Seoulsearch Tries To Date Multiple People At Once -- Ending In Epic Failure!

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I do know that the apostle paul i believe spoke that it was better not to marry i believe so thats why i asked God otherwise in case your wondering.
 

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He has told me i would be married and how many children i would have but no timeline. I did hear this prophetically through someone else but the only thing that didnt ring true was how many children. There was much more prophesied that i No was God so well have to wait and see about the kids number.
I am very interested in these stories because people (in one case, a close relative) prophesied that I would have a husband and 4 children (2 boys, 2 girls.)

It never came to pass, and my time for having children is over. People tell me, "Remember Sarah and Abraham!" But I'm not them -- I don't have extreme wealth to help care for a family, and I'm most certainly not going to try to obtain it by trying to push the boundaries of medical science.

This is just me though -- I can't speak for anyone else.

Then people will say something like, "Well maybe you'll marry a man with 4 kids," and to me, I can't believe in "prophecies" where the target keeps moving. Besides, the original person who "confirmed" I would have them was convinced it would be by birth (which was a little off to begin with, as I had originally prayed for 2 by birth and 2 by adoption.) Not that God couldn't have worked this out of course.

I just believe that whatever I was told was wrong. And it doesn't bother me anymore, as God has set my sights on other things.

But for many years, I was very wrapped up in all this, and I worry about the people it will hurt if these things don't come true.

I hope everything comes to pass as God wills for you, and I'm looking forward to hearing about your journey. :)
 
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well i will say this dont just be patient to wait on the phrophesy keep your eyes open it may be in Gods will for you to be married maybe just not as was exactly spoken to you. I also how ever realize adoption could be another way God answers the children question but like i said anything is possible.
 
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I am very interested in these stories because people (in one case, a close relative) prophesied that I would have a husband and 4 children (2 boys, 2 girls.)

It never came to pass, and my time for having children is over. People tell me, "Remember Sarah and Abraham!" But I'm not them -- I don't have extreme wealth to help care for a family, and I'm most certainly not going to try to obtain it by trying to push the boundaries of medical science.

This is just me though -- I can't speak for anyone else.

Then people will say something like, "Well maybe you'll marry a man with 4 kids," and to me, I can't believe in "prophecies" where the target keeps moving. Besides, the original person who "confirmed" I would have them was convinced it would be by birth (which was a little off to begin with, as I had originally prayed for 2 by birth and 2 by adoption.) Not that God couldn't have worked this out of course.

I just believe that whatever I was told was wrong. And it doesn't bother me anymore, as God has set my sights on other things.

But for many years, I was very wrapped up in all this, and I worry about the people it will hurt if these things don't come true.

I hope everything comes to pass as God wills for you, and I'm looking forward to hearing about your journey. :)
Trust me when some of the things he said comes to pass i wont be able to go without sharing them.
 
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One big one God spoke about was a business that he would give me. It may give me the ability to help even websites like this one.
 

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well i will say this dont just be patient to wait on the phrophesy keep your eyes open it may be in Gods will for you to be married maybe just not as was exactly spoken to you. I also how ever realize adoption could be another way God answers the children question but like i said anything is possible.
I know it's always said that with God, anything is possible, but I think there comes a point where reality has to be considered too.

No doctor in their right mind would advise me to get pregnant at this point in my life. And even adoption would take years to go through. Is God greater than these things? Of course. Could He change them in a heartbeat? Of course.

I spent a good portion of my life envying what others had. I was also around single people who were desperate to find someone -- and I certainly understand that. But everything started to change for me when I met other single people who were out living life, doing all teh things I wanted to do, and were happy whether single or with the thought of meeting someone some day.

For me, the real life factor is that my friends and peer group have grandkids, or will probably be having them in the next few years. At this stage in life, I honestly don't want to be the one with 4 babies. I truly believe that time has passed, and the people who told me those things either misunderstood, or were wrong. And I've accepted that.

I just hate seeing other people get hurt in the same ways.

I'm very grateful for what I have in life and God enables me care for other singles, which I personally find fulfilling -- much more so at this stage than if I were starting out with a family.
 

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I wish all posts were short. It isn’t easy to read them when:

1: English is not my first language
2: I’m a dyslexic

Just saying lol.
I'm truly sorry for the lengthy posts.

I've often wondered if I have dyslexia or some kind of learning disorder along with ADHD. My brain seems to run in cycles, sometimes a bit haphazardly. But the people I know who have gone for diagnosis have been put on drug cocktails, and I don't want that.

I appreciate you participating in these threads, Susanna.

Thank you for all the work and efforts you put into being here with us! ❤️
 
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you make some valid points and you seem to have a very healthy view of the situation and in the end the best we can ask for is Gods perfect will for our life and as long as he stays the center of it we can expect no less. God Bless you sister!
 

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you make some valid points and you seem to have a very healthy view of the situation and in the end the best we can ask for is Gods perfect will for our life and as long as he stays the center of it we can expect no less. God Bless you sister!
Thank you so much.

I think one of the problems in my younger years is that I was coveting a lot. I coveted people who had someone; I coveted those who were married; I coveted those with families to go home to. And I was around other singles who had the same kind of feelings, which only made it worse. We were all wishing for things we didn't have, thinking God needed to land them on our doorstep as soon as possible.

Once I started to meet people who were happy with their own lives, whom God was using to serve plenty of others in fulfilling roles, and who genuinely enjoy what they've been given in life, it started to change me -- for the better. Most of the jealousy and bitterness melted away (but of course, there are still some things I'm working on!)

This is one of the reasons I stay here on CC. I'm hoping to inspire other people to be happy with what God has given them as well, to keep setting goals, to keep planning trips, or to at least build a community to support each other as we all walk through our trials together. :)

I know you're going through your share of challenges as well, and I find your attitude to be very inspiring. You have purpose and hope, and you pass that along to other people in your words. :)
 
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i get the inspiring comments when i go to the gym too. I see it as just another guy doing what needs to be done not taking away my uncle from introducing me to weight lifting at 16 i truely was the 109 pounder when i started and while i dont have the physique i should have i am however thankful and reap the physical rewards.
 

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I’m happy to meet so many people who have completely different perspectives than myself. Unfortunately I’m not smart enough to learn from that. Maybe I need something that could boost my intelligence?
 
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Father we ask that you give susana the ability to understand what is written on this site and if it be in your will we ask that you heal her of dslexia in Jesus name Amen.
 

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I’m happy to meet so many people who have completely different perspectives than myself. Unfortunately I’m not smart enough to learn from that. Maybe I need something that could boost my intelligence?
Being Neuro Divergent is not exactly the most pleasant position to be in.
No matter which end of divergence you exist on.

Learning in an unorganized environment is not exactly the easiest way or the quickest way.
 

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i get the inspiring comments when i go to the gym too. I see it as just another guy doing what needs to be done not taking away my uncle from introducing me to weight lifting at 16 i truely was the 109 pounder when i started and while i dont have the physique i should have i am however thankful and reap the physical rewards.
The fitness community is definitely inspiring, albeit, a little intimidating, lol! I'm in a chat where they'll post inspirational quotes and memes from those huge bodybuilders -- not really my style, but hearing the dedication the other chatters have helps keep me motivated.

We're all trying our best to make progress, no matter where we are in our journeys.

I often think things like, "Oh, what shape would I be in if I had been able to stick to working out 5 days a week!"

But, all I can do is try to make sure that I get around to it the next chance I have. :)
 

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Father we ask that you give susana the abilility to understand what is written on this site and if it be in your will we ask that you heal her of dslexia in Jesus name Amen.
Thanks. I do understand what is written (at least I believe so), but I’m more concerned about what I put down in writing myself lol.