Be very careful who you marry

you blame the wives?

are blaming the wives? BOTH husbands were very jealous of their wives and their work in the ministries, How could you miss that?

Wow. My wife and I switch those roles almost on a daily basis!
We ignore this flippancy and move on. Mostly to grocery shopping and cooking. Then we reset the next morning.

Right. This "perfect match" business is for those in the world. You start with that....you will end up severely disappointed.

Christian marriage is not a Netfix primetime dating show. It is 100% commitment regardless of who is bearing who's load.
Because of course.....the load can shift at any time.

Ultimately, marriage is an expression of our love and commitment to Jesus Christ, and we endure marriage trials by His strength and for His glory.

True?

As much as I would like to be married, I've seen times where it has ruined people's lives. I took 2 years of sign language and taught a Sunday School class for deaf children. We had services interpreted for the deaf. We had a new interpreter come in one Sunday. Her sign language was awesome. The way her hands and fingers flowed was like poetry. The other interpreters' was amazed at her signing. The deaf complimented her after services on her signs. She had a GOD given talent. One Sunday I walked over to her husband and mentioned how well his wife signed. He just glared at me and walked out. I asked others what happened? They said her husband was very jealous of her being in front of the church and getting the attention. Shortly after that she stopped. A couple of weeks later I saw her as a bible study and asked her what happened. She looked real nervous. looked around and said she couldn't talk about it and walked off. GOD had given this woman an incredible gift and her husband just crushed it out of jealousy.
I had a friend who was helping me with the Sunday School class and she was learning sign language. She loved working with the kids, went on day trips with us. She really loved the class. She got married, but said she would be coming back to the class. She never came back to the class. I asked her what happened. Her husband would not allow her to return. He was also cutting her off from her friends and family. They finally divorced after about 10 years. But, she missed out on so many blessing with with the deaf children, all because of her husband wanting complete control of her.
Just because someone says they are a Christian, and they might be, but attitudes and personalities make a difference.

Right.. so I was prepared to reset as you say.. but my wife.. not so much. If she wasn't happy.. she would leave, that was the constant threat.

Unlikely the jealous was unprovoked. We don't really know the back story, or what they went through before, or things that happened. I've been in a relationship where there simply was no jealousy or trust issues until that was violated and they created a reputation for themselves.

And I mean BOTH PARTERNS "giving" and not taking. Just to be clear.
But sacrificial love is the hallmark of a Christian to begin with. So there is that foundation to build upon.

"Be very careful who you marry."
John, since you're always complaining about being single... maybe you should be less careful. : )

Ephesians 5:25-33

King James Version



25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Sorry to hear that bro....

I blame nobody. Since when am I their judge?

Agree.

What is the reason for this thread really, to show Christian how he valued these women and their husbands did not.

"Be very careful who you marry."

John,
since you're always complaining about being single...
maybe you should be less careful.

: )

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Now that is a refreshing response. I believe the best solution for John would be an arranged marriage. That should be very safe for him.

Now that is a refreshing response. I believe the best solution for John would be an arranged marriage. That should be very safe for him.