm glad that there are happy marriages and it's good to hear about that.

I don't know Melitas husband. I really don't have to know him. You can see in her words how she glows when she talks about him. That tells me all I need to know. Obviously he's a great husband and I'm sure he will be equally great as a Dad. I have daughters and I hope there are other guys like him out there.

So if a lady is interested in a guy, she may not say a thing to him, or she might try to converse with him.

She may look at him or avoid him.

See! This isn't confusing at all. 🤣

As long as she plays with her hair Say what? @JohnDB

I know. I saw that and kind of had a little "?" pop up over my head. Too much TV maybe.

What gets me is when I see a woman conversing with a man and she is adjusting her underwear Seriously???

Wait, what?????

The only thing that bugs me is if we're hearing, over and over, how happy they are as a married person. Occasional references are expected. But, there comes a point when it starts to feel like it's being rubbed in your face -- however unintentional that may be. I know that's a subjective response, as some here take that as wisdom to be shared or something. But, I always use the analogy of the rich man telling the poor man how blessed he is because of his wealth. And, unless I feel just as blessed as a poor man, that's not going to go over well.

I am not going to explain

Yeah, and you should be glad. I never said I wanted to see her unhappy. I know of two Christian marriages that are absolute garbage, and in both cases the abusee is planning to leave the abuser. As for the rest, I've already stated my feelings on the matter.

I doubt she would have more than mentioned it in this thread if you hadn't kept talking about it. I'm thinking if you want to stop hearing about it maybe you should change the topic rather than being upset that someone is saying they're happy. Go attack a city or something, that's what makes giant space lizards happy right?

It's annoying when you are actually trying to have a conversation and not trying to get a hook up....because I'm married!

Bake him something you KNOW he likes.
Play with your hair in front of him.

Let him see you SMILE when you catch his eyes and look at him from across the room or entering the room and play with your hair at the same time.

Don't smooth down your skirt when he's around...instead fluff the hem if it's a spring skirt.

Ask him for help with something like your car, kitchen sink, or something simple like a car escort or movie escort or dinner escort to a new restaurant....guys love a "damsel in distress" they get to rescue because good guys have "White Knight Syndrome "

This isn't difficult stuff.

The only thing that bugs me is if we're hearing, over and over, how happy they are as a married person. Occasional references are expected. But, there comes a point when it starts to feel like it's being rubbed in your face -- however unintentional that may be. I know that's a subjective response, as some here take that as wisdom to be shared or something. But, I always use the analogy of the rich man telling the poor man how blessed he is because of his wealth. And, unless I feel just as blessed as a poor man, that's not going to go over well.

I love being a wife.

Curious, why are you in the singles forum exactly?

you are so bad

What a low standard you have for "attacking". Expressing my feelings about a sore spot in my life constitutes an attack? Goodness, how would you define a mugging?

But, I've been in these kinds of forums long enough to know that this would be the type of ridiculous response I would get here, so yours comes as no surprise. I would have been surprised if no one did respond the way you did. However, I made my statement regardless because it needed to be said. It's now up to the married folks here to decide if they agree with me or not. From there, I will see what happens and respond accordingly.

As for you, since mere breathing constitutes an assault, I recommend you shield yourself and put me on ignore. It may serve us both well.

That's because you have a good husband.

I never said you were attacking anything. I was trying to tell you that your best way out of a conversation where you feel like you're getting something unpleasant constantly rubbed in your face is to change the subject or just abandon it and go do something you enjoy instead. And since you're named after Godzilla (and forgive me if my Godzilla mythos is lacking but I understood he was kind of a giant space lizard who attacked cities) I was trying to be a bit humorous by suggesting something that creature might enjoy.