I sinned and am heartbroken

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Red_Tory

Red_Tory

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I'm a longtime lurker on these forums.

I had been seeing a woman since April 2022. I had sex with her and we obviously weren't married. In October she became pregnant. But by Christmas she admitted to sleeping with other people when I was away.

I stayed, hoping & praying that the baby could be ours and that something wonderful would happen from my sinful actions. Went to all the appointments. Bought the cutest outfits for the baby girl. Saw her on the 3D ultrasound and fell in love when I saw her little hands and feet.

Got a prenatal paternity test. She isn't ours, and the other man will not let me adopt her even though he hasn't shown up at all yet.

I think most people would be relieved - it was a messy relationship with very flawed people, myself included. But I don't feel that way. I know that I will miss Baby P every day for the rest of my life.

I ask that you pray that Baby P has a lifetime of blessings ahead and that she will come to know God.
 
TabinRivCA

TabinRivCA

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Yes I will agree that Baby P will have a heart for the Lord. If I was in your situation, I would of course repent knowing God's mercies are new every morning. Seek Christian relationships and don't let your heart be taken by someone who is unequally yoked and/or not as much interested in you as you are to them. God bless🙏
 
tourist

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Red_Tory said:
I think most people would be relieved
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For sure. Looks like that you dodged a bullet. You are right in asking for prayers for this child that is soon to be born. Now, I would break off with this woman, and ask God for you to avoid future entanglements.
 
HealthAndHappiness

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Red_Tory said:
I'm a longtime lurker on these forums.

I had been seeing a woman since April 2022. I had sex with her and we obviously weren't married. In October she became pregnant. But by Christmas she admitted to sleeping with other people when I was away.

I stayed, hoping & praying that the baby could be ours and that something wonderful would happen from my sinful actions. Went to all the appointments. Bought the cutest outfits for the baby girl. Saw her on the 3D ultrasound and fell in love when I saw her little hands and feet.

Got a prenatal paternity test. She isn't ours, and the other man will not let me adopt her even though he hasn't shown up at all yet.

I think most people would be relieved - it was a messy relationship with very flawed people, myself included. But I don't feel that way. I know that I will miss Baby P every day for the rest of my life.

I ask that you pray that Baby P has a lifetime of blessings ahead and that she will come to know God.
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I just prayed for you Red Tory and for Baby P.
No doubt that's a tough situation to be in.
I'm sure that you want your prayers for her answered more than anything. In my own life, I learned how God would start answering my prayers. It began with a simple truth and the prayer at the end of the following video Link.

Feel free to let me know if you have any questions after listening to the short video twice. Sometimes it's easy to miss some details first time through.

Take care
 
Magenta

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Red_Tory said:
She isn't ours, and the other man will not let me adopt her even though he hasn't shown up at all yet.
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I am sorry to hear of your heart break, though cannot help but wonder how this other guy can
prevent you from adopting Baby P if that is what the mother would desire in his absence? .:unsure:
 
Red_Tory

Red_Tory

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Magenta said:
I am sorry to hear of your heart break, though cannot help but wonder how this other guy can
prevent you from adopting Baby P if that is what the mother would desire in his absence? .:unsure:
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Long story, but apparently it's his intent to get a genetic test upon the child's birth definitively showing that she's his. He would need to agree to any adoption. He's local, in the same town. I don't know him. I can only hope he will be a good father some day.
 
AcceptedintheBeloved

AcceptedintheBeloved

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Don’t allow Satan condemn you! The Devil plays it at both ends, first he temps you and when you act on that temptation he has the pleasure of condemning you, saying stuff like, How can you call yourself a Christian. Deny him his pleasure, it’s under the blood of Christ, forgiven. Where are thine accuser, he was defeated at cross of our Lord. 🙂 Neither do we condemn you.
 
Goliath

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Red_Tory said:
I'm a longtime lurker on these forums.

I had been seeing a woman since April 2022. I had sex with her and we obviously weren't married. In October she became pregnant. But by Christmas she admitted to sleeping with other people when I was away.

I stayed, hoping & praying that the baby could be ours and that something wonderful would happen from my sinful actions. Went to all the appointments. Bought the cutest outfits for the baby girl. Saw her on the 3D ultrasound and fell in love when I saw her little hands and feet.

Got a prenatal paternity test. She isn't ours, and the other man will not let me adopt her even though he hasn't shown up at all yet.

I think most people would be relieved - it was a messy relationship with very flawed people, myself included. But I don't feel that way. I know that I will miss Baby P every day for the rest of my life.

I ask that you pray that Baby P has a lifetime of blessings ahead and that she will come to know God.
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Tough spot brother....I will definitely say a prayer for this little one.
 
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