How possible is it for an exhusband to gain full custody of his children?

Hi! In your experiences, etc., is it possible for an exhusband to gain full custody of his chldren, by applying for it after the divorce? Our daughter made a very wrong decision by divorcing her good, Christian husband, this year. Her boyfriend lives with her - he's a drunk and uses drugs. Her exhusband and also herself - both have full time jobs. She is not abusive to her children. But she is not being a good example to the children, by having this live-in boyfriend. Also, since she works full time - she pays someone to watch over her children while she works. But it would be much better if they were watched over by family members, I believe - such as her exhusband, Dan, plus ourselves - my husband, Gary and I (Debby). Being raised in a Christian family environment is more wholesome than being raised mostly by outside "babysitters." We - my husband and I spend about 4 hours (in summers and months of year in which school isn't going on - and 1 hour daily in school year - since they attend a Christian school) with them daily, during the weeks they are with their dad, here in town. We sit with them and interact with them a lot. I teach them educational things, plus make them read Bible stories, and I explain spiritual things to them. There is a danger the boyfriend she has - has pedophile tendencies, as he harassed me and Dan's son, Tyler for a while around the time right after she met him and "fell in love" with him, and made the decision to leave her marriage. He had the word, "pedophile" on his mind a lot in his harassing, taunting messages he sent to us, as he used the word a number of times in his messages to us. One of our grandchildren is a girl, age 7. We've warned her against the danger. And we've told our grandchildren to tell us if he ever does anything wrong like that or anything else against her or either of them.

We live in Michigan.

Hi! In your experiences, etc., is it possible for an exhusband to gain full custody of his chldren, by applying for it after the divorce? Our daughter made a very wrong decision by divorcing her good, Christian husband, this year. Her boyfriend lives with her - he's a drunk and uses drugs. Her exhusband and also herself - both have full time jobs. She is not abusive to her children. But she is not being a good example to the children, by having this live-in boyfriend. Also, since she works full time - she pays someone to watch over her children while she works. But it would be much better if they were watched over by family members, I believe - such as her exhusband, Dan, plus ourselves - my husband, Gary and I (Debby). Being raised in a Christian family environment is more wholesome than being raised mostly by outside "babysitters." We - my husband and I spend about 4 hours (in summers and months of year in which school isn't going on - and 1 hour daily in school year - since they attend a Christian school) with them daily, during the weeks they are with their dad, here in town. We sit with them and interact with them a lot. I teach them educational things, plus make them read Bible stories, and I explain spiritual things to them. There is a danger the boyfriend she has - has pedophile tendencies, as he harassed me and Dan's son, Tyler for a while around the time right after she met him and "fell in love" with him, and made the decision to leave her marriage. He had the word, "pedophile" on his mind a lot in his harassing, taunting messages he sent to us, as he used the word a number of times in his messages to us. One of our grandchildren is a girl, age 7. We've warned her against the danger. And we've told our grandchildren to tell us if he ever does anything wrong like that or anything else against her or either of them.

You need to have some proof that he is a pedophile. If Tyler had filed a police report, that may have helped. I think you also need to confront the boyfriend that you know of his tendencies (if that is safe) so he knows other people know. People with sex deviancy like secrecy and think they can get away. Drug use may be easier to prove.

I do not know your state's laws but it is very possible if he can prove that the kids are being put in dangerous situations. In fact no offense but if your daughter is putting them around a possible pedophile (it is difficult to label someone a pedophile in less they have real creepy fixations or a history) and exposing the kids to drug use or someone constantly under the influence, the kids should be with their father or y'all the grandparents if the father isn't willing.

In my state, they will not even accept a kids choice until they are like 13.

Sounds like difficult times. Praying for y'all.