When do you cut off a friendship once becoming distant?

I'm not a fan of fussing around with dead friendships. I may make some checks to see if things are really done, and once confirmed I move on.
I may not delete their info right away, though. And if they come back around I'll be open. But if they come and go I'll cut it off.

I still don't understand why you can't put it on hold. No cards or effort necessary. When the friend is ready to contact you, she will. Even if that's decades into the future. And then carry on as you left off. Why should it trouble or offend in the interim? We were designed to live forever - a few decades is nothing in the scheme of things.

The only awkward thing is if you've forgotten her name by the time she comes back, or mistake her for somebody else. Then you can blame the length of her absence.

Putting the relationship on hold or ending it is in the mind. The outward appearances are the same...no further contact. For me it is better to end it in my mind so I can move forward, so that I don't waste my time/energy. However there are a few exceptions so I dont have the same mindset with those friends. However, if any person from either group wants to contact me that's fine, it's just how I control my emotions and expectations on my end.

In the past, I had a friend whom I considered to be close, but she did not invite me to her wedding. I saw her wedding pics on Facebook (when I had it) and she did invite some friends. Later on, she invited me to the baby shower which didn't make sense to me (my first thought was that she wanted a gift). Anyway, as she never considered me to be a close friend (by not inviting me to her wedding), I decided to end that friendship.

It does sound like she only sought a gift.

Proverbs 19:6
Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a friend to him that giveth gifts.

It might be best to first determine what a friend actually is before seeking to determine how to deal with them. Here are some verses of scripture to ponder in that regard:

Exodus 33:11
And the LORD spake unto Moses face to face, as a man speaketh unto his friend.

If someone has no desire to see and speak to you face to face, then I'd question whether or not they truly are your friend. I said "desire" because there might be legitimate reasons why someone cannot see you face to face, but if none exist and they remain distant, then that speaks volumes to me.

Deuteronomy 13:6
If thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the wife of thy bosom, or thy friend, which is as thine own soul, entice thee secretly, saying, Let us go and serve other gods, which thou hast not known, thou, nor thy fathers;

If your "friend" isn't as your own soul or doesn't really have the same mindset that you have, then are they really your friend? That sounds more like an enemy or adversary to me. I still maintain a Facebook account, even though I rarely ever post on it anymore. I have several "friends" there, but, in reality, none of them can stand me or my sharing of the gospel message there. At best, they tolerate me. At worst, they loathe both me and the Lord whom I serve. Why haven't they "unfriended" me? Probably only to pad their friend count for egotistical reasons. The only reason that I don't "unfriend" them all, and I have "unfriended" many people over the years, is because I figure that at least they're being confronted with the gospel message from time to time. We're definitely not real friends though, even though I've been a true friend to them in that I genuinely care about their souls.

Proverbs 17:17
A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Do these "friends" of whom you speak love you at all times? If not, then they're really not your friends.

Proverbs 18:24
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Do your "friends" show themselves to be friendly? If they don't, then they're simply not your friends in reality.

Proverbs 27:6
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

Will your "friends" faithfully wound you if need be, or are they just what we might rightly call "kiss ups"? If they're "kiss ups", then they're your deceitful enemies, and not your true friends.

Proverbs 27:9
Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel.

Do your "friends" ever offer you hearty counsel, or are they open to receiving the same themselves? If not, then they're really not your friends. I've had so many "friends" over the years who never wanted to even talk to me unless they needed something from me. I don't consider any of them to be my friends.

Proverbs 27:17
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.

Do your "friends" sharpen your countenance as iron sharpens iron? If not, then are they really your friends?

There are many people who claim to be our "friends", but their actions clearly tell us otherwise. Of course, all of these same principles apply to us as well. In other words, we need to be examining ourselves to see if we're really a true friend to others.

If I use the Bible as my guide or dictionary by which I define words or terms, then I really only have a few friends on the face of the earth. Even so, I always seek, with God's help, to be a true friend to others.

Putting the relationship on hold or ending it is in the mind. The outward appearances are the same...no further contact. For me it is better to end it in my mind so I can move forward, so that I don't waste my time/energy. However there are a few exceptions so I dont have the same mindset with those friends. However, if any person from either group wants to contact me that's fine, it's just how I control my emotions and expectations on my end.

If you and a friend became distant over time, at what point (at least mentally) do you cut off the friendship? By cutting off, I mean you ended communications, stopped initiating conversations, deleted their phone number, etc. For this particular thread, I am focusing on friendships that have become distant over time, not friendships you have cut off because your friend betrayed you, stole your boyfriend, etc.

If I have not communicated with someone over a few years, I tend to delete their number from my phone (not sure if this is the right way to handle this, but I prefer not seeing their name in my phone if there is no communication). I am now dealing wit a situation where a close friend and I have become distant since 2016 due to politics, and by extension religion. She definitely had more of an issue with how I voted, versus the other way around. Just recently I was shocked she didn't update me that she moved apartments and got a promotion. Our relationship has basically evolved into wishing each other formalities like happy birthday, Merry Christmas, etc., so about every 6 months. Since we were very close at one point, I am fine with just continuing this formality into the future. In the past, I did ask how she was doing, but she did not want to go back and forth conversing so I stopped asking her.

I usually focus on events verses time. So if they stop inviting you to different things you use to share, don't ask how you're doing when pregnant and have asked them, things like that. I find they usually have another close friend at that point and they're not interested anymore. I also pay attention to how they behave when we're together. If it feels awkward, like we can't have a conversation or if they are deliberately disagreeing on points they've agreed with before. Sometimes it seems like the world is against the friendship. That might be extreme but seriously it will be horrible weather or circumstances when together. Idk but there's an energy you feel when it's faded and they just don't seem to be into the friendship anymore. It sucks, I'm very sensitive when I get close to people and they ditch me. My last best friend breakup felt as bad as an actual breakup to me. I'm ready to move on now and hopefully find some other friends. I think I'll be waiting until I'm hopefully healthier and the kids are a bit older for that though.

How do you hide your contacts?