Help..the worship leader is crushing on me.

This week, we are supposed to be going out for coffee together to "Get to know each other better" and then this friday, we are supposed to be doing a group dinner/games night together with a few friends

he was kind of flirty and sitting really close next to me on the couch
Help!

- Coffee night and dinners sounds like you're already dating.
- And if you're sitting close together and flirting, and you're having all these private, personal conversations, then you're obviously encouraging him.

I was thinking the same things (and more), but I did not want to get involved.

There's nothing wrong with her dating the worship leader, as long as both of them are single.

Anyhow, I know that asking these types of questions only gets one's head ripped off for actually trying to "help," so I and my head will just go our merry way.

We should probably both exit while we still have heads.

I think you should go talk to your pastor.

Okay, I know its a weird title for this post..but its totally true. I started singing on the worship team 3 weeks ago. We have a new worship leader in the church and I have noticed the past couple of weeks, him starting to do things like "love" my photos on facebook, and constantly complimenting me, giving shout out's to me during the livestream for things like help him feel better(i gave some simple advice to fix his shoulder) and talking on the livestream about the movie night i put together and how much he enjoyed it. Tonight he kept telling me how annointed a team we are at worship and how he loves worshipping with me and when he came to the movie night, he was kind of flirty and sitting really close next to me on the couch and he wants me to be his accountability partner because he just got out of a relationship with a women back in November and she has apparently become jealous of us doing worship together and I had just been dumped in the beginning of January, so he wants us to make a pact to not talk to our ex's now.
This week, we are supposed to be going out for coffee together to "Get to know each other better" and then this friday, we are supposed to be doing a group dinner/games night together with a few friends.

Point is.. help! Has this ever happend to anyone before? The part that makes it difficult, is that I still very much love the person that broke up with me and while I am not 100% sure, I feel like I am supposed to wait for them. That, it's over right now because they need healing from there first marriage still. But am i stupid for waiting? Am i stupid for saying "God i will wait for him until he is ready?" Am i just missing opportunities then? Thing is, this worship leader is nice..kind..friendly..funny.. but he isn't exactly the kind of guy i would personally date. Somtimes i think he is attractive and other times i do not think so at all. Its true, during worship, we definitly make a great team.. but outside of that? Also, something that concerns me, is his choice in past women in relationship. His first wife, he chose someone who could have almsot been his mother, cause she was significantly older. His first relationship after his divorce, he chose someone who is incredibly needy and jealous and needs to be saved. Somtimes i look at that and go "is there something wrong with this picture?" "Is he attracted to women he thinks need saving?" I dont know..

I guess i am freaking out and i feel guilty. It feels like its cheating on my ex to date someone else. I told him that i would wait for him because he was worth waiting for. My heart loves him. I pray for him every single night..him and his children. We didnt end on bad terms at all. The reason it ended, is because he felt like God was telling him he needed to heal some more and he shouldnt be in a romantic relationship at all. We both had felt like we were supposed to get married and do ministry together. We had dreams, visions, prophetic words about the future. .. UGH i feel crazy even keeping hope alive.

What do i do? I feel like this thing with the worship leader will just keep on growing and thing is.. there is no one else on the worship team..its just me and him and there is no other worship leader. He is it. So its like, if i dont want to do it with him, i would have to literally leave the worship team. We are pretty cautious in not being alone and we dont practice on our own..people are always around.. Sometimes it just seems..intimate? during worship? I'm worried about soul ties.

Help!

Okay, I know its a weird title for this post..but its totally true. I started singing on the worship team 3 weeks ago. We have a new worship leader in the church and I have noticed the past couple of weeks, him starting to do things like "love" my photos on facebook, and constantly complimenting me, giving shout out's to me during the livestream for things like help him feel better(i gave some simple advice to fix his shoulder) and talking on the livestream about the movie night i put together and how much he enjoyed it. Tonight he kept telling me how annointed a team we are at worship and how he loves worshipping with me and when he came to the movie night, he was kind of flirty and sitting really close next to me on the couch and he wants me to be his accountability partner because he just got out of a relationship with a women back in November and she has apparently become jealous of us doing worship together and I had just been dumped in the beginning of January, so he wants us to make a pact to not talk to our ex's now.
This week, we are supposed to be going out for coffee together to "Get to know each other better" and then this friday, we are supposed to be doing a group dinner/games night together with a few friends.

Point is.. help! Has this ever happend to anyone before? The part that makes it difficult, is that I still very much love the person that broke up with me and while I am not 100% sure, I feel like I am supposed to wait for them. That, it's over right now because they need healing from there first marriage still. But am i stupid for waiting? Am i stupid for saying "God i will wait for him until he is ready?" Am i just missing opportunities then? Thing is, this worship leader is nice..kind..friendly..funny.. but he isn't exactly the kind of guy i would personally date. Somtimes i think he is attractive and other times i do not think so at all. Its true, during worship, we definitly make a great team.. but outside of that? Also, something that concerns me, is his choice in past women in relationship. His first wife, he chose someone who could have almsot been his mother, cause she was significantly older. His first relationship after his divorce, he chose someone who is incredibly needy and jealous and needs to be saved. Somtimes i look at that and go "is there something wrong with this picture?" "Is he attracted to women he thinks need saving?" I dont know..

I guess i am freaking out and i feel guilty. It feels like its cheating on my ex to date someone else. I told him that i would wait for him because he was worth waiting for. My heart loves him. I pray for him every single night..him and his children. We didnt end on bad terms at all. The reason it ended, is because he felt like God was telling him he needed to heal some more and he shouldnt be in a romantic relationship at all. We both had felt like we were supposed to get married and do ministry together. We had dreams, visions, prophetic words about the future. .. UGH i feel crazy even keeping hope alive.

What do i do? I feel like this thing with the worship leader will just keep on growing and thing is.. there is no one else on the worship team..its just me and him and there is no other worship leader. He is it. So its like, if i dont want to do it with him, i would have to literally leave the worship team. We are pretty cautious in not being alone and we dont practice on our own..people are always around.. Sometimes it just seems..intimate? during worship? I'm worried about soul ties.

Help!

Okay, so before I put any time into pointing various things out within the post here and offer any 'help' my first question to you is this:

Are you a mother? (I think I recall you mentioning a daughter in another thread)

OKAY STOP right there.
(Assuming your answer is 'yes' and the child(ren) is/are a minor)
You don't need to be dating, flirting, or casually chatting with ANY men right now., especially a man who is also coming out of a relationship and in rebound mode.
Your child(ren) doesn't need to be watching this take place and certainly doesn't need to be dragged along with you into relationship after relationship. Adults think it's hard enough on them to end a relationship, but often fail to realize how heartbreaking it is on children getting dragged into it and forming relationships/bonds that now have to end through no fault of their own.
Sorry/not sorry if this sounds/seems harsh, but as long as there are any minor children involved parents shouldn't be rushing into any relationships.

Okay, I know its a weird title for this post..but its totally true. I started singing on the worship team 3 weeks ago. We have a new worship leader in the church and I have noticed the past couple of weeks, him starting to do things like "love" my photos on facebook, and constantly complimenting me, giving shout out's to me during the livestream for things like help him feel better(i gave some simple advice to fix his shoulder) and talking on the livestream about the movie night i put together and how much he enjoyed it. Tonight he kept telling me how annointed a team we are at worship and how he loves worshipping with me and when he came to the movie night, he was kind of flirty and sitting really close next to me on the couch and he wants me to be his accountability partner because he just got out of a relationship with a women back in November and she has apparently become jealous of us doing worship together and I had just been dumped in the beginning of January, so he wants us to make a pact to not talk to our ex's now.
This week, we are supposed to be going out for coffee together to "Get to know each other better" and then this friday, we are supposed to be doing a group dinner/games night together with a few friends.

Point is.. help! Has this ever happend to anyone before? The part that makes it difficult, is that I still very much love the person that broke up with me and while I am not 100% sure, I feel like I am supposed to wait for them. That, it's over right now because they need healing from there first marriage still. But am i stupid for waiting? Am i stupid for saying "God i will wait for him until he is ready?" Am i just missing opportunities then? Thing is, this worship leader is nice..kind..friendly..funny.. but he isn't exactly the kind of guy i would personally date. Somtimes i think he is attractive and other times i do not think so at all. Its true, during worship, we definitly make a great team.. but outside of that? Also, something that concerns me, is his choice in past women in relationship. His first wife, he chose someone who could have almsot been his mother, cause she was significantly older. His first relationship after his divorce, he chose someone who is incredibly needy and jealous and needs to be saved. Somtimes i look at that and go "is there something wrong with this picture?" "Is he attracted to women he thinks need saving?" I dont know..

I guess i am freaking out and i feel guilty. It feels like its cheating on my ex to date someone else. I told him that i would wait for him because he was worth waiting for. My heart loves him. I pray for him every single night..him and his children. We didnt end on bad terms at all. The reason it ended, is because he felt like God was telling him he needed to heal some more and he shouldnt be in a romantic relationship at all. We both had felt like we were supposed to get married and do ministry together. We had dreams, visions, prophetic words about the future. .. UGH i feel crazy even keeping hope alive.

What do i do? I feel like this thing with the worship leader will just keep on growing and thing is.. there is no one else on the worship team..its just me and him and there is no other worship leader. He is it. So its like, if i dont want to do it with him, i would have to literally leave the worship team. We are pretty cautious in not being alone and we dont practice on our own..people are always around.. Sometimes it just seems..intimate? during worship? I'm worried about soul ties.

Help!

- Coffee night and dinners sounds like you're already dating.
- And if you're sitting close together and flirting, and you're having all these private, personal conversations, then you're obviously encouraging him.


So you're encouraging a man, and dating him, and now you're confused because of someone else you're NOT dating, and asking advice here from people who don't actually know either of you?

I think you should go talk to your pastor.
I think that will sort things out.

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Personally, I cannot say that at this time. In other words, all three people involved here (her, her ex, and the worship leader) have been married and divorced before. Are there biblical qualifications for divorce and remarriage? There are, even though multitudes of people live as if there are not. Have they been met in all three of these people? In two of these people? In one of these people?

Anyhow, I know that asking these types of questions only gets one's head ripped off for actually trying to "help," so I and my head will just go our merry way.

ROFL.

I didn't realize everyone involved was divorced.
At any rate, talking to her own pastor is still, I think, the best course of action, especially if the situation is murky or confusing.

We should probably both exit while we still have heads.

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ROFL.

I didn't realize everyone involved was divorced.
At any rate, talking to her own pastor is still, I think, the best course of action, especially if the situation is murky or confusing.

We should probably both exit while we still have heads.

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Okay, I know its a weird title for this post..but its totally true. I started singing on the worship team 3 weeks ago. We have a new worship leader in the church and I have noticed the past couple of weeks, him starting to do things like "love" my photos on facebook, and constantly complimenting me, giving shout out's to me during the livestream for things like help him feel better(i gave some simple advice to fix his shoulder) and talking on the livestream about the movie night i put together and how much he enjoyed it. Tonight he kept telling me how annointed a team we are at worship and how he loves worshipping with me and when he came to the movie night, he was kind of flirty and sitting really close next to me on the couch and he wants me to be his accountability partner because he just got out of a relationship with a women back in November and she has apparently become jealous of us doing worship together and I had just been dumped in the beginning of January, so he wants us to make a pact to not talk to our ex's now.
This week, we are supposed to be going out for coffee together to "Get to know each other better" and then this friday, we are supposed to be doing a group dinner/games night together with a few friends.

Point is.. help! Has this ever happend to anyone before? The part that makes it difficult, is that I still very much love the person that broke up with me and while I am not 100% sure, I feel like I am supposed to wait for them. That, it's over right now because they need healing from there first marriage still. But am i stupid for waiting? Am i stupid for saying "God i will wait for him until he is ready?" Am i just missing opportunities then? Thing is, this worship leader is nice..kind..friendly..funny.. but he isn't exactly the kind of guy i would personally date. Somtimes i think he is attractive and other times i do not think so at all. Its true, during worship, we definitly make a great team.. but outside of that? Also, something that concerns me, is his choice in past women in relationship. His first wife, he chose someone who could have almsot been his mother, cause she was significantly older. His first relationship after his divorce, he chose someone who is incredibly needy and jealous and needs to be saved. Somtimes i look at that and go "is there something wrong with this picture?" "Is he attracted to women he thinks need saving?" I dont know..

I guess i am freaking out and i feel guilty. It feels like its cheating on my ex to date someone else. I told him that i would wait for him because he was worth waiting for. My heart loves him. I pray for him every single night..him and his children. We didnt end on bad terms at all. The reason it ended, is because he felt like God was telling him he needed to heal some more and he shouldnt be in a romantic relationship at all. We both had felt like we were supposed to get married and do ministry together. We had dreams, visions, prophetic words about the future. .. UGH i feel crazy even keeping hope alive.

What do i do? I feel like this thing with the worship leader will just keep on growing and thing is.. there is no one else on the worship team..its just me and him and there is no other worship leader. He is it. So its like, if i dont want to do it with him, i would have to literally leave the worship team. We are pretty cautious in not being alone and we dont practice on our own..people are always around.. Sometimes it just seems..intimate? during worship? I'm worried about soul ties.

Help!

Worship leader IS NOT divorced. He is separated only.

I am asking for HELP because the worship leader is flirting and demonstrating interest in me and I dont know what to do about it.

I think you should go talk to your pastor.

if she's feeling confused, she should talk to her pastor, who actually knows both of them.
That's the proper way to get effective counsel.

talking to her own pastor is still, I think, the best course of action