Would you date or marry a separated or divorced person?

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presidente said:
Thank you for your response. Why not?
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What does the Bible tell us about dallying with someone elses spouse? The word dallying won't be found in any Bible translations to English that I know of, none-the-less, the answer to your question can be found in the Bible, unless maybe it's a fake AI Bible...
 
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presidente said:
Jesus and Paul would preach to crowds. Jesus cared intently. But how did they people know that. He taught crowds who didn't know him well. They may not have known how much He cared, but He still spoke the word.

The Bible does not say, "Thou shalt not speak to people who know not how much thou carest."
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The problem with that is, here on this forum we have a surfeit of SAPs (Self Appointed Preachers) and the last thing we need is another one. Shoot, sometimes we get four in one week!

Every one of them follows the same pattern:
- He breezes in with blithe confidence, certain that the forum members are his new congregation and will be grateful for his spiritual guidance.
- He proceeds to ride his favorite hobby horse until it is dead, then starts beating it.
- He gets upset because people either express indifference or disagree with him.
- He starts claiming "I'm just quoting the Bible, so if you disagree with me you're disagreeing with God's word" a whole lot.
- He gets disgusted, denounces the whole forum as a pit of heretical vipers and (hopefully) leaves to berate some other crowd.

We have seen the whole routine so often that some of us who have been here longest can even predict to within a few hours when each stage will hit. :cool:
 
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Tall_Timbers said:
What does the Bible tell us about dallying with someone elses spouse? The word dallying won't be found in any Bible translations to English that I know of, none-the-less, the answer to your question can be found in the Bible, unless maybe it's a fake AI Bible...
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What if she divorced because her ex husband cheated or was abusive?
 
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seoulsearch said:
This is why you are getting these kinds of answers.

You wouldn't be surprised by this if you take the time to learn more about the population that hangs out here.
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Yes, you have to know who the players are for sure.
 
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MsMediator said:
What if she divorced because her ex husband cheated or was abusive?
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Or maybe she just couldn't stand watching him read The Message Bible one more day. :p
 
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Lynx said:
The problem with that is, here on this forum we have a surfeit of SAPs (Self Appointed Preachers) and the last thing we need is another one. Shoot, sometimes we get four in one week!
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SAPS...LOL!

My theory is that when someone comes on board with that 'tude, it's cause they have used up all their other preaching platforms

 
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MsMediator said:
What if she divorced because her ex husband cheated or was abusive?
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My response that you quoted was about seeing someone still married but separated.

If a person divorces because their spouse cheated, they are free and clear by my understanding of the Word so long as they aren't guilty of the same themselves. Or if they are married to an unbeliever who does the divorcing.
 
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Niki7 said:
SAPS...LOL!

My theory is that when someone comes on board with that 'tude, it's cause they have used up all their other preaching platforms

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Oh... No, I can't take credit for SAPs. A friend of mine came up with that.

In that same conversation another friend expressed the theory that a lot of people hang out here and preach at us because they can't get along with a church congregation in real life.

(I have a lot of doggone intelligent friends. Kinda odd that they put up with me.)
 
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presidente said:
Of course seoulsearch was right that I don't know the make-up of the forum. I didn't know that it was so common
on this forum for posters to derail threads with talk of why a thread shouldn't posted, like you and seoulsearch did.

I don't agree with the premise that I need to know the make-up of the forum to post a message. And if some divorced people don't like scriptures on divorce or discussions on the topic, I don't agree with the idea that that makes it wrong for me to post it.
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I have always enjoyed reading your very articulate posts in the BDF. They are often chock full of your personal life experiences, which make them very interesting aside from your knowledge and understanding of Scripture, so much so that even when I may not have the energy to be able to read long posts from others, when it was a long post from you, I would read it. I appreciated them so much, I designed a panel dedicated to you. Something went wrong in the process and I did not know what I had done, in applying some filter or layer mask that I did not want, and did not know how to undo, so I had to try to remake it, and then ended up with multiple panels with the same theme. LOL.


Ephesians 1:3 + Philippians 2:13

Ephesians 1:3 + Philippians 2:13
They are from over two years ago... .:)
 
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Niki7 said:
SAPS...LOL!

My theory is that when someone comes on board with that 'tude, it's cause they have used up all their other preaching platforms

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Elmer Gantry!! The con man full of 'tudes. I watched that movie twice, it was so good. He was fire and brimstone hisself and his fem fatale was the sweet promise of salvation. Great movie.
 
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17Bees said:
Elmer Gantry!! The con man full of 'tudes. I watched that movie twice, it was so good. He was
fire and brimstone hisself and his fem fatale was the sweet promise of salvation. Great movie.
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Do you remember Burt Lancaster in The Swimmer? Ha, odd little movie. It was also Joan Rivers's film debut.
 
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Magenta said:
I have always enjoyed reading your very articulate posts in the BDF. They are often chock full of your personal life experiences, which make them very interesting aside from your knowledge and understanding of Scripture, so much so that even when I may not have the energy to be able to read long posts from others, when it was a long post from you, I would read it. I appreciated them so much, I designed a panel dedicated to you. Something went wrong in the process and I did not know what I had done, in applying some filter or layer mask that I did not want, and did not know how to undo, so I had to try to remake it, and then ended up with multiple panels with the same theme. LOL.


Ephesians 1:3 + Philippians 2:13

Ephesians 1:3 + Philippians 2:13
They are from over two years ago... .:)
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Thank you.
 
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Magenta said:
Do you remember Burt Lancaster in The Swimmer? Ha, odd little movie. It was also Joan Rivers's film debut.
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I don't know that movie. I've watched him in a bunch of war movies and westerns with Kirk Russel. Oh, and the Rainmaker where he was selling his scientific way of producing rain during the 30's dust bowl.
 
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17Bees said:
I don't know that movie. I've watched him in a bunch of war movies and westerns with Kirk Russel. Oh, and the Rainmaker where he was selling his scientific way of producing rain during the 30's dust bowl.
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oops. That was Kirk Douglas not Kurt Russell. (my screen lawyers already called)
 
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presidente said:
Would you date or marry someone who had been divorced? If so, under what conditions?

Would you date someone who was separated from their spouse? If so, under what conditions?

Some scripture for discussion and consideration.

Mark 10:11-12
11 And he said unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, commits adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she commits adultery.
(KJ2000B)

Matthew 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
(KJ2000B)

I Corinthians 7
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
(KJ2000B)

Romans 7
7 Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the law), that the law [a]has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2 For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
(NKJV)
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so its seems these passages are quite clear on remarriage. not to remarry. has anyone noticed that there are few situations where God is that clear & adamant? in yet, we disobey God's laws constantly. how can God forgive a bunch of sins but not remarriage? God knew long ago we wouldn't always remain unmarried after a divorce. i think, as in anything else, try your best to work out a troubled marriage to the point where, if divorce is the final answer, both parties have no guilt in the future, when recalling the event that produces guilt. 1st ?: yes, if no children were involved. 2nd ?: no.
 
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