For the men

My hobbies seem to include outside yard work & property maintenance on good weather days; laundry and cleaning on bad weather days. Meal prepping too. Occasional business travel. Getting 8 hours of sleep and attending church. Rinse. Repeat. 🫠
I’m really hoping to find some time to go on hikes this fall.

I’m specifically asking the men because men’s and women’s brains are wired different, so I’m looking for thoughts from my own gender. Men - Do you ever feel “isolated” as a Christian? I myself work a secular job and know of no other Christian’s at work. I attend an awesome church, but it doesn’t have a men’s group so to speak. (Rural America, so it’s not a big church that can support a healthy sized men’s group - right now there seems to be a lack of interest in one.) Most of my friends are from the secular side of life (work, neighbors, etc.) so at times it feels like I’m all alone as a Christian man. There are very few men from my generation in my church - most are 20+ years older or 25+ years younger. (It is encouraging to see the number of young men in my church though!) So the question is - do any of you other men feel isolated, and if so, how do you manage it in this decaying world?

My hobbies seem to include outside yard work & property maintenance on good weather days; laundry and cleaning on bad weather days. Meal prepping too. Occasional business travel. Getting 8 hours of sleep and attending church. Rinse. Repeat. 🫠
I’m really hoping to find some time to go on hikes this fall.

The Bible says in Proverbs that to have friends one must themselves become friendly.

He didn't say you weren't friendly, he posted a verse from scripture. Best wishes, friend.

My hobbies seem to include outside yard work & property maintenance on good weather days; laundry and cleaning on bad weather days. Meal prepping too. Occasional business travel. Getting 8 hours of sleep and attending church. Rinse. Repeat. 🫠
I’m really hoping to find some time to go on hikes this fall.

You know....
In EVERY church there are usually a huge contingent of elderly and especially widows that can't do landscaping like they used to....including the washing of windows and etc. And with the rising cost of labor....many are having a difficult time affording someone to spread the mulch, trim the bushes, or fix outbuildings. They of course can afford the materials....but the labor is the thing.

Getting a group of guys together to do this stuff once a month for the elderly is a huge relief for them....and it's fun and easy with a bunch of guys working together to clean out gutters, trim bushes and etc.
Then go and shoot some guns, take in a game, or whatever.

The core problem I have is the lack of others. There is no one else around me walking the same path that I am that I know of. That’s the issue here. I can’t gather up a group to these, and other suggested activities, if I literally know of no others. They’re not at work. They’re not at church. That’s the issue.

I understand....and they, like you, are few and far in between. But to draw them out you need bait. Like a corn feeder for deer.
And in this group of guys that enjoy sitting around cups of coffee solving the world's problems you will find the one who can be a great friend and a couple who can be good friends.

I guess the right question is “what’s the bait and where do I cast it?” I don’t feel it would be appropriate to start a group in the church that wasn’t church sanctioned - I don’t wanna be some freelancer that could be viewed as trying to pull people away from official church “activities” so to speak. The biggest issue is the rural area I live in. Cows outnumber people.

It's not something that you do in church or in church facilities....

But acquaintances from church are invited....married and single alike.

All Christian Men are looking for an excuse to get together....that's the bait. The invitations needs to be made across many denominations....from Methodists to Nazarenes and of course Presbyterian and Baptists. Possibly Catholics....but I doubt you will get any Catholics.

I wonder…. I don’t have a ton of Fakebook friends, mostly just family and some people I actually know in real life, but I wonder if creating a group on Fakebook and make it public might work? A local group - not something for every Tom, Dick and Harry. Thoughts? 🤔 Something to bring local guys together in the real world.

I wonder…. I don’t have a ton of Fakebook friends, mostly just family and some people I actually know in real life, but I wonder if creating a group on Fakebook and make it public might work? A local group - not something for every Tom, Dick and Harry. Thoughts? 🤔 Something to bring local guys together in the real world.