Matthew 6:14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
I had a revelation about this verse today. Many years ago my son was in 5th grade and he had a para. The situation at school became untenable and the more I heard about it the more I felt that the para was responsible. He was going to go to a new school in 6th grade and she wanted us to request that she stay with my son. I felt she was not doing a good job and was even clearly responsible for the situation getting more and more miserable for my son. So I made it clear that we would not be requesting her and as a result she really acted with malice to harm our son as much as she could.
Later I learned that the city had changed the rules for paras and if they don't have a degree they will lose their job. The exception is if they are taking care of a kid and the parents request them to continue. She didn't have a degree, so if we did not request her she lost her job. She was making our son's life miserable in hopes that we would feel he wouldn't survive in the new school without a para. She was doing this discreetly through other kids in the class, but I was able to figure out she had to be behind it since I was a teacher and knew that what I was hearing from my son should not take place while she is sitting right there.
Now generally you expect that in order to forgive someone that they must first confess and repent. But are there any sins that you committed that you never got to talk to the person you wronged? I can forgive her and then if the Lord bothers her and she repents to Him He also is clear to forgive her.
OK, but it seems to me that I should have taken a different path, where was my sin, what was it that I did wrong? Then it hit me, I should have pulled my son out of the school long before we even got to the worst of the worst. Instead of going on to a different school if I had simply said I am going to homeschool him then she could not have done anything nor would he have had to go through that torture in 5th grade. I had homeschooled my two oldest kids but since he would be by himself I was reluctant to do it. Ultimately I did homeschool him, pulling him out of the new school after the first two weeks. Suffice it to say the malice she inflicted on him followed him to the new school.
But that is where I went wrong. The Lord was speaking to me to pull my kid out and homeschool him. I didn't want to and so He used this woman to make it so I would.
In other words, when I forgave her then I also was forgiven. I then got the revelation that this was God's move and my sin was not in obeying God's word. Because my son was homeschooled for three years his reading comprehension became very strong. At the time he needed 3 therapists, a para, an occupational therapist, a physical therapist and a speech therapist. When I homeschooled him we were able to spend much more time with his violin lessons and they worked to give him fine motor skills (occupational therapy) and they tuned his ear to perfect pitch (speech therapy). I then asked why he would need a physical therapist and para when he was in high school and they told me because he couldn't walk up stairs without holding the rail and so it was a safety issue. So what we did the summer before he started the 9th grade was to hike up mountains in the Adirondacks. A few months later I had him tested again and he no longer needed to hold onto handrails to go up the stairs and as a result he didn't need a para for HS.
So the revelation I got is that the people who "sin" against us might have been prompted by the Lord because we weren't listening to Him when He spoke. If you forgive them then you can get past that sin to see that the Lord was speaking to you and so you can obey the Lord's speaking and He can forgive you. How does the Lord know that you have forgiven them? Because you see that what they did was under the sovereignty of the Lord and that the real sin was you ignored the Lord's speaking to you.
I had a revelation about this verse today. Many years ago my son was in 5th grade and he had a para. The situation at school became untenable and the more I heard about it the more I felt that the para was responsible. He was going to go to a new school in 6th grade and she wanted us to request that she stay with my son. I felt she was not doing a good job and was even clearly responsible for the situation getting more and more miserable for my son. So I made it clear that we would not be requesting her and as a result she really acted with malice to harm our son as much as she could.
Later I learned that the city had changed the rules for paras and if they don't have a degree they will lose their job. The exception is if they are taking care of a kid and the parents request them to continue. She didn't have a degree, so if we did not request her she lost her job. She was making our son's life miserable in hopes that we would feel he wouldn't survive in the new school without a para. She was doing this discreetly through other kids in the class, but I was able to figure out she had to be behind it since I was a teacher and knew that what I was hearing from my son should not take place while she is sitting right there.
Now generally you expect that in order to forgive someone that they must first confess and repent. But are there any sins that you committed that you never got to talk to the person you wronged? I can forgive her and then if the Lord bothers her and she repents to Him He also is clear to forgive her.
OK, but it seems to me that I should have taken a different path, where was my sin, what was it that I did wrong? Then it hit me, I should have pulled my son out of the school long before we even got to the worst of the worst. Instead of going on to a different school if I had simply said I am going to homeschool him then she could not have done anything nor would he have had to go through that torture in 5th grade. I had homeschooled my two oldest kids but since he would be by himself I was reluctant to do it. Ultimately I did homeschool him, pulling him out of the new school after the first two weeks. Suffice it to say the malice she inflicted on him followed him to the new school.
But that is where I went wrong. The Lord was speaking to me to pull my kid out and homeschool him. I didn't want to and so He used this woman to make it so I would.
In other words, when I forgave her then I also was forgiven. I then got the revelation that this was God's move and my sin was not in obeying God's word. Because my son was homeschooled for three years his reading comprehension became very strong. At the time he needed 3 therapists, a para, an occupational therapist, a physical therapist and a speech therapist. When I homeschooled him we were able to spend much more time with his violin lessons and they worked to give him fine motor skills (occupational therapy) and they tuned his ear to perfect pitch (speech therapy). I then asked why he would need a physical therapist and para when he was in high school and they told me because he couldn't walk up stairs without holding the rail and so it was a safety issue. So what we did the summer before he started the 9th grade was to hike up mountains in the Adirondacks. A few months later I had him tested again and he no longer needed to hold onto handrails to go up the stairs and as a result he didn't need a para for HS.
So the revelation I got is that the people who "sin" against us might have been prompted by the Lord because we weren't listening to Him when He spoke. If you forgive them then you can get past that sin to see that the Lord was speaking to you and so you can obey the Lord's speaking and He can forgive you. How does the Lord know that you have forgiven them? Because you see that what they did was under the sovereignty of the Lord and that the real sin was you ignored the Lord's speaking to you.
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